I was a BBFA with no matches in dating app, until I decide to overhaul my appearance

[Honeydewz]

It's all depends on your luck/karma/mentality

Amdk cry say he too ugly to have a relationship then years later married a zehzeh

 

[Nevereatrice]

Not all guys suit the buffed up looks one.

I am 175 height, weight 62-63 kg and many girls dig my appearance. But I realise that if I go down to 58-59 kg, girls my age (30s) will think I am XDD and don’t treat me seriously. And I will get alot more attention from girls at age 18-24 years old. So I strive to maintain my weight at 62-63 kg which I realise I get most assurance from people of all ages, not just from specific age group

You might think that is skinny but actually skinny is as skinny does, at least wearing layered clothes will look proper and decent. Buffed up bodies wear coat and blazers will look fat. Skinny wear layered looks perfect. Think Andy Lau and you get what I mean. Wear anything also look good

2008 account think also got 50. How yandao can a sg uncle be U really so yandao like Andy lau like u say keep seeing this without pic lol

 

[XuishX]

2008 account think also got 50. How yandao can a sg uncle be U really so yandao like Andy lau like u say keep seeing this without pic lol

I am in my 30s, not 50s.

My 2008 account was created way back when I was around 18 years old. A few girls I know in real life joined edmw because of me because they wanna talk to me but I failed to catch this until years later that some of these girls confessed, they join the forum just to chat up with me.

No picture because don’t wanna sexpose

 

[Decorum]

please gpgt yourself to shut us up, Andy lau

Actually i will believe as long as willing to go south korea do plastic

even if dont look like GD also will look good

but without plastic surgery it is 100000% impossible to look good

 

[Taro Pie]

so got piak how many?


Read HWZ Forum Rules!

 

[alalalala]

The story I'm about to say, is 1000% true story or else I die a horrible death.

Background of me - Just recently hit 30. Used to be a 175cm, 85kg slightly overweight guy swiping dating apps hoping to find someone. But no matches at all, within 6-month period I can count with just one hand how many matches I got. And even from those matches, within a while will just ghost me even though I really did put in effort to have a conversation. Ultimately, no dates wanna go out with me in that 6 months period.

Just totally no quality matches at all. Even those non-lookers that matched me don't reply back.

Then I decide to overhaul my appearance.

Went to lose weight. Dropped all the way from 85kg to around 68-69kg.
Train a bit of arms. But of course not as bulky as those fitzai gymbros.
Drop my glasses and went for contact lenses. But ultimately went for lasik.
Went and gotten a Korean-style haircut, and learning how to style my hair.
Went for braces and now rocking straight teeth. Also did a bit of teeth whitening.
Learning to dress better than t-shirt and jeans. Think denim jackets, flannel outerwear, long sleeve shirts etc
And also looking for specific clothings that fit nicely to my body shape (this is sneakily important)


Suddenly I have much much more matches than I could ever imagine, even though I swipe like only 10%-20% of the time. Every other day I can get matches from dating apps.

At my peak I'm talking to like 7+ girls concurrently from dating apps. And from there I managed to ask out various girls to go on dates.

And have been going out on dates almost on a weekly basis. Like 1-2 new girls every week / every other week. And mind you, in my opinion some of the girls I met are pretty cute (I don't go out with whatever girls I can match with).

My most extreme was meeting 4 different girls in a week. One on weekday dinner, another 2 on Saturday lunch and dinner respectively, and one more on Sunday dinner.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to show off that I am able to go on tremendous amount of dates.

But what I want you all to know is, girls are just like guys and they are also superficial. Things girls say like "inner beauty is the most important", that's a huge pile of bollocks if you ask me. End of the day, appearance attracts and if you're not attractive physically, they don't even want to bother with knowing you on a deeper level / let you show off your inner beauty.

Maybe its the dating app thing - first thing apps show you is the pictures. And people are quick to just form their interest in you through your appearance.

