Hi guys, got a question I've been wondering... should I go shop for the proposal ring together with my gf?
Would it be more of a pro or con?
She is someone who wants surprises but at the same time I'm afraid I will screw up the type of ring she wants/prefers...
Need some sincere advice...
Bro perhaps I offer you a different perspective. It is true that choosing a design that they love is quite preferable.
However I do feel that the element of surprise and your decision will matter even more.
Once she knows the design, it's like waiting for the proposal. I personally find that to be pretty boring.
That being said a good compromise is to know her preferences. Say on types of designs, shape of diamond, color of ring. That is okay but the design will be truly special because you chose it.
A woman can select a design that she loves. But your involvement makes it even more unique. Even if she finds the design to be so so bad. It's unique because you did your very best in wanting to please her.
It'll be a ring you chose. No one can replace that. Whereas she can choose any design she wants anyday.
The element of surprise is key imho. Rmb can compromise to know preferences. Color, shape, style. But to know how it'll look like, it's just waiting for proposal. No fun.
In NS when you are the enemy force. It's pretty lame because you know how the other side is going to attack. Timing can be an element of surprise but the strategy, action on objective is the real deal.
Different strokes for different folks.
To put it in a even more drastic comparison. Say one day you guys broke up. If she chose a design to her she can wear it happily because it's what she likes. It's another accessory. But if you chose the end design, your presence, sentiment is even more apparent and she will think of you, however ugly the design is.
Oh yes good to bring her down to get proper ring size. I find it a good compromise to know her preference but leave the end design to imagination and your unique sentiment in it.
Afterall assuming you apply BTO, it's just a matter of time for proposal. But how it turns out to be is key.
Liken the scenario to giving people money for presents. You can give the same amount of money ask her buy her own present or you can spend time and effort to surprise her.
She choose like no effort. Just ok you like? My pocket can tahan then get.
Imho. I understand my opinion is quite different but to each his own ya.
Regarding getting the ring, I recommend JannPaul. You can see their design or better you can go find any design and get them to customize.
I do not believe in paying just for the brand. Ok I'm an average person only so have limits I rather get a good diamond than a soso one but good brand. A great example is someone got a 0.4 E VS2 Tiffany and Co for 8.6k but in the end bought a second from JannPaul 0.62 F VS2 4.9k. The JannPaul looks more stunning and even whiter hands down. That's the ultimate test. The little blue box or a superior diamond with a custom design.
Most important is to set your budget. You want to please her but rmb you have house have reno have kids maybe.
I find cut, color, carat and clarity to be a good progression of importance. I put carat third because a 0.1 or 0.0x will make not much difference rly. Your budget would have determined most of the carat range alr so moving 0.0x is pretty much just in our heads.
From a fellow bro.
