Adopt or give birth better?

[xboxer]

If I am not wrong, sinkie land got law saying only medically unfit couples can adopt and only after exhausting all efforts to artificially conceive. So unless you or your wife is impotent, forget it.

 

[Peony牡丹]

If she enjoys pregnancy then she enjoys pregnancy.

Shouldn't you ask her instead of EDMWer?

 

[Peony牡丹]

If I am not wrong, sinkie land got law saying only medically unfit couples can adopt and only after exhausting all efforts to artificially conceive. So unless you or your wife is impotent, forget it.

Actually there is no such law in SG.

Any legally married couples above 21yo can adopt.

 

[xboxer]

Actually there is no such law in SG.

Any legally married couples above 21yo can adopt.

Don't have meh? Last time my relative when through all kinds of loopholes just to adopt.

 

[Spirax]

Depend on both your gene, if it is good, better gave birth asap

 

[Peony牡丹]

Don't have meh? Last time my relative when through all kinds of loopholes just to adopt.

Maybe law/ time have changed, now SG law very supportive to adoptive families.

 

[razorlala]

Adopt if u don't mind possible inherited diseases

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how u know ts no inherited disease?

 

[gnoes85]

U scare her hole become too big then u no feeling right.

After give birth you can request the doctor to stitch the hole tighter fyi.

 

[Mancunian2]

Yeah.. Forgot.. She pass away already

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live and let live

whatever happened, is already over

 

[Lexmerc]

Pain of labour can be solve if u go under the knives.

That's worse than natural birth. The recovery process is pure torture.

 

[Peony牡丹]

adopt , what if you get problematic kids

among relatives and friends, I know of 3 cases
1. adopted son problematic gambler, and the gambler's son bisexual, married but created scandals
2. adopted daughter stupid genes, failed psle 2 times, grown up Liao but now seldom contact
3. only happy case. adopted daughter grown and up and now big4 audit partner, filial to adopted parents

Oneself give birth confirm won't problematic?

 

[duameatball]

It's a personal choice between you and your gf. Don't bother asking people here. If it makes you feel fulfilled, why not?

http://thisgatherednest.com - this angmor adopted 3 kids, has 2 of her own, and now is having twins from embryo adoption.

 

[Ifritus]

surrogate best

no need marry

no woman charter

no nonsense

 

[Lexmerc]

Btw, I think you're not allowed to adopt after you have your own blood-child. That was one of the reason they gave to my cousin. Tried to adopt and in the mean time got pregnant. The adoption was called off as they were no longer eligible.

 

[Propanone]

if can give birth why adopt

Give birth can get many baby bonus and tax relief

 

[Peony牡丹]

surrogate best

no need marry

no woman charter

no nonsense

And your poor baby got no mother... really?

 

[pattanispirit]

adopt , what if you get problematic kids

among relatives and friends, I know of 3 cases
1. adopted son problematic gambler, and the gambler's son bisexual, married but created scandals
2. adopted daughter stupid genes, failed psle 2 times, grown up Liao but now seldom contact
3. only happy case. adopted daughter grown and up and now big4 audit partner, filial to adopted parents

Same happened to my uncle, adopted 3 kids, end up

1st daughter become bar girl
2nd son craftsman - decent life
3rd son grey, take drug

Most babies up for adoption, come from problematic family, unweb mum, gambler dad, etc.

So, the gene can't be changed, all 3 can't study type, pri sch max

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[Peony牡丹]

if can give birth why adopt

Give birth can get many baby bonus and tax relief

Actually adoptive families are also eligible to Baby bonus, tax relief, maternity leave ect.

 

[razorlala]

I was adopted. And i hate my birth mother when i met her 7 years ago.. For the 1st time. I hope she die

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Yeah.. Forgot.. She pass away already

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[Peony牡丹]

Btw, I think you're not allowed to adopt after you have your own blood-child. That was one of the reason they gave to my cousin. Tried to adopt and in the mean time got pregnant. The adoption was called off as they were no longer eligible.

Can try to be foster parents first.

The church I wen to last time, the pastor family had 4 blood children then wen on to adopt their last baby girl.