Are we just delusional and kidding ourselves?

[Lolile]

mostly correct. I have good job, income, house, etc, just no girl like

Do u have any inkling why no girl like ?
Maybe it’s just your own insecurity thinking that no girl like

 

[congster2]

I opened this thread as a general discussion on a topic about single vs married and if we are delusional in edmw or we speak the truth. It has nothing to do with me. Being single or attached or married to me is just a choice and probably different stages of life. I'm more curious if is better and what everyone thinks.

At least based on my observations of the pp ard me, definitely those married with kids are happiest. Not hard to see why, family and kids bring a lot of joy.

 

[Redcapiscum]

I think is important to not focus too much on goals but I feel deep down only people who have achieved "everything" then will understand actually is not so important after all. If not might comes off we are just comforting ourselves when truth is we lack the abilities to.

Also opportunities not only abilities. There are some people who are beh kan but can be at a certain level

 

[IAmChiobu12M]

Do u have any inkling why no girl like ?
Maybe it’s just your own insecurity thinking that no girl like

Usually say no girl like = the girl I like don't like me back.

If really got eligible traits confirm at least got 1 girl like.

Even assholes got eyes pak stamp xmm likes LOL.

 

[Lolile]

are you a wholesome person?

What do you mean by wholesome ?

 

[IAmChiobu12M]

At least based on my observations of the pp ard me, definitely those married with kids are happiest. Not hard to see why, family and kids bring a lot of joy.

I feel that the younger ones and just married or have kids seems happy. But as they aged and have more commitment, they might feel actually single not bad.

 

[Lolile]

Usually say no girl like = the girl I like don't like me back.

If really got eligible traits confirm at least got 1 girl like.

Even assholes got eyes pak stamp xmm likes LOL.

Ok understand
It could oso b his standard & expectations are high. Eg he goes for the 9/10 type
I think lots of time, the prob is they set the bar way too high and then say pple dun reciprocate

 

[Redcapiscum]

I feel that the younger ones and just married or have kids seems happy. But as they aged and have more commitment, they might feel actually single not bad.

Because they have not experience the bitterness yet

 

[Tiny Shrimp]

What do you mean by wholesome ?

hmm just by your own definition loh
do you find yourself a wholesome person?

 

[Lolile]

hmm just by your own definition loh
do you find yourself a wholesome person?

I checked dictionary for wholesome

“conducive to or suggestive of good health and physical well-being.”

paisey - I really catch no ball

 

[Tiny Shrimp]

I checked dictionary for wholesome

“conducive to or suggestive of good health and physical well-being.”

paisey - I really catch no ball

do you tend to be a positive or negative person....?

 

[shine0204]

I feel that the younger ones and just married or have kids seems happy. But as they aged and have more commitment, they might feel actually single not bad.

Agree. As they ve lots commitments, pay home-loans, pay 2-3kids/teens medical, educatn, insurance, laptops, face retrenchmt risks, job stress, middle age health issues, pay expenses= childcare+eldercare fees or employ maids, as "sandwich gen" feel singles r BETTER than married.

 

[Redcapiscum]

Agree. As they ve lots commitments, pay housing-loans, pay 2-3kids/teens medical, educatn, insurance, laptops, face retrenchmt risks, job stress, middle age health issues, pay expenses= childcare & eldercare fees or employ maid, as "sandwich gen"- some feel singles r BETTER than married.

But some still encourage single to get married n start family

 

[IAmChiobu12M]

But some still encourage single to get married n start family

Misery loves company. Why suffer alone when we can drag more down together LOL.

 

[Lolile]

Because they have not experience the bitterness yet

Hehehe
Oso “Just” married means still honeymoon period

 

[s-ghost]

yes agree with you, but ah gui no delusional

i always know those who got SO are successful, and i know it's important in life to have a SO but just no luck no fate

 

[congster2]

I feel that the younger ones and just married or have kids seems happy. But as they aged and have more commitment, they might feel actually single not bad.

hmm... maybe. I suppose depends on one's means. Most parents love their kids and family so much that I find it hard to imagine but yes I'm sure there are some who cannot cope and feel that way. My son once asked me about time travel and at that point I realised i would never want to go back to a time before he was born. I told him that of course.

 

[Lolile]

do you tend to be a positive or negative person....?

Ah.. I’m not negative person nor am I an overly positive person.
I’m more a down to earth person

 

[Kuudere]

Hihi
Yeah been awhile. Bz wif work
u working now?


Should include as this is the std way for calculating income.

I see, that's good! Yes, just as equally busy as you.

My previous job didn't extend me and let me know at end Sept, one month before contract ended. I also realised that I didn't qualify for performance bonus. So, after the news, I started to apply for jobs. Was thankful that they allow me to extend 2 weeks to clear leave (I stack my annual leave). And then go reservist for 2 weeks. So, I was jobless from end Nov.

Applied 118 in total, went for 10 interviews before getting a job before Christmas.

Need to go health check up for my job, and only started working in end Jan. Been busy adapting to the work, it's 5 days a week in office from 830 - 1800, 1730 (Fri) . Afterwards, reach home at 1900. Then, go for a run until 2000 - 2030. Have dinner slightly before 2100. Knock off at 1am. Wake up at 7.30 am.

So, haven't been around much. Just focused on work + running.

That means my current income hits median liao, including everything.

 

[PikaPika33]

However, how do the unborn generation free themselves from the massive group of elderlies?

1 in 3 wearing adult diapers, it will happen in Japan in our lifetime. Then, it's 1 in 2.

and?
your structure i kannot really uds
too chim even for edmw

if i uds you correctly

take the short term lost, and get rewarded better in the future lo

at the rate we are going, its surely a doomsday event