[CONSOLIDATED] Lchlch's office issues

[Lchlch]

I might sound sexist here, but I gotta confess that I am being honest.

When I joined DSTA as a Database Administrator in Nov 2009, they placed me under a pregnant female supervisor surnamed Koh. She's a damn thorn in the flesh as far as I am concerned. She was so skeptical as a supervisor, and kept on trying to micromanage me, and I was totally disgusted by how she conducted her day to day business. She is just an ordinary employee, whereas I came from a scholar background, it's not that I am proud of my background, but it's difficult for her to control me, in Chinese we say, 我不服 i.e. I am not happy that she is my superior. In the end I quit the job and started my own business.

After I quit, I did not become filthy rich or extremely successful, but I was happy, because I knew that I could not work under supervisors who were not as competent as I was. It was especially difficult for me to work under pregnant women, because I did not made you pregnant, it's not my fault that you had to get pregnant, but you don't shove all your problems to me as if I owed you a living. We're all trying to make a living, if you treated me with some decency I could close one or both eyes and help you out, but if you want to pick on me, I'd rather we go separate ways.

I hv another team mate, local guy , coming 55 yr old, a sucker. Back stabbed, trying to catch your non issue error n talk loud in front of jhk lead about my mistakes
When I come to work, I dmt talk to him even I sat beside him.
Cos he's too toxic n evil.

 

[Lchlch]

I can conclude that my kancheong spider jhk lead is suffering from low self esteem and insecurity in the job. And scare nobody admire his jobs. .

That's why his behviour is like that.

 

[Lchlch]

It is like say you do certain thing, suddenly eg software error. He started to question you did you do this or that?

When he started to question you this n that, guys, that is already his thoughts, is not facts. Cos he assume negatively.

In that case, we can simply ignore his bloody words, one ear in, one ear out.

 

[Lchlch]

Let's have your experience on Trust Issue with your colleagues.

Do they Trust you or they simply very skeptical on you if mistakes happens n you are the executioner?

Do they believe what you explain or they just simply point finger at you first without letting you further explan.

They Trust your explanation or don't trust you even you tell the truth?

And when colleague found out it's not your mistakes but other, the colleague will tell you , you must do this n that....I mean hey, they commit mistakes, why I need to change for them???.

 

[PiKa]

Why is your trust with a cap T.
Are you referring to Trust bank?

 

[Dinoboyboy]

Let's have your experience on Trust Issue with your colleagues.

Do they Trust you or they simply very skeptical on you if mistakes happens n you are the executioner?

They Trust your explanation or don't trust you even you tell the truth?

I dont Trust edmwers on this topic.

 

[Lchlch]

Why is your trust with a cap T.
Are you referring to Trust bank?

Bro, trust. How much you trust your colleagues n believe what yoir colleague say.

 

[tExtra]

Workplace Survival 101:
1. Maintain clear boundary.
2. Trust nobody (especially the eloquent. Be wary of those whom deliberately want to get near you. Often, they are trying to size you up, incept a certain impression), thrust everybody.

 

[Lchlch]

Workplace Survival 101:
1. Maintain clear boundary.
2. Trust nobody (especially the eloquent. Be wary of those whom deliberately want to get near you. Often, they are trying to size you up, incept a certain impression), thrust everybody.

Need to put an fake act in front of colleagues too.

 

[Lchlch]

I gv one eg.

Supposing you buy a new fan.
Tested n ok.
You bring home but suddenly fan not working.
Then exchange new one.

Who's fault?
Not you who buy it right?
But your friend will say " yo, next time buy fan, tested, need to check the wire connection, need to see inside the motor, need to check here n there".

It is as if it's your fault that fan spoilt.


That's the situation I am facing at work.

How you feel?
Very tulan right?

 

[Hello_Kitty]

my colleague jio me to ktv. i told him keep it a secret, but he blurted out during lunch time. now my female chiobu colleagues all give me that look that i am a dirty old man. so i cannot Trust my colleague to keep secret.

