30s-50s chitchat club

[Autumn.]

On threads. All really tiger and phoenix.

It can be very RUBBER here

 

[Milo-Dino]

Hi all, I’d like to get some perspectives from forum members regarding my current relationship situation.

I’ve been seeing someone, but there are a few things that are starting to worry me, and I’m not sure how concerned I should be:

My partner seems to have no friends of her own, at least from what I can tell. She gave me the impression she had absolutely no friends.

She refuses to meet any of my friends. Whenever I bring this up, the conversation doesn’t go anywhere and she avoids the topic. I find it difficult because in a relationship, I feel at least some introduction with each other’s circle is natural. At first, she said she was okay with me meeting my friends but she later kicked up a big fuss.

She tends to give evasive or non-committal replies on many matters, sometimes showing almost no opinion on issues I raise. When I try to talk face to face about important or personal issues, she either avoids the discussion or ends up crying. She opens up more through text messages instead.

Timing has also been tricky — recently when I wanted to spend more time together doing new activities(e.g., attending a talk), she said she had cramps, then later fell sick. Around the same period I also got sick, and it feels like there’s always some obstacle preventing meaningful interaction.

I’m beginning to wonder:

How concerned should I be about someone with no friends and an avoidance of integrating into my social circle?

Is it a red flag if my partner consistently avoids giving opinions or direct answers, especially in face-to-face conversations?

Could there be deeper issues (e.g., social anxiety or past trauma), or should I be looking at this as incompatibility?

Appreciate honest perspectives from those with similar experiences, or anyone who can share what’s “normal” vs potential red flags in this kind of situation.

Thanks in advance.

My wife also has no friends, but she was neither born nor raised here. Then again, I have lived my whole life here and have very few friends, whom I only meet once or twice a year at best. My Whatsapp can go a whole month without any messages from friends or even my parents.

She also doesn't meet my friends, but I am not bothered la. Kicking up a big fuss about it after agreeing is a red flag though...


How did you meet her ? What's her personality like around you ?

My GF is also a foreigner. She lives with her sister. I think personality wise, I like to meet friends while she is very homely.

I met her through Tinder. I sensed that she is super-introvert. On the last fight, she asked if I was going to continue to meet friends if we have kids (just to clarify, we are both dating to marry).

My wife also got no friends here despite being in Singapore for 15 years... Also foreign born but become sg citizen. She occasionally will have meals with her sister that's all.

But she doesn't really stop me from going out occasionally to meet friends

 

[LingTan98]

our girl has grown up

I'm just kidding. I am also only slightly more than 2 years away from being 30. Gosh.

 

[skyline72]

Good evening people.

 

[Autumn.]

I'm just kidding. I am also only slightly more than 2 years away from being 30. Gosh.

its ok, you are always a little girl here

If i had married back then , my child is probably your age

 

[Mr.Kopi]

its ok, you are always a little girl here

If i had married back then , my child is probably your age

hi mama

 

[Mr.Kopi]

Relationships are hard. No textbook answer for it.

 

[Autumn.]

hi mama

prease dont pretend to be young

 

[jeffprobst]

I THink MY POST IS VERY LOUD OREDY

I only see them keep getting Singapore. Still dunno what Singapore did to anger them.

 

[Autumn.]

I only see them keep getting Singapore. Still dunno what Singapore did to anger them.

\The US army related　 drama always mention sinkapore

 

[aceminer]

I'm just kidding. I am also only slightly more than 2 years away from being 30. Gosh.

still xmm la...

 

[aceminer]

what is the max age gap u all will accept for dating?

 

[Dusky01]

My wife also got no friends here despite being in Singapore for 15 years... Also foreign born but become sg citizen. She occasionally will have meals with her sister that's all.

But she doesn't really stop me from going out occasionally to meet friends

strictly speaking I also no Ching gu . After work I go home or gym or hang around here haha

I also don’t stop my man to meet his Ching gu

I have close colleague whom I can complain or talk .. she is as close as a Ching gu as can be Liao

 

[aceminer]

strictly speaking I also no Ching gu . After work I go home or gym or hang around here haha

I also don’t stop my man to meet his Ching gu

I have close colleague whom I can complain or talk .. she is as close as a Ching gu as can be Liao

whats ching gu??

 

[highsulphur]

whats ching gu??

Friend

In Korean

 

[aceminer]

Friend

In Korean

i see,,.

 

[Milo-Dino]

what is the max age gap u all will accept for dating?

no max.. maybe 30 years? lol
age is just a number!

 

[LingTan98]

what is the max age gap u all will accept for dating?

Maybe 7 years? My parents are 7 years apart.

 

[highsulphur]

Morning all

 

[Lss]

Maybe 7 years? My parents are 7 years apart.

But you don't always ask people's age when meeting mah. My parents 11 years age gap . My mother underestimated my father's age