I was a BBFA with no matches in dating app, until I decide to overhaul my appearance

[SuperClubby]

Suddenlyfeelsleepy and Vezelover come in prease

 

[glarerder]

tinder has height filters now

Still waiting for weight filters

 

[Duapui-ti]

Grow a mustache?
Also consider hair?

Other lower part of the body can

 

[IAmChiobu12M]

The story I'm about to say, is 1000% true story or else I die a horrible death.

Background of me - Just recently hit 30. Used to be a 175cm, 85kg slightly overweight guy swiping dating apps hoping to find someone. But no matches at all, within 6-month period I can count with just one hand how many matches I got. And even from those matches, within a while will just ghost me even though I really did put in effort to have a conversation. Ultimately, no dates wanna go out with me in that 6 months period.

Just totally no quality matches at all. Even those non-lookers that matched me don't reply back.

Then I decide to overhaul my appearance.

Went to lose weight. Dropped all the way from 85kg to around 68-69kg.
Train a bit of arms. But of course not as bulky as those fitzai gymbros.
Drop my glasses and went for contact lenses. But ultimately went for lasik.
Went and gotten a Korean-style haircut, and learning how to style my hair.
Went for braces and now rocking straight teeth. Also did a bit of teeth whitening.
Learning to dress better than t-shirt and jeans. Think denim jackets, flannel outerwear, long sleeve shirts etc
And also looking for specific clothings that fit nicely to my body shape (this is sneakily important)


Suddenly I have much much more matches than I could ever imagine, even though I swipe like only 10%-20% of the time. Every other day I can get matches from dating apps.

At my peak I'm talking to like 7+ girls concurrently from dating apps. And from there I managed to ask out various girls to go on dates.

And have been going out on dates almost on a weekly basis. Like 1-2 new girls every week / every other week. And mind you, in my opinion some of the girls I met are pretty cute (I don't go out with whatever girls I can match with).

My most extreme was meeting 4 different girls in a week. One on weekday dinner, another 2 on Saturday lunch and dinner respectively, and one more on Sunday dinner.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to show off that I am able to go on tremendous amount of dates.

But what I want you all to know is, girls are just like guys and they are also superficial. Things girls say like "inner beauty is the most important", that's a huge pile of bollocks if you ask me. End of the day, appearance attracts and if you're not attractive physically, they don't even want to bother with knowing you on a deeper level / let you show off your inner beauty.

Maybe its the dating app thing - first thing apps show you is the pictures. And people are quick to just form their interest in you through your appearance.

But ya this is my story.
And moral of the story? Be a looker if you want to use dating apps, or expect no matches. No matter how much inner beauty you have.

Wrong. You flash your cash n car n condo. Bui bui also become Andy Lau 20/10

 

[Kuudere]

Wrong. You flash your cash n car n condo. Bui bui also become Andy Lau 20/10

Just be superman, do whatever he say, become fitzai dress up and be rich, own house.

 

[Bzzbzz]

The story I'm about to say, is 1000% true story or else I die a horrible death.

Background of me - Just recently hit 30. Used to be a 175cm, 85kg slightly overweight guy swiping dating apps hoping to find someone. But no matches at all, within 6-month period I can count with just one hand how many matches I got. And even from those matches, within a while will just ghost me even though I really did put in effort to have a conversation. Ultimately, no dates wanna go out with me in that 6 months period.

Just totally no quality matches at all. Even those non-lookers that matched me don't reply back.

Then I decide to overhaul my appearance.

Went to lose weight. Dropped all the way from 85kg to around 68-69kg.
Train a bit of arms. But of course not as bulky as those fitzai gymbros.
Drop my glasses and went for contact lenses. But ultimately went for lasik.
Went and gotten a Korean-style haircut, and learning how to style my hair.
Went for braces and now rocking straight teeth. Also did a bit of teeth whitening.
Learning to dress better than t-shirt and jeans. Think denim jackets, flannel outerwear, long sleeve shirts etc
And also looking for specific clothings that fit nicely to my body shape (this is sneakily important)


Suddenly I have much much more matches than I could ever imagine, even though I swipe like only 10%-20% of the time. Every other day I can get matches from dating apps.

