Does any man here feels tired?

[TiedInsurer]

Actually it should be the opposite, if one choose an open mind.

Look closer at what's happening within the family and the answer will reveal.

? What you mean should be opposite? Means men should expect women and children to provide, and expect country to protect?

 

[fandango]

As I grow from a boy to become a man, I just realised it is tough being a man. Woman and children expect you to provide. Country expect you to protect. It seems like everything you do is not for yourself, but for everybody else. Not gonna lie, I honestly am tired.

You how old?
You merid?
You how many children?
You what kind of work?

 

[yokine3a]

Life is never easy unless you are rich. A decent wife won't expect hubby to shoulder all the responsibility while she shakes legs. If you meet such woman, is your choice to marry her, face the consequences, kbkp no use.

I dunno why men keep saying wife expect they to provide, is this a reason for them to bash women? You can always say no unless you have committed to the marriage.

 

[cosmothecat]

Only life in Singapore is this way since LHL era with everyone obsession or chasing $$ for crazy housing debt, absurd COL, taxes, half of this place is foreign aliens.

Stressed, meaningless, lifeless nation with no future. Work towards life death.

Moving in wrong direction for decades and continue wrong direction.

Weird that you think only Singapore is this way

Have you seen Japanese and Korean way of life? Same or even higher level of work and financial stress. Japanese women expects their men to hand over all their monthly salaries then give pocket money back to their men. Worse.

 

[cosmothecat]

This is life... nothing to do with man or woman

Humans are born to suffer

 

[zero90]

Tired , but pressing on.

I will be lying if im said that im not tired.

 

[Prinsloo]

Sandwich gen. Need to worry for your parents, gf/wife and future children. No space to breathe.

 

[dambio]

As I grow from a boy to become a man, I just realised it is tough being a man. Woman and children expect you to provide. Country expect you to protect. It seems like everything you do is not for yourself, but for everybody else. Not gonna lie, I honestly am tired.

Plus not to mention, now got those metoo feminist woke movements

Man r just being exploited now.

 

[English Teacher]

As I grow from a boy to become a man, I just realised it is tough being a man. Woman and children expect you to provide. Country expect you to protect. It seems like everything you do is not for yourself, but for everybody else. Not gonna lie, I honestly am tired.

so thats why Thailand have so many transformers

 

[zzzzzzz]

feels weared out

 

[ghregular]

there are 2 things you need to worry about

 

[TiedInsurer]

Life is never easy unless you are rich. A decent wife won't expect hubby to shoulder all the responsibility while she shakes legs. If you meet such woman, is your choice to marry her, face the consequences, kbkp no use.

I dunno why men keep saying wife expect they to provide, is this a reason for them to bash women? You can always say no unless you have committed to the marriage.

Think the problem is a lot of people go into marriage, thinking their quality of life would improve. Then become surprised and angry when their quality of life actually deteriorates. Woman blames the husband. Common line is "嫁给你生活品质反而变差了“. Start finding fault. Start to believe that the reason her quality of life deteriorated, must be because husband not doing enough. Constantly finding things for the husband to do, to try and make him contribute more. Man also blames the wife. Feels the wife expects too much and nags too much. Restricts his freedom. Constantly pushing him to work harder and harder to provide more more more. Don't give him time to rest.

End of the day, both sides should have known that quality of life for both of them is going to drop when they get married, not improve. If they went into the marriage with this understanding, they will have proper expectation and not be disappointed and become bitter and resentful.

 

[Atrina_Boy]

Welcome to 新加坡

 

[lampano]

As I grow from a boy to become a man, I just realised it is tough being a man. Woman and children expect you to provide. Country expect you to protect. It seems like everything you do is not for yourself, but for everybody else. Not gonna lie, I honestly am tired.

yaboy ,even in sex, man had to do alot work ,risk spraining back for the women to be happy

 

[Otokiru]

its the responsibility of a man to take care of his women and children what...
if its not you then who to protect them?

 

[glarerder]

Complaining vents out the little frustrations one feels.... it might not be huge deal breakers that you make it sound it is... I am happy in my marriage but it's not all smooth sailing too.. we quarrel, there are quirks that irks me and vice versa... Does that mean that the solution to my problems is to divorce my wife? No, I vent out and find solidarity amongst my buddies some times... and so does my wife.

Now I am not saying that staying single is wrong - marriage obviously is not for everyone... but your way of promoting that singlehood is better for all, or even most, men... well... if you can objectively just take your own rationale here and apply on yourself, you will see the high hypocrisy and why ppl disagree with you so much

I wonder why you said I'm promoting singlehood when it's simply an alternative one should consider when it comes to making a choice. People should make informed decisions. If you read my other posts, I also mentioned to read up more to decide if you want to marry if you are thinking about marriage. You obviously missed those and chose to focus on what I said about staying single.

 

[Aunt Dino]

Think the problem is a lot of people go into marriage, thinking their quality of life would improve. Then become surprised and angry when their quality of life actually deteriorates. Woman blames the husband. Common line is "嫁给你生活品质反而变差了“. Start finding fault. Start to believe that the reason her quality of life deteriorated, must be because husband not doing enough. Constantly finding things for the husband to do, to try and make him contribute more. Man also blames the wife. Feels the wife expects too much and nags too much. Restricts his freedom. Constantly pushing him to work harder and harder to provide more more more. Don't give him time to rest.

End of the day, both sides should have known that quality of life for both of them is going to drop when they get married, not improve. If they went into the marriage with this understanding, they will have proper expectation and not be disappointed and become bitter and resentful.

In what ways does the quality of life deteriorate?

 

[harbinger255]

I wonder why you said I'm promoting singlehood when it's simply an alternative one should consider when it comes to making a choice. People should make informed decisions. If you read my other posts, I also mentioned to read up more to decide if you want to marry if you are thinking about marriage. You obviously missed those and chose to focus on what I said about staying single.

It's the tone of your delivery... not the first few times already. There are a few other edmwers who really embraced singlehood and most ppl actually respect their choices and don't try to talk them out of it nor disagree with them much.

Case in point, your FIRST post in the thread.

You're right. That's why men should stop chasing and dating. We should focus on ourselves, both men and women, so we won't be tied down by the so called values and expectations. Staying single is the way to go forward.

 

[cosmothecat]

Sandwich gen. Need to worry for your parents, gf/wife and future children. No space to breathe.

Every generation is a sandwiched generation, unless your parents have foresight to plan for their own retirement

 

[cosmothecat]

In what ways does the quality of life deteriorate?

Summary: single is the best