I lost my partner to her career

[hyocca]

Yah I also think from VN

 

[Nevereatrice]

For any rs to grow, it must be 2-directional . Give and take.
In your case, unfortunately it’s you giving and giving only.

Don’t waste your time anymore on this kind of woman. Totally not worth it at all!
There are many more better woman out there.

yes lotsa women. but ts pocket can tahan?

 

[*Sisyphus*]

U no suspect she got another man outside? Maybe boss?

 

[*Sisyphus*]

Wanna know how to make her want u again? Just hire the chioest ger u can find and let her see both of u lovey dovey.

She will definitely want you back. Or rather, u will get a vicious, angry and jealous reaction out of her

If vietbu ..might lose head..up or down one...

 

[*Sisyphus*]

She "chged" after getting PR?

 

[*Sisyphus*]

Can share how she moved from mall receptionist to manager? Many bbfa driving phv would like to know

She got "GOOD" boss.

 

[*Sisyphus*]

I think TS also know he got green hat and made use of. By divorcing means he had to accept those facts and some more be WC'ed so he cannot face it.

 

[jeffrey745]

I got this thought as well,and she probably know how to "butter" the high up in order to climb from just a mere receptionist to a business development manager

She probably "buttered" TS up to marry him, get PR and advance in her career

 

[kimsix]

people are mean and scary, i dont know what they thinking, bbfa is the best here.

wtf pap is too capitalism and exploitation of human resources

TS sorry, cut loss, divorce and prepare backside for WC. pray the judge is nicer guy

 

[HoJiakBo]

Which nationality?

 

[fire]

Have you visited her family?
Have you found out what pressure she has back in her country?

From what you mentioned and if you haven't done the above, there's possiblity that she has another "family" in her country

 

[forests_gump]

stepping stone for foreigner to get citizenship.

TS is not the first and will not be the last.

BBFA still de best.

Even S'pore miw also hiam sinkieman....and 65% approves.

Move-on Bro, disappear for awhile find a new place to start afresh ~ then see how she react, maybe she will change for better, if not she may have some affairs ~ then get a PI to pwn her, walk away with divorce with proofs on your hand.

 

[Synchron]

Sorry brother, the society has changed her into another person.

The fact that you chip in money to help her financially as a husband and yet she still is being unappreciative of what you did for her, even bought gifts to try to make her happy but still getting cold shoulder, I think you should think hard on whether to move on with this marriage.

Could be her comparing you to her peers partner and think that you didn't do enough. If thats the case, nothing will satisfy her. The only victim is you.

Until she gets retrenched then she will wake up after taking a break.

I know of a senior in his 60s who told me similar story to you. His only regret is to hang on to the pointless relationship until he is in his 50s.

I hope you don't have children or the alimony is going to be tough.

Oh yes, do also find the loans to her as an evidence of you trying to be a good husband. The judge will need that.

 

[PaprikaSG]

She had made it her won and dun need you as stepping stone anymore.

 

[huphoe]

too bad , i think is you lose to your ownself -
divorce , let her go and set yourself free before things get worse

 

[jack-320]

Looks like TS case is a gone case

Sorry man

Sometimes

When a relationship is broken

It cannot be fixed, it is finished

Seems like there was red flag before marriage but was not detected, or just that she covered it up perfectly during the period when become bg/gf until marriage

Someone who chooses you may not mean she is compatible

 

[mikhail_k]

for a guy, unless you have kids together and you shoulder most of the domestic responsibilities, you not much value add to a corporate girl if you are way behind her

hate to break it to you but its over, she will only get more n more pekcek with u. this isnt a sg girl or ft girl thing, its just a girl thing

 

[fanflo_08]

(I apologize if this is the wrong thread to post, friends suggested that I try sharing it on a forum)

I’ve been married to a foreigner for about four years now. As of 2025, I'm in my mid 30's and she's 30.

We met back in 2018 on a dating app. She was working as a mall receptionist at the time and had just moved here. As time passed, she explored new industries and eventually climbed the ladder to become a Business Development Manager. She’s earning far more than I do through commissions and her relentless work ethic.

We had a unique relationship from the start, with no plans for children and dreams of traveling and growing old together. Despite cultural differences, we always managed to talk things out. But over time, I watched her change from a kind, loving woman into someone more cold and distant, someone driven solely by goals and pressure. Her financial responsibilities grew, especially supporting her family back in her country and managing her property investments.

Since around 2021, she’s been glued to her phone, always working, texting, or catching up with people back home. There was a moment I unintentionally interrupted her during one of these times and was harshly yelled at. From then on, I stayed silent whenever she was on her phone. A piece of me gave up that day. It's not like those pre-married days where she locked the phone, smiled and hear me out.

By 2024, things got worse. I kept asking myself if it's something wrong that I've done. I was dealing with her frequent mood swings, shouting over minor misunderstandings, and even broken furnitures from arguments over cultural differences. I was constantly apologizing to keep the peace, even when I wasn’t in the wrong. I didn’t want more conflict. I just wanted to move on from the topic, let things calm down and just not argue anymore.

Now in 2025, as she is dealing with more burdens than ever, including job transitions, financial pressure, and family issues back home. I'm starting to see a different side of her. There was even an incident she said "if you're looking for that girl you dated, sorry I'm not the same person anymore!"

She recently flew back to her country for a month, and I was away too. When I returned, I brought her gifts, hoping to she'll open them up in excitement upon my return. But sadly, she placed them aside with gratitude and said she's too busy to open them. After a couple of reminders throughout the month, she texted me, saying "Please stop asking me to open the gifts, otherwise I’ll just throw them all away." That broke me. I mentally checked out that day and stopped expecting anything more from this marriage.

What’s stopping me from filing for divorce? It’s complicated. We’re financially entangled with shared housing, money I’ve lent her, and she’s still trying to settle her own situation back home while adjusting to a new job. Leaving now feels like I’d be abandoning her at her lowest, even though I’m the one barely holding on.

Friends who heard my story even joked that I should just find a mistress to become my sanctuary, since my wife has become a responsibility.

Just wanted to share and know that I’m not alone. If you’ve been through something like this or are going through it now, I’d appreciate hearing how you cope. How do you stay strong in a marriage that feels one-sided?

Thanks in advance!

got at least listen to her problems, sit down and talk or not?
people grow, expectations change, don't expect others to be stay put in the same position 10 years ago.

 

[fanflo_08]

You mentioned many times she is struggling with own pressures and issues at home and yet, never once heard you said you chipped in to help her or at least lend a listening ears... Instead you just use your own ways like small gifts to try cheer her up? I wonder why? I thought we move on and away from small gifts a while after marriage? I agreed with others you sounded needy and you fail to help her solve her issues? And you are only talking about yourself yourself yourself? What happened to "we"?

Oh. Using a new account instead of the usual one?

exactly!

 

[stanlawj]

We had a unique relationship from the start, with no plans for children and dreams of traveling and growing old together.

You got conned.