How to be happy in life

[cosmothecat]

2 hours video? Got a summary?

(good points made but don't need 2 hours to say these)

Morgan Housel’s video argues that happiness and financial well-being are not about accumulating wealth but about how money is used to increase independence and purpose.

- Money should be seen as a tool for freedom and choice, not just status or possessions.

- Both saving and spending can be unhealthy if they control behavior; balanced money habits improve well-being.

- True happiness comes from relationships, health, and meaningful activities—not luxury goods or extreme wealth.

The video encourages viewers to focus spending on connections and experiences, save enough for flexibility, and prioritize personal fulfillment over social comparison.

 

[Laguna123]

(good points made but don't need 2 hours to say these)

Morgan Housel’s video argues that happiness and financial well-being are not about accumulating wealth but about how money is used to increase independence and purpose.

- Money should be seen as a tool for freedom and choice, not just status or possessions.

- Both saving and spending can be unhealthy if they control behavior; balanced money habits improve well-being.

- True happiness comes from relationships, health, and meaningful activities—not luxury goods or extreme wealth.

The video encourages viewers to focus spending on connections and experiences, save enough for flexibility, and prioritize personal fulfillment over social comparison.

Understood. Thank you for the summary.

 

[Lchlch]

How to be happy?
Mindfulness.
Stay at present.
Dont walk the past.
Dont see the future.

 

[cosmothecat]

Understood. Thank you for the summary.

Those were good points, I agree

But don't need 2 hours so lor soh to say those points

 

[testerjp]

I watched this video before.
Not really enlightening or mind blowing.
You can find better and deeper knowledge in Buddha videos saying similar things about expectations.

But all these are moot if your wife has high expectations or is the alpha in the family.

 

[cosmothecat]

I watched this video before.
Not really enlightening or mind blowing.
You can find better and deeper knowledge in Buddha videos saying similar things about expectations.

But all these are moot if your wife has high expectations or is the alpha in the family.

This

Husband always bend over to meet wife's expectations

 

[loganrunning]

Sounds to me more like it's not work. It's having to deal with people and their expectations etc.

If you could do work that doesn't have to deal with people you won't feel so negative? I know it's easier said than done to find work that involves no people.

one of my ex-staff. comes in, leaves, does not say a word. sits in corner of the lab, takes instructions/job requests via email, producing excellent work. many know he exists, but many have not met him.

he was a special guy, very different.

TBH, his work involved people, but he made it such that he didn't interact.

Right now, i can only think of 1 job that involves minimal interaction. Can't think of any job with no interaction.

 

[loganrunning]

Many years ago I had a financial planner work out for me what age I wanted to retire. The lifestyle I wanted. $5k a month. And worked out how much I needed at a certain age to retire.

That was sort of my benchmark. And I doubled that to be safe as a goal for myself.

Sounds like my FA, way back then.

 

[cyke69sg]

one of my ex-staff. comes in, leaves, does not say a word. sits in corner of the lab, takes instructions/job requests via email, producing excellent work. many know he exists, but many have not met him.

he was a special guy, very different.

TBH, his work involved people, but he made it such that he didn't interact.

Right now, i can only think of 1 job that involves minimal interaction. Can't think of any job with no interaction.

The other way around this is to do work where you are always giving people what they want. Meeting their expectations. Seldom or if any situations to tell them no they cannot have what they want. Also that what they want is given instantly or quickly also.

Those types of interactions are usually not problematic. In fact they often involve other being happy and thanking you and saying they appreciate what you are doing for them etc.

 

[loganrunning]

Is it true that must married to be happy?

I was waiting for @cosmothecat to say, "single is better"

 

[cosmothecat]

I was waiting for @cosmothecat to say, "single is better"

Single is the best

 

[loganrunning]

The other way around this is to do work where you are always giving people what they want. Meeting their expectations. Seldom or if any situations to tell them no they cannot have what they want. Also that what they want is given instantly or quickly also.

Those types of interactions are usually not problematic. In fact they often involve other being happy and thanking you and saying they appreciate what you are doing for them etc.

yeah, i didn't think of it this way. Santa claus, perhaps?

 

[RandomPancake]

Sounds to me more like it's not work. It's having to deal with people and their expectations etc.

If you could do work that doesn't have to deal with people you won't feel so negative? I know it's easier said than done to find work that involves no people.

It’s not people expectation, for example I don’t really care what’s my boss expectation of me, I don’t care about promotion.

Some rotten people are just rotten

 

[cyke69sg]

It’s not people expectation, for example I don’t really care what’s my boss expectation of me, I don’t care about promotion.

Some rotten people are just rotten

yes I can understand what you are saying. People are a problem.

I would prefer not to have to talk to anyone.

Or rather that I only talk to the people I want to talk to.

 

[cyke69sg]

yeah, i didn't think of it this way. Santa claus, perhaps?

Sell Lottery

 

[Spike]

Although priorities may change throughout different phases of life, if a person still has no clear sense of direction by midlife, it is unlikely that they will ever reach their goals.

If you don’t start your relationships on the right footing, it’s unlikely you’ll be able to fix them years later.

 

[tigerwoods]

知足才能常乐

 

[CyberTan]

 

[cyke69sg]

知足才能常乐

only when you are content are you happy.

Ie when life meets your expectations you are contented and happy

 

[CyberTan]

Earlier, I was in the library working on my school assignment when I spotted a kid beside me who seemed to be an NUS student. What struck me about this kid was how materialistic he was — LV wallet, Longchamp bag, iPhone 17 Pro, Apple Watch Ultra, MacBook Pro, and AirPods Pro. From head to toe, he was probably carrying around 5–6k worth of stuff.

He hasn’t even stepped into the working world yet, and he’s already behaving like this.