hiring helper or nursing home？

[choochoomei83]

my father hospitalized got stroke. social worker told me that my father can dechange le give me 3 choices

1. me take of my father at home
(need to work and mother eyesight also not good le how to take care him

2. hiring helper
monthly around how much？

3. nursing home
social worker said 3k-5k

helper

 

[trojanhorse]

haha boss, just say it here

法律漏洞。Cannot write openly.

 

[jywy2005]

法律漏洞。Cannot write openly.

Please do the needful and whistleblow. Dun let the foreigners enjoy all the subsidies paid by our taxes

 

[qhong61]

helper

Why

 

[dexterkim]

sending my father to nursing home this week feel 心酸酸的,i keep tell my mom hire helper better but she said my father go nursing home she more 安心

 

[qhong61]

sending my father to nursing home this week feel 心酸酸的,i keep tell my mom hire helper better but she said my father go nursing home she more 安心

How much

 

[Lustgan]

Tbh why not try to send to Malaysia nursing home for more affordable price?

 

[qhong61]

Tbh why not try to send to Malaysia nursing home for more affordable price?

He is filial son.
Don't suggest.

 

[qhong61]

Tbh why not try to send to Malaysia nursing home for more affordable price?

If I ever suggest that to my dad, guess he will jump down.

 

[Lustgan]

If I ever suggest that to my dad, guess he will jump down.

Why tho? Seriously sg nursing home not cheap can try jb one….

 

[qhong61]

Why tho? Seriously sg nursing home not cheap can try jb one….

Unless ur dad himself suggest

 

[rainygrainy]

sending my father to nursing home this week feel 心酸酸的,i keep tell my mom hire helper better but she said my father go nursing home she more 安心

Sad but if ur dad gets better can fetch him home n hire a maid then...

 

[cheryl81]

i feel nursing home is better. it shouldnt be that expensive with subsides.

maid is see heng sway. you dk if the maid can take care properly anot.

 

[qhong61]

i feel nursing home is better. it shouldnt be that expensive with subsides.

maid is see heng sway. you dk if the maid can take care properly anot.

Helper best if the elderly still quite alert

 

[qhong61]

Sad but if ur dad gets better can fetch him home n hire a maid then...

Better dont go against mum wish.
She is the one facing him whole day.

 

[dexterkim]

How much

900+

Sad but if ur dad gets better can fetch him home n hire a maid then...

yes i tell my mother if getting better will fetch him home

 

[arsenalfc85]

Helper best if the elderly still quite alert

definitely

but must adjust own expectations of helper.

they will just do bare minimum.

I treat my helper so good, in the end she only do bare minimum, she doesn't even want to care much for my dad.

I can feel she's trying to push most of the stuff to me, despite me giving her discount in housework so she can have more time and energy for my dad, but she's trying to avoid my dad and throw most of the stuff to me.

I am sick and tired of my life. I used to be someone who is very homely. Now i dread going home. I will still go home and do what is needed out of responsibility, but deep down in my heart, i am starting to dread going home. Now if i can stay out, i try to stay out as much as possible. Cuz the moment i go home after work or stay home on weekends, its machiam another round of stress after work, and when i see my helper do things, sometimes i feel frustrated.

I am not trying to avoid responsibility, more like trying to avoid stress after work. Or so i can recharge properly over weekend

 

[GarnetDragon]

Helpers are cheaper, but must keep an eye on them

 

[Ethan_]

sending my father to nursing home this week feel 心酸酸的,i keep tell my mom hire helper better but she said my father go nursing home she more 安心

Think its somewhat heart wrenching when see loved one beg to go home, and see them alone there. If can and able to, think should let old people live at home with extra help. No choice then send nursing home.

Nursing home say is better care, but not always there to see, so won't really know. They have to one person take care of many, how sure is the service then.

At home at least its more or less one to one and there are family members around most of the time to really see and know its so. Think its quite lonely one with no family around, unless family visit often.

 

[qhong61]

definitely

but must adjust own expectations of helper.

they will just do bare minimum.

I treat my helper so good, in the end she only do bare minimum, she doesn't even want to care much for my dad.

I can feel she's trying to push most of the stuff to me, despite me giving her discount in housework so she can have more time and energy for my dad, but she's trying to avoid my dad and throw most of the stuff to me.

I am sick and tired of my life. I used to be someone who is very homely. Now i dread going home. I will still go home and do what is needed out of responsibility, but deep down in my heart, i am starting to dread going home. Now if i can stay out, i try to stay out as much as possible. Cuz the moment i go home after work or stay home on weekends, its machiam another round of stress after work, and when i see my helper do things, sometimes i feel frustrated.

I am not trying to avoid responsibility, more like trying to avoid stress after work. Or so i can recharge properly over weekend

Then change helper