But ya this is my story.
And moral of the story? Be a looker if you want to use dating apps, or expect no matches. No matter how much inner beauty you have.

The point is if u need to rely on dating apps that is a problem already....

Theres a reason why those ladies are single over there... most are unrealistic in relative to their looks....

Unfortunately the realistic ones with above average looks are already taken and wont need to resort to dating apps in the first place!

 

[articland05]

how chiu rook rike in first place?
if alrdy goot rooking then got chance ma...otherwise need major overhaul

 

[Kuudere]

Not all guys suit the buffed up looks one.

I am 175 height, weight 62-63 kg and many girls dig my appearance. But I realise that if I go down to 58-59 kg, girls my age (30s) will think I am XDD and don’t treat me seriously. And I will get alot more attention from girls at age 18-24 years old. So I strive to maintain my weight at 62-63 kg which I realise I get most assurance from people of all ages, not just from specific age group

You might think that is skinny but actually skinny is as skinny does, at least wearing layered clothes will look proper and decent. Buffed up bodies wear coat and blazers will look fat. Skinny wear layered looks perfect. Think Andy Lau and you get what I mean. Wear anything also look good

I am same build also, but am an athlete. 174, 65kg. Fitzai with six packs. But dress like some kid so dating app beh kan.

Can ask @Heriophant, he can verify

 

[1982-1994]

Actually i will believe as long as willing to go south korea do plastic

even if dont look like GD also will look good

but without plastic surgery it is 100000% impossible to look good

what's GD?

 

[XuishX]

I am same build also, but am an athlete. 174, 65kg. Fitzai with six packs. But dress like some kid so dating app beh kan.

Can ask @Heriophant, he can verify

Your skin colour too dark liao issit.

Don’t tan yourself, look too low ses liao. Stay away from the Sun if possible

Girls like 白斩鸡

 

[Kuudere]

Your skin colour too dark liao issit.

Don’t tan yourself, look too low ses liao. Stay away from the Sun if possible

Girls like 白斩鸡

>> This is my recent 2.4km timing

No clue lehh, but I like to dress down like low ses one!!

 

[XuishX]

>> This is my recent 2.4km timing

No clue lehh, but I like to dress down like low ses one!!

Eh then you not so tan. I not as power as you la hahaha my 2.4km is 11 minutes 30 seconds.

Ok then you explained yourself liao lo, you need to up your fashion game hahaha

 

[lawabidingcitizen]

Time to wake up bro

 

[Supermarket_astronaut]

If I'm a girl, I'll also think that finding someone who is good looking is better than finding someone who is rich.. I mean you wouldn't want your gf to intro you to her friends as bui kia right

 

[Decorum]

what's GD?

G Dragon

 

[MoeLanYong]

Going to the gym now to lose weight so that can know more xmm!

Dun bruff me ah TS

 

[1982-1994]

but without plastic surgery it is 100000% impossible to look good

I no plastic surgery but still looks better than when I was more bui

 

[illiterate_bbfa]

why are you stating the obvious? if you're willing to put in the effort to look good, it's obviously makes you more attractive just like this guy here
https://mustsharenews.com/dating-advice-married/

 

[illiterate_bbfa]

Not all guys suit the buffed up looks one.

I am 175 height, weight 62-63 kg and many girls dig my appearance. But I realise that if I go down to 58-59 kg, girls my age (30s) will think I am XDD and don’t treat me seriously. And I will get alot more attention from girls at age 18-24 years old. So I strive to maintain my weight at 62-63 kg which I realise I get most assurance from people of all ages, not just from specific age group

You might think that is skinny but actually skinny is as skinny does, at least wearing layered clothes will look proper and decent. Buffed up bodies wear coat and blazers will look fat. Skinny wear layered looks perfect. Think Andy Lau and you get what I mean. Wear anything also look good

interesting! i have female friends who won't date guys below 6 feet, hope you will prove them wrong..

 

[SageWolf]

How long did it take to straighten your teeth?