Divorce advise. Help please

[Lavisgun]

Need divorce advice from men who have already gone through the divorce procedure To get learnings and better ways to approach the divorce.
Feel like too many ideas are going to explode my brain right now. Just going around directionless. Talking to someone with same experiences would be great help!!
appreciate if anyone can talk to me.

 

[addict951]

Step #1, standby $3K then just go any law firm can alrdy mah

 

[Lifeisgoodagain]

Advice?
Agree to the terms and sign.
freedom.
finish

 

[Asy1um]

If you thinking you getting any help from edmw, then you really need help.

 

[Lchlch]

Need divorce advice from men who have already gone through the divorce procedure To get learnings and better ways to approach the divorce.
Feel like too many ideas are going to explode my brain right now. Just going around directionless. Talking to someone with same experiences would be great help!!
appreciate if anyone can talk to me.

Bro, you already confirmed?
now you are on your own?
everything settle, housing, children, etc?

 

[mp4005 help]

Need divorce advice from men who have already gone through the divorce procedure To get learnings and better ways to approach the divorce.
Feel like too many ideas are going to explode my brain right now. Just going around directionless. Talking to someone with same experiences would be great help!!
appreciate if anyone can talk to me.

just talk to the lawyer first. experience ones will tell you what to do..

everyone's circumstances different. hard to give good advice.


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[MoeLanYong]

Got kids?

No kids easy. Got kids, difficult.

 

[dambio]

Like wat aspect in d divorce? Kids money hse?

 

[duatiaoloh]

Why divorce?

 

[LWZ]

Mind sharing details about your situation ?

 

[Lavisgun]

Thank you so much

Reason for divorce: loveless, sexless marriage since years. For her it’s fine, but for my individual well being it kills me every day to live in a lifeless partnership.

am a Singapore PR with 2 kids.
there is a hdb resale flat in picture which is under minimum occupation period ending at Dec 2027
My spouse doesn’t wish to end marriage.

with respect to kids we are sorted she will take the kids back home country and care of them.

the biggest issue is HDB flat she threatens me, she will destroy everything and return back flat to HDB at the prevailing market price . She don’t want to transfer her share to my son or daughter by taking her share back from me.

For the HDB and renovation I have all the bills and bank statements. 90% money has been contributed by me. She is using that to make me stuck in the marriage.

I have given her multiple offers on alimony, give her back her share, taking care of kids finance for life, but she turns back and say she don’t want to talk divorce.

please advise anything. Is there a way to reduce my losses on the Hdb flat. Please advise if you know anything

 

[106gunner]

Joined 40 mins ago just to post this thread?

 

[redmilo]

@coyote

 

[Lavisgun]

Joined 40 mins ago just to post this thread?

Yes I don’t where to get advice so found this website.

 

[Atrina_Boy]

Thank you so much

Reason for divorce: loveless, sexless marriage since years. For her it’s fine, but for my individual well being it kills me every day to live in a lifeless partnership.

am a Singapore PR with 2 kids.
there is a hdb resale flat in picture which is under minimum occupation period ending at Dec 2027
My spouse doesn’t wish to end marriage.

with respect to kids we are sorted she will take the kids back home country and care of them.

the biggest issue is HDB flat she threatens me, she will destroy everything and return back flat to HDB at the prevailing market price . She don’t want to transfer her share to my son or daughter by taking her share back from me.

For the HDB and renovation I have all the bills and bank statements. 90% money has been contributed by me. She is using that to make me stuck in the marriage.

I have given her multiple offers on alimony, give her back her share, taking care of kids finance for life, but she turns back and say she don’t want to talk divorce.

please advise anything. Is there a way to reduce my losses on the Hdb flat. Please advise if you know anything

wah
divorced really jin messy

 

[NightGhost]

If she dont wan to talk about divorce. Maybe can talk about how to improve relationships?

 

[JohnnySasaki]

Divorce in SG not easy one, unless there is a valid reason (sexless is not one of them) then cannot.

usually must separate 3 years first but can be backdated by lawyers

but most likely they will ask u all go counselling all those first

if the wife die die dun wanna sign also lan lan, just find another woman swa.

