I dislike this young man that my daughter seems to fancy (at last night's Xmas party)

[Ronaldo88]

there is no perfect guy..will nvr knw what's ur gal future..she may not listen to u..

 

[Ahemahem]

life experiences

Please give me another chance!

 

[GarnetDragon]

 

[Lor Bin Hoot]

Before we go off to JP for Xmas and Oshogatsu, my daughter held a mini party at home last evening.

There was this young guy that my daughter seemed happy to chat, joke. I had observed she was always smiling at his humour.

I found out a few things:

1) He rented a car and volunteered to "ferry" a couple of friends to our place. Granted we are in a not so accessible area, he could have shared a Grab ride. I think he is showing off.

2) He darted around our place as if familiar with the setting. It is his first visit. He settled himself, without consideration of himself being merely a visitor, a guest. Acted as if he is the host. No big no small. I have no clue for how long he has met my daughter.

3) At 4 years older than my daughter (21), he completed his NS, Poly, and did a few businesses, as he claimed (or odd jobs as I sensed). I was not a good student, but his 18 points for O level amazed me. He told me he is a startup entrepreneur/marketing consultant. He talks a lot of topics, but shallow in discourse.

4) The family and social gaps are too wide. I grew up in a rental flat. My parents worked hard, upgraded themselves, progressed through the years. My parents were frugal, no gambling, drinking, smoking. This young man has stayed in the same housing estate, same flat since young. I wondered why the lack of upward social and financial mobility. Was there any attempts at hard work, goal-getting, or enjoyed life in the moment? Does he not have a mentor? Role model?

5) He is a damn good, sweet talker. The type that will give way to my daughter momentarily, make her happy, cheerful. Couldn't he employ his EQ for making $$$$, instead of in social conversation?

My hunch tells me this guy is not gonna to achieve much, and there will be no good outcome for my daughter. There is no compatibility. A 3rd rated poly and odd jober versus an Oxford alumnus.

I'm writing this to let out air and to see if any experienced fathers have good advice.

My wife and I will chat with her in JP. I will not leave her alone, with this chap.

I have read too many Edmwer posts and also heard from classmates about non-working husbands, lying flat at home, leeching on the wife. Such a menace, pest.

I didn't pass my O level. My wife has a decent degree
But after married she quits her job to take care of the baby
I alone work from the lowest Factory boy until today one of the higher management guy
Life was tough at the beginning but everything's turn better as time goes by
I also sweet talk my wife when we were young and i also like to show off too
The only thing different is I fully respect her parents to this day. Never no big no small

 

[The_Davis]

18 pages of discussion over vivid imagination

I'm impressed, keep it up yo but I will be honest and confess I only read first and last post by ts

Can fight with @sinkie886 ?

need @Min Min to investigate?

 

[rider83]

TS just need to know one thing: Is the daughter’s boyfriend’s dad rich or not?

 

[Lor Bin Hoot]

TS just need to know one thing: Is the daughter’s boyfriend’s dad rich or not?

From how the Girl father wrote. I think the girl father are rich lol

 

[KcSpider]

She assured she had no desire to maintain any relationship after Christmas, and will block the WhatsApp and line contact of the boy.

I guess my daughter had grown up. I assumed what she explained to be true. I had probably over-reacted as I was protective. I was glad I got this matter off my chest.

I wish to thank a few edmwer fathers for their advice. I will also take up the advice to meet up with a family coach.

Maybe just go and meet the family counselor/coach anyway.

This may still turn into Romeo and Juliet situation. Forbidden fruit tastes good. Parents' disapproval may be just the trigger that can lead to dotter thinking about this guy.

The family counselor may give TS more insight into chewren's thoughts and motivations.

TS dont think too much. Just let nature takes place.
It might turn out he will really be a great person next time OR your daughter will find real love, not this guy.

I agree, I think the dotter probably smart enough to figure out who ish or ish not good for her.

 

[pushtopen]

Can fight with
@sinkie886
?
need
@Min Min
to investigate?

I dunno

but if really as well off as imagined there will kakia doing the leg work and investigation instead of himself

if he has a us team to feed into his imagined system then he should have a private investigator on retainer too instead coming here to jjww with you all

the real rich with **** you money have hordes of people doing mundane and misc stuff like these to maximise their roi instead coming to edmw to jjww with bbfa, taxi lou and coffeeshop uncles