[Depressed] Tired, need help.

[IAmChiobu12M]

I also sian ji pua. I serving notice and my mgr happily spamming leave leaving me to do two person work daily.

Next job really hope I got a gd mgr. If not I dunno what to think anymore

It might be worse caz available job these days all sai. But I wish you all the best!

 

[XiaoChilli]

It might be worse caz available job these days all sai. But I wish you all the best!

Hahahahahhaaaa.
Sianzzzz.
At least u go home can take a break.
My head heavy and go home got baby to tk care

 

[lifeafter41]

Wow!! Early 30s got few hundred Ks…………

 

[Wyattbird]

Life has it's up and down. You may be experiencing the down currently. But always remember, without the down, how can you appreciate the up?

Same as light and darkness, these things go hand in hand. Try to remember and focus on the good you've had before to tide you through the bad.

If all else fails, try doing something physically to jolt your dopamine production.

 

[Gaiason]

 

[Kapish]

like you said .. you gave your all and got emotionally, mentally and physically exhausted from the effort

choose carefully where to focus your energy on ... be it work or relationships

 

[XiaoChilli]

Life has it's up and down. You may be experiencing the down currently. But always remember, without the down, how can you appreciate the up?

Same as light and darkness, these things go hand in hand. Try to remember and focus on the good you've had before to tide you through the bad.

If all else fails, try doing something physically to jolt your dopamine production.

Eat sugar.. my love is sugar

 

[yeenfei]

Maybe not in context, but think its a common illness with many a younger person. This comparing with those richer or doing way much better. And try to imitate their life or style.

Thing is 要认命. 没有 ti-gong-kia 或 ah-siah-kia 的命, 就不要有 ti-gong-kia 或 ah-siah-kia 的病. Stop having unrealistic expectations.

Many people will encounter alot of bad situations all the time one. Difference is rich and powerful people can use their money and influence solve their problems easily. But ordinary people many can only LLST suffer and accept whatever craps that come to them.

Those old enough and went through it will know. Its common for young people to think that they have the world in their hand, full of ambition, thinking whatever they do, good things must come to them.

But reality is often otherwise. When they get beaten enough by the harsh reality of society, then many will know to temper their expectations and be more realistic in setting their goals.

Not saying don't hope for good things or cannot have ambition. But alot younger people their ambition tend can be over unrealistic base on their existing situation. They are not ah-siah-kia or ti-gong-kia yet expect the world to revolve around them. And then get disappointed by reality often.

Should learn to be more grounded. Aim to improve little by little from own current situaiton. Not see what other more capable or rich have want to have also. Like that then can see more small improvements and more happy situations out of it. Don't get so easily dishearten.

based on Confucius, need at least 40~50 to realize this
三十而立，四十不惑，五十知天命

 

[Otaku007]

Got go pray pray bo
Maybe got something hinder your luck

 

[Rainyriver]

U must have a way to destress n relieve urself. It’s a coping mechanism. Even with money u so stress n depressed, then smth is wrong. Dont think too much

 

[qcy888]

ts, dont worry, u r not alone
i am also feeling miserable over work related issues currently

Both of you have so much in common, just tie the knot sua la.

 

[2Blogic]

dinner liao, you see the light at the end of the tunnel restaurant

 

[moonlighter_sg]

You would rather cry in a BMW than smile on a bicycle. It’s okay to not be okay right now. Take all the time you need.

 

[Shion]

Both of you have so much in common, just tie the knot sua la.

 

[ShinnAsuka]

Ts needs breaths of fun and excitement in her life.

 

[HelloEllo]

Pray, maybe take a holiday and break. Sometimes its mind making things worst than they really are.
Yesterday I was listening to a documentary, go check it out. Will post link

 

[HelloEllo]

Basically, personality or the feelings we are at the moment is self defined. Fake it till you make it works.

 

[sango65]

ts, dont worry, u r not alone
i am also feeling miserable over work related issues currently

wah, you are boss of a company and also sianz?

 

[Ethan_]

based on Confucius, need at least 40~50 to realize this
三十而立，四十不惑，五十知天命

Think ancient knowledge alot is based on experience and observation one. Fit the general populace. Thus, mostly got some truth.

But often its those who went through it liao tend will reaslise so personal. Before that they is just read so, not really think its so. Thus often its those who went through that stage then will know its somewhat true.

Most people often in the youth, till 30s still have high hope they 天命之子, got the midas touch. They can be like those rich ASK, young young rich and successful liao.

But after many years of 社会毒打, nowhere nearer to their rich man dream. By the time 40s above liao, especially those still no money no honey. Or mid life 上有老, 下有小, 还有一屁股债, then will slowly come to the realisation they not 天命之子, then will come back to the practical of daily living, set aside the wild dreams, serious take care of family needs first, 老老实实做个不同人.

 

[TanKianW]

Emotionally and mentally jaded.

From work and from people.

I always give my all and I get back shxt. Or I'm always being misunderstood. Or always end up in bad places.

I'm really tired. At this point maybe really should call it end. I've done all the hard work. But...kept giving 2nd chance to new opportunities, new people, new stuff, new experiences and many say is "day one or one day" . But seems to still stuck at day one on loop.

Rule 1: accept you are who you are, you are just human. Be merciful to yourself, cut yourself some slack. Let go of stuff that is beyond or out of your control.
Rule 2: accept they are who they are, you can't change them
Rule 3: you answer to no one but yourself
Rule 4: stop giving your all to work or to people, give back to yourself
Rule 5: take a deep breath, go out exercise and throw everything behind or do something that take your focus away from work
Rule 6: talk to someone who just listens to you, pour it all out. Some will prefer absolute silent ME time and meditate
Rule 7: simply koon/sleep/peng san