At my peak I'm talking to like 7+ girls concurrently from dating apps. And from there I managed to ask out various girls to go on dates.

And have been going out on dates almost on a weekly basis. Like 1-2 new girls every week / every other week. And mind you, in my opinion some of the girls I met are pretty cute (I don't go out with whatever girls I can match with).

My most extreme was meeting 4 different girls in a week. One on weekday dinner, another 2 on Saturday lunch and dinner respectively, and one more on Sunday dinner.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to show off that I am able to go on tremendous amount of dates.

But what I want you all to know is, girls are just like guys and they are also superficial. Things girls say like "inner beauty is the most important", that's a huge pile of bollocks if you ask me. End of the day, appearance attracts and if you're not attractive physically, they don't even want to bother with knowing you on a deeper level / let you show off your inner beauty.

Maybe its the dating app thing - first thing apps show you is the pictures. And people are quick to just form their interest in you through your appearance.

But ya this is my story.
And moral of the story? Be a looker if you want to use dating apps, or expect no matches. No matter how much inner beauty you have.

Well done! Congrats!!

 

[SK Telecom T1]

Just be superman, do whatever he say, become fitzai dress up and be rich, own house.

Means need wear underwear outside to be attractive?

 

[Southern Lights]

The story I'm about to say, is 1000% true story or else I die a horrible death.

Background of me - Just recently hit 30. Used to be a 175cm, 85kg slightly overweight guy swiping dating apps hoping to find someone. But no matches at all, within 6-month period I can count with just one hand how many matches I got. And even from those matches, within a while will just ghost me even though I really did put in effort to have a conversation. Ultimately, no dates wanna go out with me in that 6 months period.

Just totally no quality matches at all. Even those non-lookers that matched me don't reply back.

Then I decide to overhaul my appearance.

Went to lose weight. Dropped all the way from 85kg to around 68-69kg.
Train a bit of arms. But of course not as bulky as those fitzai gymbros.
Drop my glasses and went for contact lenses. But ultimately went for lasik.
Went and gotten a Korean-style haircut, and learning how to style my hair.
Went for braces and now rocking straight teeth. Also did a bit of teeth whitening.
Learning to dress better than t-shirt and jeans. Think denim jackets, flannel outerwear, long sleeve shirts etc
And also looking for specific clothings that fit nicely to my body shape (this is sneakily important)


Suddenly I have much much more matches than I could ever imagine, even though I swipe like only 10%-20% of the time. Every other day I can get matches from dating apps.

At my peak I'm talking to like 7+ girls concurrently from dating apps. And from there I managed to ask out various girls to go on dates.

And have been going out on dates almost on a weekly basis. Like 1-2 new girls every week / every other week. And mind you, in my opinion some of the girls I met are pretty cute (I don't go out with whatever girls I can match with).

My most extreme was meeting 4 different girls in a week. One on weekday dinner, another 2 on Saturday lunch and dinner respectively, and one more on Sunday dinner.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to show off that I am able to go on tremendous amount of dates.

But what I want you all to know is, girls are just like guys and they are also superficial. Things girls say like "inner beauty is the most important", that's a huge pile of bollocks if you ask me. End of the day, appearance attracts and if you're not attractive physically, they don't even want to bother with knowing you on a deeper level / let you show off your inner beauty.

Maybe its the dating app thing - first thing apps show you is the pictures. And people are quick to just form their interest in you through your appearance.

But ya this is my story.
And moral of the story? Be a looker if you want to use dating apps, or expect no matches. No matter how much inner beauty you have.

You improve your outlook, but your software still behave like a cheapo Sinkie male, also will end up unsuccessful with the girls eventually.

 

[mantis83]

Looks hardly matter. When the passion and feeling fades, the lady is not going to look at you and think, wow this guy is handsome thus I should forgive him (during an argument).

 

[jack-320]

Appearance is more important then being compatible

the priorities have changed in this day and age

after all, people do not like rejections but can tolerate wrong partner, the magic word is “为了家/孩子” and the marriage can last till the end of time

better get stuck in unhappy relationship/marriage that you cannot get out then to get rejected and everything is over, I believe everyone do agree with me with is, since people are afraid of perishing in this earth and have a horrible death, than being with wrong partner

Rejection is a moment, but unhappy marriage lasts a lifetime