Divorce advise. Help please

[vee4044]

Step #1, standby $3K then just go any law firm can alrdy mah

** la...$1500 more than enough. If both parties consent the the Divorce. If the gal got Affair. She will
Pay for U....Each $1500. Cant use same Lawyer to Proceed for both Case....Need further Infos PM me....

 

[ahnyaahnya]

If you thinking you getting any help from edmw, then you really need help.

Really need help that's why he's asking mah.
Not all here are BBFA.
Some are now BBNA ( Now alone)

 

[sacrificium]

Thank you so much

Reason for divorce: loveless, sexless marriage since years. For her it’s fine, but for my individual well being it kills me every day to live in a lifeless partnership.

am a Singapore PR with 2 kids.
there is a hdb resale flat in picture which is under minimum occupation period ending at Dec 2027
My spouse doesn’t wish to end marriage.

with respect to kids we are sorted she will take the kids back home country and care of them.

the biggest issue is HDB flat she threatens me, she will destroy everything and return back flat to HDB at the prevailing market price . She don’t want to transfer her share to my son or daughter by taking her share back from me.

For the HDB and renovation I have all the bills and bank statements. 90% money has been contributed by me. She is using that to make me stuck in the marriage.

I have given her multiple offers on alimony, give her back her share, taking care of kids finance for life, but she turns back and say she don’t want to talk divorce.

please advise anything. Is there a way to reduce my losses on the Hdb flat. Please advise if you know anything

Just sell back to HDB at current price. Prices has been going up, won’t be a major lost. At least you won’t have the liability.

Or status quo as she requested and find life outside.

 

[Lavisgun]

just talk to the lawyer first. experience ones will tell you what to do..

everyone's circumstances different. hard to give good advice.

Thank for you the message. Assuming the lawyer discussions are confidential. Please confirm

 

[sacrificium]

Divorce in SG not easy one, unless there is a valid reason (sexless is not one of them) then cannot.

usually must separate 3 years first but can be backdated by lawyers

but most likely they will ask u all go counselling all those first

if the wife die die dun wanna sign also lan lan, just find another woman swa.

Backdating if both parties are fine. Not in TS’ case.

 

[lifeafter41]

Need divorce advice from men who have already gone through the divorce procedure To get learnings and better ways to approach the divorce.
Feel like too many ideas are going to explode my brain right now. Just going around directionless. Talking to someone with same experiences would be great help!!
appreciate if anyone can talk to me.

Got friend going through it.
Mutual agreement between both.
First question, is the relationship acrimonious?……

 

[PaprikaSG]

TS, are you ready to lose everything?

 

[jacko123]

** la...$1500 more than enough. If both parties consent the the Divorce. If the gal got Affair. She will
Pay for U....Each $1500. Cant use same Lawyer to Proceed for both Case....Need further Infos PM me....

mine settled less than $1k.
uncontested.

 

[Laneige]

Advice?
Agree to the terms and sign.
freedom.
finish

dont be crazy

if just agree n sign then cannot U-Turn

there r men end up with nothing including no home or place to stay after divorce

 

[zzzzzzz]

maybe @coolhead can shares adviced

 

[8inchMortal]

Lawyer up if you insist on divorce your case doesn’t look good. From what you wrote you seem like you love money so much and every cent counts unfortunately the free advice here won’t help you.

 

[Laneige]

Yes I don’t where to get advice so found this website.

then u better read carefully

soon u will find out this place is full of many diff types of ppl
got dragons
phoenix
siao lang
dua pao xian
cant wait to see world burnt...
troll

 

[Lifeisgoodagain]

dont be crazy

if just agree n sign then cannot U-Turn

there r men end up with nothing including no home or place to stay after divorce

Freedom not worth the price?

then dun keh kiang divorce.

play stupid game get stupid prize.

 

[mp4005 help]

Thank for you the message. Assuming the lawyer discussions are confidential. Please confirm

lawyer discussions are confidential.

just let your lawyer talk to her lawyer.
then meet up together to settle.

they are experienced , seen many cases can advice you better. in this case is the HDB issue.

worse case go court let court decide .


Read HWZ Forum Rules!

 

[Tschuus]

First time is always tough. U get better with experience.

 

[buttbERry]

stay as bbfa

will not have such probs

 

[Racking2322]

Try counselling first?

 

[Lavisgun]

Please take my comments as a heap of salt.
Just sharing my thoughts.

2 points here.

Grounds for divorce. From what you wrote seemed to be that she is unwilling to file based on the terms provided (as you mentioned).
1) can you propose that she be the plaintiff instead? I.e. you are the fked up one.
2) you can move out and created the evidence of separation for 3 years, or create evidence of having "small3".

I believe you know that the "grounds for divorce" and "ancillary matters" are separate things.

So if you are insistent on the divorce, you might need to push some things in a certain way.

On the "matrimonial home", don't quite understand what you meant, is it joint ownership? The renovation receipts might help but don't bang on it.
There is no "fair trade" when it comes to division of assests. One party will definitely pay more monetarily (for freedom).

Moving forward, try to keep evidence (text, audio, video recordings).

Last but not least consult a lawyer...
When emotions run high, people can't think straight.

I wish you all the best and perseverance strength.

Thank you, these are great advises. I can try talk her out on Point 1 & 2.
Personally I don’t prefer point 2, as 3 years is a long wait.
absolutely agree on no fair trade, ready to pay more for the freedom.
will consult a lawyer asap.
Thank you again

 

[Lavisgun]

TS, are you ready to lose everything?

Not yet ready for Hdb losses

 

[jacko123]

bro, be honest.
you fell in love with another girl is it?