30s-50s chitchat club

[highsulphur]

somehow i feel the friendship even from secondary school days has changed somewhat.

cant help the feeling that there is some hidden objective.

My closer friends are from my eca in sec schools. People I see doing activities together when I retire

 

[yukirin92]

Talk job and pay sure got pple with inferiority complex.

Should just avoid talking abt all these if possible

Moi see it as information exchange lor. Having information is always a positive, how people choose to act on the information is up to them.

For example sweatshop flen might not have realised he could be earning more while doing less if it wasn't brought up

 

[harbinger255]

Be around, be with positive people, else ownself will also get affected.

Esp true during covid period

 

[Velton]

hrmmmm me and friends never talk about pay during meet ups... unless there is an offer on the table within the group

You better don't. Every night earn 6k one. Later people whack you.

 

[yukirin92]

hrmmmm me and friends never talk about pay during meet ups... unless there is an offer on the table within the group

Won't talk about it every meetup and flaunt 20k/month edmw celery bah. Usually comes out when someone is considering changing job or just receive annual increment and bonus

 

[highsulphur]

hrmmmm me and friends never talk about pay during meet ups... unless there is an offer on the table within the group

I only share salary info with people whom I think are wealthier than me

 

[harbinger255]

Moi see it as information exchange lor. Having information is always a positive, how people choose to act on the information is up to them.

For example sweatshop flen might not have realised he could be earning more while doing less if it wasn't brought up

True lah.... but surely it's not an every time occurrence during meet ups

 

[harbinger255]

You better don't. Every night earn 6k one. Later people whack you.

Past few days keep going down lo.... haiz.... next week either celebrate or cry liao....

 

[harbinger255]

I only share salary info with people whom I think are wealthier than me

I'm ASK..... whatever I say also tio suaned de.... so always diam diam

 

[Lss]

My closer friends are from my eca in sec schools. People I see doing activities together when I retire

ive lost contact with all of my cca mates le . the place where we trained totally gone too.

 

[highsulphur]

I'm ASK..... whatever I say also tio suaned de.... so always diam diam

Truth be told I have a lot of respect for my friends who are ASK. All of them work much harder than me and some ironically are more stressed than me mostly because of the desire to prove themselves. I once told one there is no need to prove himself so much

 

[Lss]

I only share salary info with people whom I think are wealthier than me

but can never be absolutely sure bah.

 

[pepsitwist]

That one was trolling. But I got retrenched n I raged quit. 2 separate jobs

Woah.

Eh? The rage quit shld be the most recent role since most likely won't get retrenched from CS role right

Oh wait. You talking about before this role ah

 

[yukirin92]

Truth be told I have a lot of respect for my friends who are ASK. All of them work much harder than me and some ironically are more stressed than me mostly because of the desire to prove themselves. I once told one there is no need to prove himself so much

Salty flen is actually ASK also, but he doesn't seem to have the desire to prove himself leh. A bit confused why he is salty also when he ownself dowan to chiong and can just wait to collect inheritance which will beat all of us coming from low to mid SES families leow

 

[harbinger255]

Truth be told I have a lot of respect for my friends who are ASK. All of them work much harder than me and some ironically are more stressed than me mostly because of the desire to prove themselves. I once told one there is no need to prove himself so much

I already given up long time ago..... even if exceed previous generation, ppl will also say cuz got extra head start in life even if not true... Just learn to live without expecting respect...

 

[lemonzil]

Ultimately is ur life. You don't have to be accountable to anyone. Don't need to feel bad if you end up not listening to them

I don’t really feel bad for not listening to them. Because I know what I have done and what works.

Like one of them kept harping on my kid’s issue in school. I need to teach him not to hit people etc. different child, parenting styles. She meant well but probably the way she put it made it sound totally like I did nothing and let my kid have his way.

 

[harbinger255]

Salty flen is actually ASK also, but he doesn't seem to have the desire to prove himself leh. A bit confused why he is salty also when he ownself dowan to chiong and can just wait to collect inheritance which will beat all of us coming from low to mid SES families leow

Maybe all the while is using certain members to boost own ego lo... maybe his distancing away from you guys isn't related to this?

 

[lemonzil]

Over the last couple of years 1 flen out of a group of 5 including moi has been distancing himself from the group, either not replying or saying busy every time someone suggests to meet up.

Moi thinks is because career wise he feels he has slipped from being maybe middle of the pack to last, while the others have all pulled ahead. Guess there is nothing much that can be done other than to let the feller go

We had a friend in this group who also just refused to meet up anymore. But she still respond to my texts. Sometimes people need space. I believe they will come back if they want to.

 

[aceminer]

Woah.

Eh? The rage quit shld be the most recent role since most likely won't get retrenched from CS role right

Oh wait. You talking about before this role ah

No la CS I quite happy here. Prev role rage quit before this current job

 

[jeffprobst]

No la. Dad health problem again just when thought he okay lio.