Help girls in top schools cope with life’s challenges

[elimmel]

only girls need help?
only top schools?
students in not so top schools also face peer stress, networking challenges. maybe not so high ses level la...

 

[hachi]

only girls need help?
only top schools?
students in not so top schools also face peer stress, networking challenges. maybe not so high ses level la...

Their bullying are different for good schools.. Better schools are at another level that will cause stress and mental health

 

[misterGomez]

why never help guys? always help girls etc

 

[Newtype_com]

Cat fight!

Meow meow meow!!!

 

[shirleytham91]

Forum: Help girls in top schools cope with life’s challenges​

I thought my own family’s experience was an isolated one until I read the article (New NIE study to examine well-being and behaviour of girls in top secondary schools, June 10). According to the article, the study was sparked by research findings in the US, which showed that youth in high-achieving schools showed clinically significant anxiety and depression about six to seven times higher than national norms.

My daughter was a student in a top girls’ school until two years ago. Her four years in this school were possibly the darkest period in her life.

Once a smiling and bubbly young girl, she became a shadow of herself, wracked with anxiety, self-doubt, and occasional crying episodes. She often questioned why she had chosen this school, and said she never felt she belonged.

She told me that many girls in her school go there to “network” – it’s not about making friends or enjoying each other’s company, but to make connections with girls of a certain background. Isn’t school meant to be for learning and making life-long friends?

My daughter also noticed cuts on a former classmate’s thighs. Not knowing what to do with the knowledge, she kept this to herself for two weeks before confiding in me.

I hope the findings from the new NIE study will be able to help students who are going through these issues.

As parents, we also need to teach our children skills that will help them face life’s challenges. We should also let our children know that they can turn to their parents or a responsible adult, who can help them work through their problems.

Vivien Goh Choon Lian


https://www.straitstimes.com/opinio...rls-in-top-schools-cope-with-lifes-challenges

Wah, after reading the letter “Help girls in top schools cope with life’s challenges”, I really feel the pain, sia. I thought only my child kena like that, but now I see, a lot of other students also same-same.

 

[AuraKUPO]

Girls school. That's the problem. Time to introduce boys

 

[NintendoSwitch]

Forum: Help girls in top schools cope with life’s challenges​

I thought my own family’s experience was an isolated one until I read the article (New NIE study to examine well-being and behaviour of girls in top secondary schools, June 10). According to the article, the study was sparked by research findings in the US, which showed that youth in high-achieving schools showed clinically significant anxiety and depression about six to seven times higher than national norms.

My daughter was a student in a top girls’ school until two years ago. Her four years in this school were possibly the darkest period in her life.

Once a smiling and bubbly young girl, she became a shadow of herself, wracked with anxiety, self-doubt, and occasional crying episodes. She often questioned why she had chosen this school, and said she never felt she belonged.

She told me that many girls in her school go there to “network” – it’s not about making friends or enjoying each other’s company, but to make connections with girls of a certain background. Isn’t school meant to be for learning and making life-long friends?

My daughter also noticed cuts on a former classmate’s thighs. Not knowing what to do with the knowledge, she kept this to herself for two weeks before confiding in me.

I hope the findings from the new NIE study will be able to help students who are going through these issues.

As parents, we also need to teach our children skills that will help them face life’s challenges. We should also let our children know that they can turn to their parents or a responsible adult, who can help them work through their problems.

Vivien Goh Choon Lian


https://www.straitstimes.com/opinio...rls-in-top-schools-cope-with-lifes-challenges

Dis Vivien first day in Ba Sing Se? All the while locally born shitizens noe dat top schools r onlie meant for networking wat. Make it true n got iron lice bowl at the end. Nid jod juz phonecall to any classmate and got it liao. Almost as good as being a talent.

 

[PikaPika33]

sign them up for the free 2 years life course

tiagong it helps build character, and make you turn from teen to adult.

everyone have good review on it.

 

[elimmel]

Their bullying are different for good schools.. Better schools are at another level that will cause stress and mental health

point is all students face such stress and help should be given across the board, not just girls or top schools.
the schools already have counsellors so maybe more collaboration with parents? or these parents feel it's the school's responsibility only?

 

[LoaGong12]

the surprising thing is the parent doesnt know that the purpose of so called 'top school' is simply networking

not surprising to me. most sinkies understand little abt life in general

 

[Scarlet Tea]

the surprising thing is the parent doesnt know that the purpose of so called 'top school' is simply networking

What’s the networking abt? Just some social network for rich tai tai mothers to sit down drink high tea and talk abt whose kids perform better?

 

[hachi]

point is all students face such stress and help should be given across the board, not just girls or top schools.
the schools already have counsellors so maybe more collaboration with parents? or these parents feel it's the school's responsibility only?

Not sure... But I know of parents called police just because of small issue like daughter wanted an English name for herself... The wicked comments from her peers are at another level...

The print screen her parents showed, the language, vocab and sentence structures used are I think on newspaper reporter level at sec 2.

But they choose to use it on peers..

 

[CaptchaCheebeh]

Gender equality in Singapore= help girls don’t hhelp boys

thank you AWARE

65% men voted for this crap

 

[hachi]

What’s the networking abt? Just some social network for rich tai tai mothers to sit down drink high tea and talk abt whose kids perform better?

The PSG of a certain boys schools are all ladies... Really tai tai level...

 

[Money no have]

the surprising thing is the parent doesnt know that the purpose of so called 'top school' is simply networking

Exactly lor.
In fact it is just common sense top sch is just for networking

 

[Song Bro]

Another case of having the cake and eat it too.
On to next news >

 

[think_too_much]

Why only help girls?

Why no help boys too?

You need to read this article https://www.straitstimes.com/singap...-being-and-behaviour-in-top-secondary-schools

Teenage girls are more likely to develop self esteem issues as compared to boys.

Being in a class with lots of girls during my sec 3 and 4 years, I kinda agree with that. Saw lots of drama among those girls while we 7 guys simply chill and do our stuff like to TCSS and play ball.

 

[エステ好きな野郎]

You need to read this article https://www.straitstimes.com/singap...-being-and-behaviour-in-top-secondary-schools

Teenage girls are more likely to develop self esteem issues as compared to boys.

Being in a class with lots of girls during my sec 3 and 4 years, I kinda agree with that. Saw lots of drama among those girls while we 7 guys simply chill and do our stuff like to TCSS and play ball.

more likely doesn't mean boys won't develop too loh. just sayin'

 

[English Teacher]

Why only help girls?

Why no help boys too?

boys got advantage from birth vs girls.
need to level the playing field

boys got priviledge to serve NS and enjoy higher starting pay vs girls

 

[English Teacher]

I think these type of gender discriminatory studies need to be defunded.
The studies need to do both boys-only schools and girls-only schools, not focus on just girls.

Anyway, this parent here, is like humble-bragging.

boys got advantage from birth vs girls.
need to level the playing field

boys got priviledge to serve NS and enjoy higher starting pay vs girls