Singles Thread 2023

[Sonderponder]

What is so captivating about this girl over ur other potential dates? Chioest?

i dont have many matches and she is better looking, similar interests, and we texted each other a lot at the start, which could be why i started to develop more feelings for her. I somehow see a future with her just that recently her responses slower and slower

we met up once before and chatted during dinner until last few to leave the restaurant

 

[Spike]

i dont have many matches and she is better looking, similar interests, and we texted each other a lot at the start, which could be why i started to develop more feelings for her. I somehow see a future with her just that recently her responses slower and slower

Don't mind. Did u have any previous relationship? How long have been chatting with her, and how long was ur first meeting?

Trying to understand the situation.

 

[saltedd]

haha, hmmm i also feel bad when i text the others every now and then to maintain relationship when my main focus is this particular girl. like not right treating them ad substitutes.

No one has to know bah... Only yourself. They might be doing the same anyway

 

[Ec7171]

No one has to know bah... Only yourself. They might be doing the same anyway

This is exactly why I must treat it as a game. Dun take too seriously until meet second time.

Although not exactly the same issues but similar.

Meet first time say single or jus break up.
Meet second time say actually haven't break up but soon.

Those not ready for rs but start to fish for backup liao. Dun be surprised that there are such ppl ard.

 

[teagarden]

This is exactly why I must treat it as a game. Dun take too seriously until meet second time.

Although not exactly the same issues but similar.

Meet first time say single or jus break up.
Meet second time say actually haven't break up but soon.

Those not ready for rs but start to fish for backup liao. Dun be surprised that there are such ppl ard.

Although some players, cat fisher etc abound, I feel majoring are still sincere?

Just a baseless opinion as a non (unqualified) user of dating apps

 

[Spike]

This is exactly why I must treat it as a game. Dun take too seriously until meet second time.

Although not exactly the same issues but similar.

Meet first time say single or jus break up.
Meet second time say actually haven't break up but soon.

Those not ready for rs but start to fish for backup liao. Dun be surprised that there are such ppl ard.

It is a tiring way to live life second guessing everyone, and everything.

用人不疑，疑人不用。

There is no reason to believe every word. Consequently, there's no reason to doubt them too.

If u cannot manage ur emotions at this level, it would be much harder to manage a relationship going forward.

 

[Sonderponder]

This is exactly why I must treat it as a game. Dun take too seriously until meet second time.

Although not exactly the same issues but similar.

Meet first time say single or jus break up.
Meet second time say actually haven't break up but soon.

Those not ready for rs but start to fish for backup liao. Dun be surprised that there are such ppl ard.

oh man, then was there third meet up? and how long was it between first and 2nd meet up? was there a lot of texting in between?

 

[Sonderponder]

Don't mind. Did u have any previous relationship? How long have been chatting with her, and how long was ur first meeting?

Trying to understand the situation.

yup got. Last one more straight forward, texting each other daily, very responsive, met up first time then got together already.

I started chatting with her since last month. started off good, maybe she met another guy, so recent period can see her texts more mian qiang, short replies to my questions and nv ask me back.

first meeting was like 5 hours, dinner and walk,

 

[Sonderponder]

i went out for dinner by myself and noticed many young couples. Sometimes i wonder how did they meet each other.

 

[Spike]

yup got. Last one more straight forward, texting each other daily, very responsive, met up first time then got together already.

I started chatting with her since last month. started off good, maybe she met another guy, so recent period can see her texts more mian qiang, short replies to my questions and nv ask me back.

first meeting was like 5 hours, dinner and walk,

Her texts might slow for a variety of reasons. I don't really see a need to guess. If it bothers u enough, just ask her directly.

5 hours is relatively long. I would assume that if there wasn't some level of interest, it would have ended much earlier.

Don't really think u need to worry that much. Cos this is pretty much an one sided affair, and it doesn't oblige the girl to reciprocate. Instead, u can spend that effort on what u intend to do for ur second date.

 

[Spike]

i went out for dinner by myself and noticed many young couples. Sometimes i wonder how did they meet each other.

Pretty much like everyone else. There is no secret channel.

 

[Wstc333]

Pretty much like everyone else. There is no secret channel.

Simi secret channel.
Just done w my celebration so drunk

 

[Ec7171]

Although some players, cat fisher etc abound, I feel majoring are still sincere?

Just a baseless opinion as a non (unqualified) user of dating apps

In a 5x5 risk matrix,
My view is likelihood is 3. Because emotional are not certain and controllable at times.
Severity is 5. Because u will potentially get emotional scars that might affect ur future relationship.

So conclusions for me is high risk. Need to take precautions to lower the likelihood from happening.

 

[Ec7171]

It is a tiring way to live life second guessing everyone, and everything.

用人不疑，疑人不用。

There is no reason to believe every word. Consequently, there's no reason to doubt them too.

If u cannot manage ur emotions at this level, it would be much harder to manage a relationship going forward.

Lol that phrase more like for employers le.

No choice. Human are complicated beings.
My phrase is 害人之心不可有，防人之心不可无。

 

[Spike]

Simi secret channel.
Just done w my celebration so drunk

I hope u are drunk enough to 吃大便，go sleep then wake up and laugh at urself, k?

 

[Ec7171]

oh man, then was there third meet up? and how long was it between first and 2nd meet up? was there a lot of texting in between?

U can find better success stories on the Web.

Even there is no similar success stories, does it mean u want to give up? That is the key question.

 

[kleong]

Come in learn dating tips so can use when eventually paktor

 

[kleong]

Simi secret channel.
Just done w my celebration so drunk

Jskm. Celebrate the arrival of winter ah

 

[Spike]

Jskm. Celebrate the arrival of winter ah

Her birthday la. 冬至 jiak 汤圆meh.

 

[saltedd]

Simi secret channel.
Just done w my celebration so drunk

Starting to get drunk now