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coyote

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I'm sure edmwers have lots of money to retire, more than they can spend in their life time hiring a helper and a private nurse simultaneously ...

Sorry to say, the strongest female nurse couldn't lift up my mother... Hiring nurse is very expensive in Singapore ... Helpers are cheaper but do you count on your helpers to remember what medicines your parents or yourself take when we are at age 65 or 75?

one eg.
3 levels of medications prescribed to prevent inflammation.

Level 1 Anti inflammation medication cause gastric, so doctor prescribed level 1 anti acid for level 1 anti inflammation med. In case level 1 anti acid not work, doctor prescribed level 2 anti acid, gaviscon as next level of protection.

If level 1 don't work, go
Level 2 anti inflammation drug and it caused nausea, so doctor prescribed level 2 anti vomit med.

If level 2 don't work, go
Level 3 anti inflammation drug caused nausea and shared the same anti vomit drug with level 2.

Doctor prescribed 3 levels of anti constipation medication
Level 1 is liquid
Level 2 is pills
Level 3 is physically applied to the butt...

Can we still follow such complication instructions when we are 65? How about 75?

Do we still have the same sane mind to decipher at 65 or 75? Or we expect the stay in helper to do that? If the stay in helper is not smart enough, we hire a stay in helper and a stay in nurse? Because the nurse probably couldn't lift us up when we are immobile at 65 or 75? How? Check ourselves into folks home as last resort? Then it only matters the children visit us at the home from time to time, so that those caretakers will not bully us when nobody's watching.

Disclaimer: just an opinion piece. Individuals are free to choose their ways of life. 🙏
 
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PikaManiac

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I'm sure edmwers have lots of money to retire, more than they can spend in their life time hiring a helper and a private nurse simultaneously ...

Sorry to say, the strongest female nurse couldn't lift up my mother... Hiring nurse is very expensive in Singapore ... Helpers are cheaper but do you count in your helpers to remember what medicines your parents or yourself take when we are at age 65 or 75?

one eg.
3 levels of medications prescribed to prevent inflammation.

Level 1 Anti inflammation medication cause gastric, so doctor prescribed level 1 anti acid for level 1 anti inflammation med. In case level 1 anti acid not work, doctor prescribed level 2 anti acid, gaviscon as next level of protection.

If level 1 don't work, go
Level 2 anti inflammation drug and it caused nausea, so doctor prescribed level 2 anti vomit med.

If level 2 don't work, go
Level 3 anti inflammation drug caused nausea and shared the same anti vomit drug with level 2.

Doctor prescribed 3 levels of anti constipation medication
Level 1 is liquid
Level 2 is pills
Level 3 is physically applied to the butt...

Can we still follow such complication instructions when we are 65? How about 75?

Do we still have the same sane mind to decipher at 65 or 75? Or we expect the stay in helper to do that? If the stay in helper is not smart enough, we hire a stay in helper and a stay in nurse? Because the nurse probably couldn't lift us up when we are immobile at 65 or 75? How? Check ourselves into folks home as last resort? Then it only matters the children visit us at the home from time to time, so that those caretakers will not bully us when nobody's watching.

Hello pls.

My grandparents got 2 kids. All not able to look after them. Now they old and no money like burden to the family. But still lan lan have to take care. Old ppl take care of old ppl. Sibei jialat.

If u money no have kids.
 

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You don’t know TS is working for Ministry of Birth? His KPI is to increase TFR.:crazy:

If he meant to have kids to help him in old age...
He better wake up his idea

How can he be sure the kids can sustain themselves?
How can he be sure the kids are not born with defects or mental issues?
How can he be sure the kids live long enough?
How can he be sure the kids take care of the parents when young?

So many uncertainties
 

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Times have changed. Concepts like DINK, lying flat, quiet quitting, and FIRE have become increasingly popular.

The current trend is to retire by 35 with FAT FIRE, allowing people to enjoy life to the fullest. That way, whether you live to 65, 75, or 85, you’ve already made the most of your best years.

After all, what’s the point of slogging through life every day just to start enjoying it at 65?

quality over quantity
 

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If he meant to have kids to help him in old age...
He better wake up his idea

How can he be sure the kids can sustain themselves?
How can he be sure the kids are not born with defects or mental issues?
How can he be sure the kids live long enough?
How can he be sure the kids take care of the parents when young?

So many uncertainties
you don't know ts meh

solution to all problem in life is

more kids

:s13:
 

PrinceY

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But also no guarantee ur kids will be a caregiver, what more a full time one.. So likely u will still be left alone or end up with the same expensive nurse or helper or whatever.. But yes got kids maybe u dont have to worry that much on financial, but again no guarantee some can be char siew and living off u even..

If u say spouse, i still can agree until one passes away and then the one left behind is alone again..

If u ask kids nowadays whats their parents NRIC or DOB, not everyone can tell u offhand one.. Expecting them to take care or even support u, i think its even tougher and will likely get tougher as the newer gen emerges..
 

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That’s why medically assisted dying should and must be legalized. I don’t want to burden anyone and I don’t think I can afford it looking at the inflation rate. So why keep me alive but suffering?

when time is up we need to go.
 

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No guarantee your kids will take care of you.

Legalized euthanasia best. Here pain, there pain, cannot walk, cannot eat, cannot do anything liao live to suffer?
To get to the stage where legal murder is allowed is also not easy. Normally need to suffer through many stages
 

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Times have changed. Concepts like DINK, lying flat, quiet quitting, and FIRE have become increasingly popular.

The current trend is to retire by 35 with FAT FIRE, allowing people to enjoy life to the fullest. That way, whether you live to 65, 75, or 85, you’ve already made the most of your best years.

After all, what’s the point of slogging through life every day just to start enjoying it at 65?

quality over quantity

Agree with your point except most people I saw lacked the ability to even fire way past 55... Let alone fat fire at 35... Assuming a small group can, I am guessing they will very soon ask what's the meaning of life, the usual questions few well to do edmwers always ask. 🤷
 
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