 

[nincomp00p]

Thank you so much

Reason for divorce: loveless, sexless marriage since years. For her it’s fine, but for my individual well being it kills me every day to live in a lifeless partnership.

am a Singapore PR with 2 kids.
there is a hdb resale flat in picture which is under minimum occupation period ending at Dec 2027
My spouse doesn’t wish to end marriage.

with respect to kids we are sorted she will take the kids back home country and care of them.

the biggest issue is HDB flat she threatens me, she will destroy everything and return back flat to HDB at the prevailing market price . She don’t want to transfer her share to my son or daughter by taking her share back from me.

For the HDB and renovation I have all the bills and bank statements. 90% money has been contributed by me. She is using that to make me stuck in the marriage.

I have given her multiple offers on alimony, give her back her share, taking care of kids finance for life, but she turns back and say she don’t want to talk divorce.

please advise anything. Is there a way to reduce my losses on the Hdb flat. Please advise if you know anything

this will be your Achilles heel

 

[duatiaoloh]

Thank you so much

Reason for divorce: loveless, sexless marriage since years. For her it’s fine, but for my individual well being it kills me every day to live in a lifeless partnership.

am a Singapore PR with 2 kids.
there is a hdb resale flat in picture which is under minimum occupation period ending at Dec 2027
My spouse doesn’t wish to end marriage.

with respect to kids we are sorted she will take the kids back home country and care of them.

the biggest issue is HDB flat she threatens me, she will destroy everything and return back flat to HDB at the prevailing market price . She don’t want to transfer her share to my son or daughter by taking her share back from me.

For the HDB and renovation I have all the bills and bank statements. 90% money has been contributed by me. She is using that to make me stuck in the marriage.

I have given her multiple offers on alimony, give her back her share, taking care of kids finance for life, but she turns back and say she don’t want to talk divorce.

please advise anything. Is there a way to reduce my losses on the Hdb flat. Please advise if you know anything

Tell her can if she don't want divorce she must give you lovefull, sexfull marriage starting from now.

Win win situation for both. You happy she happy.

 

[syb1989]

Thank you so much

Reason for divorce: loveless, sexless marriage since years. For her it’s fine, but for my individual well being it kills me every day to live in a lifeless partnership.

am a Singapore PR with 2 kids.
there is a hdb resale flat in picture which is under minimum occupation period ending at Dec 2027
My spouse doesn’t wish to end marriage.

with respect to kids we are sorted she will take the kids back home country and care of them.

the biggest issue is HDB flat she threatens me, she will destroy everything and return back flat to HDB at the prevailing market price . She don’t want to transfer her share to my son or daughter by taking her share back from me.

For the HDB and renovation I have all the bills and bank statements. 90% money has been contributed by me. She is using that to make me stuck in the marriage.

I have given her multiple offers on alimony, give her back her share, taking care of kids finance for life, but she turns back and say she don’t want to talk divorce.

please advise anything. Is there a way to reduce my losses on the Hdb flat. Please advise if you know anything

Please take my comments as a heap of salt.
Just sharing my thoughts.

2 points here.

Grounds for divorce. From what you wrote seemed to be that she is unwilling to file based on the terms provided (as you mentioned).
1) can you propose that she be the plaintiff instead? I.e. you are the fked up one.
2) you can move out and created the evidence of separation for 3 years, or create evidence of having "small3".

I believe you know that the "grounds for divorce" and "ancillary matters" are separate things.

So if you are insistent on the divorce, you might need to push some things in a certain way.

On the "matrimonial home", don't quite understand what you meant, is it joint ownership? The renovation receipts might help but don't bang on it.
There is no "fair trade" when it comes to division of assests. One party will definitely pay more monetarily (for freedom).

Moving forward, try to keep evidence (text, audio, video recordings).

Last but not least consult a lawyer...
When emotions run high, people can't think straight.

I wish you all the best and perseverance strength.