First date - with a stranger

[RunningDwaeji]

Randomly watch singles inferno dating show and they are actively making themselves known/seen by the opposite sex, going to paradise with people they are curious about.

Last time, I always want to have longer get-to-know each other periods and goody feely before i meet up in person.

To prevent wasting time, do you chat up and build foundational friendship first or just meet in person and figure?
Without good feeling in chat, the first meet will be like a making friend session or first date?

 

[Atilas]

It all depends on your personality.

I am those who cannot date friends as I value my friendships, so I wouldn't be looking to build any foundational friendship. Once the friendship line is established, I will always stay in that zone.

First date is always about getting to know each other to establish whether if a further relationship is likely, or not.

 

[Sheepcat4.37]

Randomly watch singles inferno dating show and they are actively making themselves known/seen by the opposite sex, going to paradise with people they are curious about.

Last time, I always want to have longer get-to-know each other periods and goody feely before i meet up in person.

To prevent wasting time, do you chat up and build foundational friendship first or just meet in person and figure?
Without good feeling in chat, the first meet will be like a making friend session or first date?

Without good feeling in chat is strictly no go

I did something like first chat tonight, met tomorrow. Turned out she was the best date The rest were... mai gong liao geh xin

 

[Spike]

Randomly watch singles inferno dating show and they are actively making themselves known/seen by the opposite sex, going to paradise with people they are curious about.

Last time, I always want to have longer get-to-know each other periods and goody feely before i meet up in person.

To prevent wasting time, do you chat up and build foundational friendship first or just meet in person and figure?
Without good feeling in chat, the first meet will be like a making friend session or first date?

A text conversation is definitely not on the same level with a f2f conversation given that it is very common to see a disparity between an online persona and an in real life personality.

U might end up liking a non-existent person (his online persona)

By engaging that prospective candidate early f2f, u are saving ur own time.

That said, this does not mean u should take the initiative to ask the guy out but instead should wait to see how long it takes for him to muster the courage to ask u out.

 

[BennyQ]

Dating and not dating, everyone is different. How to find out anything without dating? That's why I don't date since I cannot be myself when I date. Maybe what people want is a demo?

 

[Tony.Manero]

A text conversation is definitely not on the same level with a f2f conversation given that it is very common to see a disparity between an online persona and an in real life personality.

U might end up liking a non-existent person (his online persona)

By engaging that prospective candidate early f2f, u are saving ur own time.

That said, this does not mean u should take the initiative to ask the guy out but instead should wait to see how long it takes for him to muster the courage to ask u out.

Ai sio....

 

[Tony.Manero]

Randomly watch singles inferno dating show and they are actively making themselves known/seen by the opposite sex, going to paradise with people they are curious about.

Last time, I always want to have longer get-to-know each other periods and goody feely before i meet up in person.

To prevent wasting time, do you chat up and build foundational friendship first or just meet in person and figure?
Without good feeling in chat, the first meet will be like a making friend session or first date?

If u talk online longer with the person, it's to determine whether the vibes are ok and whether the person has common interests and whether is worth meeting.

 

[RunningDwaeji]

Without good feeling in chat is strictly no go

I did something like first chat tonight, met tomorrow. Turned out she was the best date The rest were... mai gong liao geh xin

Same, if chat is not smooth, i wont expect real lif to be a better exp. But might consider to be considering meeting and see how things are.

 

[saiyan2005]

It all depends on your personality.

I am those who cannot date friends as I value my friendships, so I wouldn't be looking to build any foundational friendship. Once the friendship line is established, I will always stay in that zone.

First date is always about getting to know each other to establish whether if a further relationship is likely, or not.

Why cannot date fren? Marry ur best fren is actually bad?

 

[RedRedWine]

Theres prolly a balance to be drawn between chatting and meeting up

meet too fast u might end up with a crappy date cus too bey gam

chat too long u start to have too many wrong expectations which might have been better if the relationship had been built more from a f2f meet up

i think in general good to have some preliminary knowledge about general character and views then just arrange a coffee date as first date, tentative time span is like chat a week plus regularly and then decide if its worth a meet up alr

 

[coolhead]

Chat a few days on CMB, do video call until got feeling to meet, then meet in real.

 

[RunningDwaeji]

A text conversation is definitely not on the same level with a f2f conversation given that it is very common to see a disparity between an online persona and an in real life personality.

U might end up liking a non-existent person (his online persona)

By engaging that prospective candidate early f2f, u are saving ur own time.

That said, this does not mean u should take the initiative to ask the guy out but instead should wait to see how long it takes for him to muster the courage to ask u out.

thanks for the tips, sometimes f2f is whats necessary to know if proceed or cut loss. HAHA

 

[RunningDwaeji]

Dating and not dating, everyone is different. How to find out anything without dating? That's why I don't date since I cannot be myself when I date. Maybe what people want is a demo?

why you are not urself? nervous?? anxiety?

 

[Atilas]

Why cannot date fren? Marry ur best fren is actually bad?

Different people have different personality. No right or wrong.

Personally, I just find it hard to date a friend and face the risk of losing a friend after finding out our incompatibility as a couple.

 

[saiyan2005]

Different people have different personality. No right or wrong.

Personally, I just find it hard to date a friend and face the risk of losing a friend due to incompatibility as a couple.

Ya i agree too. Hard to be frens with someone u like.

 

[BennyQ]

why you are not urself? nervous?? anxiety?

Nope. Everyone is not themselves when not alone. And worse when they want something. This is deep kind of analysis. Not mainstream mass market kind.

 

[Decorum]

iirc i remember for my first date

i usually prepared a script and did a manual on what to do and say

 

[RunningDwaeji]

iirc i remember for my first date

i usually prepared a script and did a manual on what to do and say

Every first date u use the same script? HAHA

 

[Spike]

thanks for the tips, sometimes f2f is whats necessary to know if proceed or cut loss. HAHA

If u ask me.. spend one hour to meet the fellow f2f is more efficient than to spend one week to repeat the same things u had repeated to 50 other guys.

Notwithstanding any emotional investment and questioning by some random dude about why it took u so long to reply a message, was it because u were talking to 10 other dudes etc. Increased brain fatigue.

 

[BennyQ]

Ya i agree too. Hard to be frens with someone u like.

This is logically flawed or terminology is wrong. If it's hard to be frens with someone u like then it should be hard to like a friend. Maybe what u mean is hard to be friends with someone u are attracted to.