Parenthood thread

[dry_county]

Just had a heated discussion with my wife:
Elder daughter 14 isn’t appreciative of anything that we do. Totally self entitled.
Younger son 10 stick to my wife. I haven’t slept at night with my wife for the past decade.

why should I have kids in the first place. Sorry for ranting and see if there’s any advice.

 

[gnoes85]

At what age your daughter start to feel self-entitled?

 

[dry_county]

At what age your daughter start to feel self-entitled?

All the time. Probably is bad parenting….but my son isn’t so self entitled, so I guess part of it is nature.

 

[exterminazn]

What are the thing u do that u feel they are not appreciative?

 

[Techno Pride]

good luck, boss

Just had a heated discussion with my wife:
Elder daughter 14 isn’t appreciative of anything that we do. Totally self entitled.
Younger son 10 stick to my wife. I haven’t slept at night with my wife for the past decade.

why should I have kids in the first place. Sorry for ranting and see if there’s any advice.

 

[Jude Raphael]

Just had a heated discussion with my wife:
Elder daughter 14 isn’t appreciative of anything that we do. Totally self entitled.
Younger son 10 stick to my wife. I haven’t slept at night with my wife for the past decade.

why should I have kids in the first place. Sorry for ranting and see if there’s any advice.

Well, I feel for you as a dad. I don’t know exactly how unappreciative your 14 year old is, but being grateful is more of a self-realisation than being taught in words, I feel. Of course, words are also important and as parents, we usually start with this. We simply have to keep trying to get our words through.

As for the 10 year old, well, your wife would have to try and understand your reasons for your frustrations. Have you considered carrying the 10 year old to his bed after he falls asleep?

 

[gnoes85]

All the time. Probably is bad parenting….but my son isn’t so self entitled, so I guess part of it is nature.

You probably got rejected sex by wife countless times thus the anger built up?

 

[nyvrem]

bo advice liao. i think too late to change anything liao.

have some h2h talk and hope can knock some sense into her

my 2 girls 16/15. 1 of them this year O levels. i kenna pwn this week, kid mug until her calculator spoil

didnt know the O level calculator now cost like $40+

 

[Kaylin]

kids are like that one, egoistic & narcissistic and many kids dont grow out of this stage as adults, so essentially alot of ppl are still kids in adult bodies. u gotta learn how to hv better boundaries - u do for them but learn to hv zero sexpectations towards them being grateful or not. not just towards kids but everybardy. like ur good to anyone coz u want to, not coz u want them 2b appreciative. its a 认知问题, gotta switch yr mindset ard i know its not ez but its a practice, and ultimately will be gd for u else u will be a prisoner of yr own mentality.

jiayou korkor

 

[dry_county]

What are the thing u do that u feel they are not appreciative?

I just asked my dotter to change her tuition timing from Friday to Sunday cos I come home early on Friday and I don’t like someone else at home at that time. And she got upset.

 

[Lchlch]

Just had a heated discussion with my wife:
Elder daughter 14 isn’t appreciative of anything that we do. Totally self entitled.
Younger son 10 stick to my wife. I haven’t slept at night with my wife for the past decade.

why should I have kids in the first place. Sorry for ranting and see if there’s any advice.

bro, what happen?
You have conflict with your wife?
what heated discussion is about?

 

[Lchlch]

I just asked my dotter to change her tuition timing from Friday to Sunday cos I come home early on Friday and I don’t like someone else at home at that time. And she got upset.

bro, you may try soft approach with your daughter?

 

[dry_county]

Well, I feel for you as a dad. I don’t know exactly how unappreciative your 14 year old is, but being grateful is more of a self-realisation than being taught in words, I feel. Of course, words are also important and as parents, we usually start with this. We simply have to keep trying to get our words through.

As for the 10 year old, well, your wife would have to try and understand your reasons for your frustrations. Have you considered carrying the 10 year old to his bed after he falls asleep?

Thanks kor kor for your advice. I’m not too physically attached to my son. But we communicate a lot.

 

[vee4044]

Just had a heated discussion with my wife:
Elder daughter 14 isn’t appreciative of anything that we do. Totally self entitled.
Younger son 10 stick to my wife. I haven’t slept at night with my wife for the past decade.

why should I have kids in the first place. Sorry for ranting and see if there’s any advice.

Be Patience... Be more Careful, Her Rebel Period, Listen and understand her... more caring give more

Love.... is what she need the attention. Trust all my friends feed back to me one. U too take Care......

All kids will need to go throughout this period... only see parent how it handle..... Good Luck.

 

[Lchlch]

All the time. Probably is bad parenting….but my son isn’t so self entitled, so I guess part of it is nature.

try to work things out with your wife.

 

[dry_county]

You probably got rejected sex by wife countless times thus the anger built up?

No bro. Our usual activity is in the morning, not at night. I can count with my fingers that we did it at night….

 

[dry_county]

bo advice liao. i think too late to change anything liao.

have some h2h talk and hope can knock some sense into her

my 2 girls 16/15. 1 of them this year O levels. i kenna pwn this week, kid mug until her calculator spoil

didnt know the O level calculator now cost like $40+

Your dotter very self motivated! My dotter will give up her revision if her calculator spoil….

 

[deathan9el]

all these while, the dine-outs w/ your wifey
how it even came to this

but kids as they grows up, u will start to see a change in them
either for the good or otherwise

 

[dry_county]

kids are like that one, egoistic & narcissistic and many kids dont grow out of this stage as adults, so essentially alot of ppl are still kids in adult bodies. u gotta learn how to hv better boundaries - u do for them but learn to hv zero sexpectations towards them being grateful or not. not just towards kids but everybardy. like ur good to anyone coz u want to, not coz u want them 2b appreciative. its a 认知问题, gotta switch yr mindset ard i know its not ez but its a practice, and ultimately will be gd for u else u will be a prisoner of yr own mentality.

jiayou korkor

Thanks zeh zeh….that’s very enlightening….im thankful i have an amazing wife. But she’s stuck in the middle cos she loves my kids and me. So I have nowhere to rant….

 

[deathan9el]

can page for @coyote for his fatherly advise