No funeral

[KPO_SAHM]

Just tell us before hand... We will come..

I remembered one edmw passed away. And his bro came to set up a thread (I think using his account) to inform us. Very old n active member here. Many old birds like us paid a tribute to his thread

 

[hachi]

I remembered one edmw passed away. And his bro came to set up a thread to inform us. Very old n active member here.

Steady...if really got relative infrlm us... I will go

 

[KPO_SAHM]

Steady...if really got relative infrlm us... I will go

Edmw may be super toxic n insensible here....but some edmw are really nice n sincere. Do know a few really knew each other.

 

[qhong61]

Cai lam passed away. He should have many friends but he never held a wake. Cremated on the same day he passed on. Sometimes having a wake is not necessary. It is just for the living people

The chef?

 

[KPO_SAHM]

The chef?

In accordance with his wishes, in order to avoid disturbing his relatives and friends, no ceremony was held and his body was cremated.
https://www.zaobao.com.sg/entertainment/story20250627-6986182

 

[Mecisteus]

Just engage a party to do some prayers to calm the soul of deceased then send for cremation

For me next time will be like that because nobody will care to come to my wake if there is one

bruh your properties and savings if never finish how ?

 

[3G SAINT]

They don't have children.
No choice.

Just like some dnt hold wedding and just register....

 

[daveteo88]

Anyone know the procedure to skip hosting funeral before?

If money tight, then just tell the coffin shop to collect the body, put inside coffin and straightaway go Mt Vernon cremate. Can save embalming money, cost of monks, tentage etc.

 

[3G SAINT]

终身大事 is not referring to marriage. It's referring to end of life.

Yes some dnt hold any wedding too.My dad passed away we discussed no hold any funeral,due to my brother got cancer and need do chempo and bone marrow transplant...

My sibling dnt want hold but I insist before cremation need invite monk praying...also need do pray at home...bcos he passed peaceful at home...
Old pple think no do 不孝 for parent

My brother never attend at mandai when cremation due to need go hospital often and do chempo then bone marrow transplant...my relative told us should do bcos he passed at 90++ and advise us when mother time must do for them...

 

[Spike]

In accordance with his wishes, in order to avoid disturbing his relatives and friends, no ceremony was held and his body was cremated.
https://www.zaobao.com.sg/entertainment/story20250627-6986182

Interesting. Not many older folks can see open. RIP.

 

[daveteo88]

U may wan to consider to donate Ur body to NUS medical school. The school would cover the cremation fee n sea burial . I signed up for that . Also don wan to have a wake as I feel that wake is for living ones. if U see the wake now, hardly have any people attending n sending off , why waste money leh. I rather do something meaningful for myself even when I die

I never thought of this. I also want to donate my body because nobody is there to arrange funeral for me. All along I thought is neighbors call police say got dead rat smell and police come break the door and take my body and burn.

 

[3G SAINT]

i single ownself need to plan own wake and funeral in future too ,
if no people come to wake also sad or if no wake being held is called heartless

throw in rubbish chute recycling bin i also dont care or mind

You can pay funeral company do for you...

 

[Spike]

Tat was my granny's wish n used her money. My late grand passed away 13 years ago had 7 days wake . With zichar served (5 dishes) to guests. Land burial + 100 days prayer ....total cost 50k+....I could tell U the person who make the most profits is the funeral company.


No one would ask for discount for funeral . Chinese is superstitious, asking discount is not good for the family. They said how much u also must pay.

Got zichar de meh? Didn't know.

20 years ago.. when my paternal grandmother passed away, we received like 100 plus wreaths.. threw until shagged.

Roughly 10 years later, my maternal grandmother passed away, is those Malaysian Kampong style funeral.. need to wear those blue clothes.. got tangki, lots of prayers, offerings and needed to say huat ah etc.

After all going through these extensive funerals, I also don't see their descendants paying respect even during Qing Ming.

In summary, I conclude it's better to save the wayang and do away with my own funeral.

 

[8zaoyu]

Do I want my family to cry/sad when I die? No….

如果有缘, 下一世见

If we die at National Average Age of 85, a simple quiet wake at our pavilion or parlour good to see how the family is coping.
Sometimes, you can see the family is not close knit, some not many friends attend. If like this, no need to do a procession, guard the coffin 3 or 5 days. Can be done in 24 hours by the funeral director for cremation, urn parked in your temple, etc.
A BBFA uncle or aunty, die also the youngsters ask who is this person, what more very young kids asking what is "die".
But when our furkid died, the kids cry like immediate let off.
When old and sick people, there is this "to be sad or not" feeling.
As adults, we have to know when to let go. We are not immortal, only how we treat others are remembered.

 

[jq75]

Anyone know the procedure to skip hosting funeral before?

Tell undertaker

settle all in one day

 

[harky]

Min 2-3day ba..

 

[AUTUMN&WINTER]

Cai lam passed away. He should have many friends but he never held a wake. Cremated on the same day he passed on. Sometimes having a wake is not necessary. It is just for the living people

Only the deceased knows whether a wake is necessary. No harm having a wake. No wake is more harmful.

 

[daveteo88]

Only the deceased knows whether a wake is necessary. No harm having a wake. No wake is more harmful.

Wake is only Singaporean do and also is Chinese race. Malay and Indian don't hv wake.

 

[harky]

Cai lam passed away. He should have many friends but he never held a wake. Cremated on the same day he passed on. Sometimes having a wake is not necessary. It is just for the living people

living people 心安就好

 

[harky]

Wake is only Singaporean do and also is Chinese race. Malay and Indian don't hv wake.

I tot they pray below???