 

[Lchlch]

my colleague jio me to ktv. i told him keep it a secret, but he blurted out during lunch time. now my female chiobu colleagues all give me that look that i am a dirty old man. so i cannot Trust my colleague to keep secret.

Bro, nvr trust your colleagues.

 

[Song Bro]

Let's have your experience on Trust Issue with your colleagues.

Do they Trust you or they simply very skeptical on you if mistakes happens n you are the executioner?

Do they believe what you explain or they just simply point finger at you first without letting you further explan.

They Trust your explanation or don't trust you even you tell the truth?

Good question.

My issue with another dept is they will trust me if my analysis and concluding fault lies in another
dept other than their own. If it is their fault, I will have to prove until the sun goes down till they admit.
They rather taichi their way out of the situation to the point of the whole matter blew up.
Then they calmly clear up the mess they did and of cos never admit its their problem.

I think is not a trust issue. It is a defense mechanism in this case.

But seeing the others at least listen to the explanation and trying out ideas I proposed,
their dept is an isolated one. For others, I think they knew me well. If I right, I will request
a change of work procedures, if I am wrong, I will admit and note down for future reference.
Wrong or right, they will try my methods, cos they no other alternative liao.
Usually my company the "orbat" is:

PIC > Indian Chief > Those want to promote > Subject expert > Actual culprit

 

[jeffprobst]

if you know your team, everyone just bootlick the bosses, only do things on surface to look good, then, you jolly well know, the team is not trustable - everyone is in the game for themselves only.

 

[Lchlch]

Good question.

My issue with another dept is they will trust me if my analysis and concluding fault lies in another
dept other than their own. If it is their fault, I will have to prove until the sun goes down till they admit.
They rather taichi their way out of the situation to the point of the whole matter blew up.
Then they calmly clear up the mess they did and of cos never admit its their problem.

I think is not a trust issue. It is a defense mechanism in this case.

But seeing the others at least listen to the explanation and trying out ideas I proposed,
their dept is an isolated one. For others, I think they knew me well. If I right, I will request
a change of work procedures, if I am wrong, I will admit and note down for future reference.
Wrong or right, they will try my methods, cos they no other alternative liao.
Usually my company the "orbat" is:

PIC > Indian Chief > Those want to promote > Subject expert > Actual culprit

Mine is different.

Even the issue is from them (other department), your lead will strangely telling you indirectly is your fault.

By adding " yo, next time, must do this n that To ensure this won't happen".

I was huh? They are wrong n why i must hv more checks to help them?
That's what I experienced now.

 

[cosmothecat]

At work cannot trust anyone

I witness backstabbing many many

 

[jeffprobst]

At work cannot trust anyone

I witness backstabbing many many

concur with this. in the past i always placed a lot of trust in the team and my peers as i always have this naive thoughts that everyone is in for the job, to get things completed. It was until my last toxic workplace in a local bank that i realized, cannot trust anyone in the job.

 

[freshsoapsmell]

 

[Song Bro]

Mine is different.

Even the issue is from them (other department), your lead will strangely telling you indirectly is your fault.

By adding " yo, next time, must do this n that To ensure this won't happen".

I was huh? They are wrong n why i must hv more checks to help them?
That's what I experienced now.

I see. This I also kenna before. But i usually will blow up the issue and list it under audit check points for next quality audit. Since I am the one doing the saigang, finalising the process, i will make sure my solution will link the fault checking area directly/indirectly to their dept. So i still achieve the prevention while the involved dept cant escape responsibilty. (I am a certifed process auditor, so i know where to pick faults).

 

[TA20222025]

If you own a business, do you trust your customers will pay you if they buy on credit and you have no invoice but just verbal agreement?

Same thing here. Trust is not something you should apply in both business and career. There is a reason why contract law exists. Of course, I cannot tell you to go sign contracts with your colleagues everyday but when it comes to actual work assignment and responsibilities, these should be spelled out on emails at least so that everyone is accountable for their respective areas.