First date - with a stranger

[Hyperephania]

1 hour, mean only coffee kinda hangout. low commitment on both ends. but i feel to travel all the way out and back, dress up and all for a 1 hr coffee. May be it should be more formal event isnt it?

guys dont dress up. its literally low commitment.

hmm, mayhaps just align with your "date" that is just a chill casual meeting?

like that both sides no expectations on dressing.

 

[RunningDwaeji]

Yes

It does work cos sometimes there will be awkward pauses of 1 to 2 minutes as
there may not be mutually interesting topics if the meetup is only after a few days of chatting

you have to be really good at digging up info oto connect the dots in order to build up the conversation

otherwise i will feel that the conversation will be somewhat shallow

like for example if you see the person holding a dog, then you can have a conversation about it but if there is no detail it will be quite hard at first then you will have to probe and probe and query further along the way which requires a technique but some ladies may not be comfortable with it

Have u met chatty people?

 

[BennyQ]

if she is the right person, i'll know after meeting her in person by the eighth time

if she is the wrong person, i'll know after 1-3 dates. i don't find women difficult to understand. on the contrary, it's more important whether i am understood correctly by the girl. does she ask questions? does she make attempts to probe my personality? if no questions are forthcoming, she's probably not interested

Yah. This what happened when i was younger! Maybe that's why I dunno how to date anymore. I was spoilt by women who liked me when I was younger.

 

[lazypix]

Just Zoom online. You get the best of both worlds.

 

[RunningDwaeji]

hmm, mayhaps just align with your "date" that is just a chill casual meeting?

like that both sides no expectations on dressing.

True alignment is important.
But first meet girls will surely dress up for the "casual coffee" no?
Have u been on a casual coffee sesh where the girls dress to the lvl of casual coffee sesh on first meet?

 

[Atilas]

True alignment is important.
But first meet girls will surely dress up for the "casual coffee" no?
Have u been on a casual coffee sesh where the girls dress to the lvl of casual coffee sesh on first meet?

Honestly, I have not met any girls who did not dress up for the first dates unless they were out to get a free meal or drinks..

 

[Hyperephania]

True alignment is important.
But first meet girls will surely dress up for the "casual coffee" no?
Have u been on a casual coffee sesh where the girls dress to the lvl of casual coffee sesh on first meet?

Ask wrong person, I single don't know how many decades already

But maybe cos my view is I don't really care because personally I'm not someone who always dresses up in the first place.

 

[BennyQ]

Just remembered. Pickup students once shared with me that men must hit on or flirt with women very hard in the beginning, then when women show interest then can relax and be more yourself. Anyway I can't be bothered. Think just let the same pickup artists get all the women bah. Win win haha.

 

[Geminiboy]

Randomly watch singles inferno dating show and they are actively making themselves known/seen by the opposite sex, going to paradise with people they are curious about.

Last time, I always want to have longer get-to-know each other periods and goody feely before i meet up in person.

To prevent wasting time, do you chat up and build foundational friendship first or just meet in person and figure?
Without good feeling in chat, the first meet will be like a making friend session or first date?

can use chatgpt to talk to you as long as you like first

 

[unrealx262]

i chat w wife for one week den the same weekend hold hand liao. m32 f33 then

 

[vee4044]

Same, if chat is not smooth, i wont expect real lif to be a better exp. But might consider to be considering meeting and see how things are.

Cant Chat then let her chat with the Chef....She might be much happy. Then U can hv Happy Ending.

 

[RunningDwaeji]

Honestly, I have not met any girls who did not dress up for the first dates unless they were out to get a free meal or drinks..

ur sentense dont make sense to me

 

[VIPHUAT888]

Randomly watch singles inferno dating show and they are actively making themselves known/seen by the opposite sex, going to paradise with people they are curious about.

Last time, I always want to have longer get-to-know each other periods and goody feely before i meet up in person.

To prevent wasting time, do you chat up and build foundational friendship first or just meet in person and figure?
Without good feeling in chat, the first meet will be like a making friend session or first date?

Before I got married, I meet my wife at an online platform like EDMW but is not la. After exchanging numbers, slowly we get to know each other. Then I geh xiao go say I am jin free because all my family and friend travel out of SG, want meet up.

Spark happen. The rest can use your own imagination

 

[Atilas]

ur sentense dont make sense to me

I meant the girls who were really interested to know me better, had dressed up for the first dates. A few who didn't, came for the dates with little interest.

 

[kittyklysm]

chat for 1 or 2 weeks before meet, not gg to bother spending hours doing hair, make up and matching outfit for a stranger. a female usually have many matches, you only have limited free time, so use it wisely.

 

[iCubes]

I prefer chatting with the person for a while before proposing a meet-up. I've saved so much time from not meeting people with different goals, values and interest. And always pick a place where you enjoy the food, so even if the date sucks, the food will at least neutralise the experience.

 

[buttbERry]

meet is ebtter

but bbfas dont think too much is the best

 

[RunningDwaeji]

I prefer chatting with the person for a while before proposing a meet-up. I've saved so much time from not meeting people with different goals, values and interest. And always pick a place where you enjoy the food, so even if the date sucks, the food will at least neutralise the experience.

I agree, good food convenient location.

 

[Kwein]

i chat with my ex GF on OKC for about 6 months then meet up, hold hand on first date

fastfoward to today we now married for 7 years, with 1 si ginna

 

[RunningDwaeji]

i chat with my ex GF on OKC for about 6 months then meet up, hold hand on first date

fastfoward to today we now married for 7 years, with 1 si ginna

How come chat 6 mths never meet? so when meet you guys must be having aa offline crush already?