I have a toxic wife, what should I do?

[Azalea]

It's tough if her character is like that... Even after this issue is over.. it will come back again... Best is to have a submissive wife..

 

[Matjes]

Not true lah... so many Edmwers kanna pwned by ATB wife.

I didn't. My 2nd marriage with a PRC worked out very well.

 

[Acetone]

How old is he?

He is too young to understand. We shouldn't have fought infront of him too

 

[Matjes]

It's tough if her character is like that... Even after this issue is over.. it will come back again... Best is to have a submissive wife..

WRONG! BEST IS TO HAVE A WIFE WHO RESPECTS YOU AS MUCH AS SHE EXPECTS HERSELF TO BE RESPECTED.

 

[articland05]

I didn't. My 2nd marriage with a PRC worked out very well.

give ur marriage another 10yrs see how. dun say too early
one will not realise they are screwed until they are screwed.

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[Ethan_]

Expectations - usually a good part of the problem.

Don't manage it properly, it's gonna bite. Not only for women, but men as well.

It's quite an issue in our SG society actually. Of coz it's good to strive for good things in life, but there also need to be management and be realistic about some things when things do not go as planned. Sometimes it's beyond one's control as well, eg luck.

Not expert but think there may often be no good way about it dealing with such except head on clash. For many nowadays grow up to be too selfish and self-centered, where almost everything is about 'me, me, me' to them.

Thus they often have little consideration for others or tend not consider others feeling much when they do things. Often thinking about themselves first and not others also. Worse when they carry such over to the family when married, never bother to change much.

End up the relationship often can be quite testing, often can have conflicts when they go about their ways, as the family often give-in give-way to them, often feel neglected or left out, if not hurt in alot of things, when they just do what they do without thinking much about how it would affect the family.

Thus think its quite important to have a partner who is not too selfish and/or self centered in their own world. Think can often look out for the 'me, me, me' signs in the way they speak and do things. If not, think it can be much tougher living with them, especially when there is a limit to how much one can give in.

 

[Vezelover]

Happy wife happy life. TS should apologize to wife, and do things to please her, such as massaging her feet, and please her in bed. Be submissive to your wife.

 

[Knightoftheblackrose]

 

[straweffigy]

Now I realised my unhappiness and depression that I suffered all these years is because of her, not discounting the fact that we do have happy time together.

I am thinking of having a divorce now as I really don't want to live the rest of my life like this. Life is short and I am 37 now, i want to be happy and continue to improve myself. But my main consideration is my son, i want him to grow up in a happy family. I am really in a dilemma now.

What should I do? I may not get serious advice from EDMW, but I don't know who can i talk to. I don't have much friend and I don't want to let my family know.

Quite possibly:

1. No more love
2. She is interested in someone else
3. Early menopause

There's very little chance of you being able to improve her mental and emotion state to salvage your r/s.. because she has been conditioned over the years (herself or unknowingly by you), with problems swept under the carpet. What you have today didn't happen overnight, it slowly accumulated over the years then now you have this.

 

[EmPtYsOuLz]

This kind of case
Sudden or gradual build up of discontentment
High chance got 3rd party involved and chance of reconciliation is pretty low

How long have you known your wife inclusive of dating?

I'll suggest you quickly find a good divorce lawyer so you don't get squeezed too much from the womens' charter

Start putting together all the data on your contributions to the household, financially and others (amount of time you spend on your son, family time etc) to build your case for custody

 

[chekchek]

U need to think what actually happen before the problem. Have clear the air talk

 

[vambrace]

TS mentioned about her wife's mood changes "recently", but says his unhappiness and depression that he suffered "all these years" is because her?

What is the underlying issue that TS is not sharing here?

 

[jack-320]

Why divorce when things are going a bit bad for now

Meanwhile many BBFAs no girlfriend because no girl appear in their life aka fate it is a very sad thing

Must treasure such fate

Was she like that when you first met her and chased her







Anyways please don’t suka suka divorce

Have a good talk with your wifu

 

[Matjes]

give ur marriage another 10yrs see how. dun say too early
one will not realise they are screwed until they are screwed.

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Then it's a very long wait.

You are plain daft. If it is meant to go wrong it will go wrong at any point in the marriage.
You don't need to wait for another 10 years. My marriage with a prc is good. She had plenty of opportunities to leave me for better which she didn't.

My ex wife who is a local struck every opportunity and even went to the extent of creating opportunities to leave me for anyone she thinks is better.

The key is whether the woman knows how to keep her legs closed.

 

[hatredhollow]

Yolo just divorce

Man prime year is 40yr old!

 

[natsuoto]

Rather live alone than with someone so toxic

 

[jack-320]

I hope won’t troll and say just kidding it is a joke

Hope yours will be solved in a good way

 

[Crouching Dragon 諸葛亮]

It's her girlfriend that I also know.

It's true! I was the bed

 

[articland05]

Then it's a very long wait.

You are plain daft. If it is meant to go wrong it will go wrong at any point in the marriage.
You don't need to wait for another 10 years. My marriage with a prc is good. She had plenty of opportunities to leave me for better which she didn't.

My ex wife who is a local struck every opportunity and even went to the extent of creating opportunities to leave me for anyone she thinks is better.

The key is whether the woman knows how to keep her legs closed.

hope u have a lasting marriage as you said

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[ronnieseah]

you cant be sure unless you can read her whatsapps message.
try to clone her whatsapps account into your phone