Need help getting over my ex

[popsiclelychee]

For context:
We had been together for a year and 6 months, then broke up 9 months ago. she initiated the break through a text message while I was outfield (I told her I was going to be outfield), only saw the message after I came back. Apparently she got together with the guy she told me not to worry about and is just a friend, a few days before our breakup. (I found out thru a mutual friend who sent me a screenshot of her Instagram story with him)

Back then, I had support from my friends who comforted and encouraged me, and I kept myself busy (I tried to) and I didn't think of her on those days. I wanted to feel okay and that life has more to offer, and genuinely tried to gaslight myself into thinking that it's just part and parcel of life (when I had planned 10,20 years ahead of my life with her and had spent a lot of money buying gifts and meals thinking that she was the one, even risk booking in late multiple times just to spend one more minute together with her)

Fast forward to today, since my "occupation" hasn't changed, every time I pass by the places which I travel to my camp, I can't help but to think about those times I had with her. Both by MRT and by Bus. Basically my whole life routine is still the same as when I was with her.

I thought that time would heal but since it's been 9 months, I thought it was time to seek help. Ive tried to not victimize myself since that wasn't gonna do any good for me, but I ended up lingering on her way longer than I thought I would

Thanks for reading this far appreciate any advice from fellow netizens...

 

[westernbarn]

You sounded young? Still serving NS?

 

[Kwein]

1 year 6 months only can heal fast

Uncle me 6 years and 8 years RS also bye bye
in the end 1 year rs the right one married for 8 years now with 1 kiddo

 

[Spike]

Joined yesterday to share this story?

 

[mahcosg]

Pick up other hobbies and go on to know new people. You will forget in no time.

 

[Mephist0pheLes]

How long more til ORD?

Once u go uni liao then u won't rmb her liao lah

 

[Kwein]

Joined yesterday to share this story?

TS posted on reddit also

need more TLC ba

 

[articland05]

what's there to advise?
just close the chapter and move on...

what u want others to advice you? get revenge with ur gf or go whack the other guy?

 

[bruiser69]

One road good walk TS

 

[RyanJ]

Acceptance of the situation that it is over.

Fill your time with learning new skills or retake up hobbies , meet more folks, good diet, take care of yourself.

 

[fandango]

For context:
We had been together for a year and 6 months, then broke up 9 months ago. she initiated the break through a text message while I was outfield (I told her I was going to be outfield), only saw the message after I came back. Apparently she got together with the guy she told me not to worry about and is just a friend, a few days before our breakup. (I found out thru a mutual friend who sent me a screenshot of her Instagram story with him)

Back then, I had support from my friends who comforted and encouraged me, and I kept myself busy (I tried to) and I didn't think of her on those days. I wanted to feel okay and that life has more to offer, and genuinely tried to gaslight myself into thinking that it's just part and parcel of life (when I had planned 10,20 years ahead of my life with her and had spent a lot of money buying gifts and meals thinking that she was the one, even risk booking in late multiple times just to spend one more minute together with her)

Fast forward to today, since my "occupation" hasn't changed, every time I pass by the places which I travel to my camp, I can't help but to think about those times I had with her. Both by MRT and by Bus. Basically my whole life routine is still the same as when I was with her.

I thought that time would heal but since it's been 9 months, I thought it was time to seek help. Ive tried to not victimize myself since that wasn't gonna do any good for me, but I ended up lingering on her way longer than I thought I would

Thanks for reading this far appreciate any advice from fellow netizens...

She chio or not????

 

[EDMW-Hates-Me]

Move on dude. Ask you not to worry about a guy yet immediately gets together with him after breaking up with you. Find someone better.

 

[0218crawford]

whenever they say "its just a friend or colleague", need to be careful liaoz.

 

[coyote]

You sounded young? Still serving NS?

Exactly. Every break ups is experience earned preparing ourselves for the next better relationship. Most people do not end up with their first love regardless. It's just a passing phase in life. Get ready for the next. After breakup, then you'll know what you want or don't want in the next relationship... Until you found the one that fits...

 

[Medicated Oil]

For context:
We had been together for a year and 6 months, then broke up 9 months ago. she initiated the break through a text message while I was outfield (I told her I was going to be outfield), only saw the message after I came back. Apparently she got together with the guy she told me not to worry about and is just a friend, a few days before our breakup. (I found out thru a mutual friend who sent me a screenshot of her Instagram story with him)

Back then, I had support from my friends who comforted and encouraged me, and I kept myself busy (I tried to) and I didn't think of her on those days. I wanted to feel okay and that life has more to offer, and genuinely tried to gaslight myself into thinking that it's just part and parcel of life (when I had planned 10,20 years ahead of my life with her and had spent a lot of money buying gifts and meals thinking that she was the one, even risk booking in late multiple times just to spend one more minute together with her)

Fast forward to today, since my "occupation" hasn't changed, every time I pass by the places which I travel to my camp, I can't help but to think about those times I had with her. Both by MRT and by Bus. Basically my whole life routine is still the same as when I was with her.

I thought that time would heal but since it's been 9 months, I thought it was time to seek help. Ive tried to not victimize myself since that wasn't gonna do any good for me, but I ended up lingering on her way longer than I thought I would

Thanks for reading this far appreciate any advice from fellow netizens...

Something in life need more time to heal.
Breakup is one of them.
If the gal want to change heart, she will do it sooner or later.

Dun worry about the time.
Nothing is wrong with you.
Dun beat yourself over it.
Not going to tell you to find a new one now or the new one will be better.
Cos it is BS.

 

[Spike]

At early 20s, this girl is simply one out of many other passer-bys in your life.

It is strange to me that you claimed to have planned 10-20 years ahead without seeking her consensus in a joint future together.

While you are thinking of this ex, you are the last thing on her mind. Just move on.

大丈夫何患无妻

 

[Lao_Tiko]

This sounds cliche and facetious even - don't miss the forest for the tree.

go to the gym, work on your career. groom yourself well, join a toastmasters club. the gravy-train will come. the future you will thank yourself later

 

[crawler]

Bro, your pain is understandable. First, be very attentive when in camp and training. Safety first and always.

When the pain come again next time, go to the source of that. Before your mind tells you pain, there is a something. Go to that something. That is not a place in your body or any place. Just stick with that. But don’t keep telling yourself that it is pain. It is the something before your mind tells you it is pain.

Keep doing that every time, that something appears.

Emotions are labelled from our history, education and upbringing. You are getting to the “before it is known as pain”. You will jump the gun on your mind. Stay there.

We will all be fine, always.

 

[Doublemintsg]

How to get over her?

Just imagine your ex being stuffed top and bottom with the new hotdog and u will be so turned off that one second is all u need.

 

[fire]

Time to grow up...