Serious Relationship issue

[boyinhersense]

White knight in shiny armor lai liao

Boomer bbfa only know this line

 

[vee4044]

I have been married to my wife for six years, and we have kids. Recently, we had a quarrel, and she suggested a separation. Her stance on this seems very firm. According to her, the argument stemmed from what she sees as me being overly controlling—for example, not allowing her to go out with friends to pubs late at night. She finds my behaviour unreasonable and controlling.

This isn’t the first time we’ve had a quarrel, and usually, we manage to resolve our differences by the next day. However, this time, she has been ignoring me for about two weeks and has been sleeping in another room. She also goes out until late at night, saying she has work. All of this started after she joined a new company.

I do not wish to divorce her, as I still love her. However, I don’t know how to resolve the issue now. Should I try to convince her to come back to me, or should I give her the space to live the lifestyle she wants?

Green Beret is on the way.... good luck.

 

[boyinhersense]

horny man will target anything.

more like one man’s meat is another man’s poison

 

[kyang69]

It's time to go special ops, covert style ... or hire a PI, ok just joking.
Talk things through, you both are adults.

If she wants to tao jiak, there are many ways to do it.
Give her the benefit of the doubt.

Perhaps come to an agreement, she can go with friends to pub, but you be there to fetch her.
And you get to go pub with your friends too, she can go fetch you.

This was what happened to me too, long long time ago.
Wife say I cannot control her, she has "freedom" to go out and meet friends.
We also quarrel.
So I said ok, no problem, you go do whatever you want; but I will also monkey see monkey do.
It's fair game. the most divorce, I don't care.

 

[harky]

It's time to go special ops, covert style ... or hire a PI, ok just joking.
Talk things through, you both are adults.

If she wants to tao jiak, there are many ways to do it.
Give her the benefit of the doubt.

Perhaps come to an agreement, she can go with friends to pub, but you be there to fetch her.
And you get to go pub with your friends too, she can go fetch you.

This was what happened to me too, long long time ago.
Wife say I cannot control her, she has "freedom" to go out and meet friends.
We also quarrel.
So I said ok, no problem, you go do whatever you want; but I will also monkey see monkey do.
It's fair game. the most divorce, I don't care.

His wife dont even want to talk

 

[Ahemahem]

hmm what was the trigger?

 

[IAmChiobu12M]

I have been married to my wife for six years, and we have kids. Recently, we had a quarrel, and she suggested a separation. Her stance on this seems very firm. According to her, the argument stemmed from what she sees as me being overly controlling—for example, not allowing her to go out with friends to pubs late at night. She finds my behaviour unreasonable and controlling.

This isn’t the first time we’ve had a quarrel, and usually, we manage to resolve our differences by the next day. However, this time, she has been ignoring me for about two weeks and has been sleeping in another room. She also goes out until late at night, saying she has work. All of this started after she joined a new company.

I do not wish to divorce her, as I still love her. However, I don’t know how to resolve the issue now. Should I try to convince her to come back to me, or should I give her the space to live the lifestyle she wants?

I have no comment about the rs but please put your kids well-being (financially, stability, security, emotional etc) as your top priority whatever happens and decisions y'all make. Coming from someone who had to deal with all the crazy nonsense rs issues brought by my selfish parents, I can tell u the pain and suffering are irrecoverable and will cause permanent scars.

 

[0nePunchm@n]

His wife dont even want to talk

yup.. once wife stop talking for a long period of time..
means 99% gone case just like my case also started from office affairs..
hated myself so stupidly trusting woman with a child

 

[TiedInsurer]

Guys can go and drink with friends but their wives can’t? Boomer, just because one has kids doesn’t mean one needs to cut themselves off from friends.

Hello. Multiple kids under 5 years old. You try and go out drinking with your friends all night long, let your wife tank the kids alone. Not scared your wife chop your kkj?

You can go out with your friends. Do it during the day, when the kids are foisted on the grandparents or on the maid.

 

[cheryl81]

Friends that go pubs? No wonder 1 in 4 divorce in sg

Why not?
my gfs does that once in a while.

 

[cheryl81]

Can of course but she must allow the hubby to do the same as she does. Will she accept this?

maybe she did?

 

[Jude Raphael]

dont you feel very tiring to maintain such relationship? like u can't even show that you are comfortable and always has to pretend like i can live without you. Should a relationship be like this? I thought a soul partner is one and only one that u can show your weakness to and seek comfort.

Well, I do not believe in playing "games". I do not believe that one must be "on top" all the time too. Some may argue that the appeal / desirability would be lowered. From my point of view, I know what I can offer and bring to the table. Suddenly, if someone were to tell me that what I am offering is no longer what she wants. Well, Godspeed to us then. 勉强是没有幸福的。It would not be easy to step away but for the longer term, 没有办法的。
So, why bother holding back and not give it your best shot? Wouldn't you wish that you should have tried harder in the first place? Why have such thoughts lingering at the back of your mind?

I too, believe that if you should be comfy to show your weakness in front of your partner, otherwise, who is the "real" you then? Of course, this side should be reserved for the people closest and not some outsiders. That is usually where the problem occurs.

 

[Kiton12345]

Bro, she's not yours, it was just your turn.

It already sounds like she found someone else, no one in a marriage especially at your age will suddenly want to go drinking and have late nights

If you really want a chance at keeping her, you need to take care of yourself first. Start getting in shape, grooming yourself and dressing up.

Go out and date other women, maybe she'll then remember why she even got together with you in the 1st place.

 

[kyang69]

His wife dont even want to talk

Like that will be difficult.

 

[boyinhersense]

Hello. Multiple kids under 5 years old. You try and go out drinking with your friends all night long, let your wife tank the kids alone. Not scared your wife chop your kkj?

You can go out with your friends. Do it during the day, when the kids are foisted on the grandparents or on the maid.

LOL Are you so weak?

You can’t even handle young kids on your own? My wife and I travel for business. If can’t even manage one night, how to tahan a few days when the spouse is away?

 

[TiedInsurer]

LOL Are you so weak?

You can’t even handle young kids on your own? My wife and I travel for business. If can’t even manage one night, how to tahan a few days when the spouse is away?

I said your wife. Can you not read?

 

[boyinhersense]

I said your wife. Can you not read?

Can YOU not read? I said both my wife and I travel for business. It works both ways. Comprendre?

 

[fre3dom85]

i can't imagine what you are going through right now but i strongly believe that once a woman exhbit such behaviour, you more or less have lost her..

 

[TiedInsurer]

Can YOU not read? I said both my wife and I travel for business. It works both ways. Comprendre?

You have reading comprehension problems.
You said "Guys can go and drink with friends but their wives can’t?"
I said guys can't, because their wives will cut their balls off.
And then you started failing reading comprehension, and called me weak for not being able to handle kids on my own? At no point did i ever say that? Comprendre?

 

[boyinhersense]

You have reading comprehension problems.
You said "Guys can go and drink with friends but their wives can’t?"
I said guys can't, because their wives will cut their balls off.
And then you started failing reading comprehension, and called me weak for not being able to handle kids on my own? At no point did i ever say that? Comprendre?

Hahaha you think guys can’t go drinking because their wives will cut off their balks. Still say you’re not weak?