How to be happy?

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Get rid of useless social media.

Your friend's new job, new car, new gf/wife/small 3, new baby or Hokkaido trip has nothing do with you.
 
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arsenalfc85 said:
I don’t like my job. Makes me unhappy

but I need money

how ar?
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This is a common dilemma.

I know how you feel. I was in that position before.

It feels like there is no option but to continue in the unhappy job or have no income.

It is hard to come to terms with it without having options. And at that time I had no idea what options I could have that would be happier . So I felt trapped.

On reflection now that was "all or nothing" thinking"

A few ways one can do in that situation is :

Cut back on the unhappy work. See if can work part-time instead.

While income will drop it will not be zero. Might have no savings. But you gain some relief from the unhappiness.

What happened for me was that as I cut back on my hours and commitment to work I did not like then I started seeing other opportunities in other new areas. (Because I now had more time to offer).

Then transition into doing the work that made me happy. Starting with again part time. But now become part time doing work I enjoy!

Then progress to find other opportunities of work related that I enjoy also.

So end up is doing 3 different part time work that I enjoy. And best of all pays me even more than I previously had with the unhappy work full time.

3 different type work is also more flexible and more STABLE! Cos not reliant on just ONE job/work. The feeling also is more of confidence. Even if one drop the other 2 may pick up. Sometimes all 3 on fire. Sometimes get the 4th. Can even evaluate and say ok I think maybe not worth keeping the 4th. Drop it. Or drop even the 3rd. Just have 2: can still go back to no. 3 and 4? Yes. So how to be jobless?

But you must be happy first. Mind need to be clearer. Not clouded with despair and negativity cos the everything seems no good.

I hope you find a way out.

All the best.
 
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born2fly said:
How to be happy everyday? What makes you happy?
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Reduce or remove expectations of how things should work or turn out in accordance to your ideal model.

Acquire less things - physical and mental. The less you try to amass and hold on to, the less anguish and displeasure you would have when they change or were gone.
 
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born2fly said:
How to be happy everyday? What makes you happy?
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Happiness is a state. Like others have said, you can't be perpetually happy - on some days you'll feel sad, bored, angry etc.

Most people are happy when doing what they like/love/interests them, interacting with people they like/admire/love.. there isn't such a thing as a happy place e.g. I'll be happy when I am in Japan or a happy thing e.g. I'll be happy when I have a iPhone xxx.
 
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cyke69sg said:
This is a common dilemma.

I know how you feel. I was in that position before.

It feels like there is no option but to continue in the unhappy job or have no income.

It is hard to come to terms with it without having options. And at that time I had no idea what options I could have that would be happier . So I felt trapped.

On reflection now that was "all or nothing" thinking"

A few ways one can do in that situation is :

Cut back on the unhappy work. See if can work part-time instead.

While income will drop it will not be zero. Might have no savings. But you gain some relief from the unhappiness.

What happened for me was that as I cut back on my hours and commitment to work I did not like then I started seeing other opportunities in other new areas. (Because I now had more time to offer).

Then transition into doing the work that made me happy. Starting with again part time. But now become part time doing work I enjoy!

Then progress to find other opportunities of work related that I enjoy also.

So end up is doing 3 different part time work that I enjoy. And best of all pays me even more than I previously had with the unhappy work full time.

3 different type work is also more flexible and more STABLE! Cos not reliant on just ONE job/work. The feeling also is more of confidence. Even if one drop the other 2 may pick up. Sometimes all 3 on fire. Sometimes get the 4th. Can even evaluate and say ok I think maybe not worth keeping the 4th. Drop it. Or drop even the 3rd. Just have 2: can still go back to no. 3 and 4? Yes. So how to be jobless?

But you must be happy first. Mind need to be clearer. Not clouded with despair and negativity cos the everything seems no good.

I hope you find a way out.

All the best.
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What type of part time work?
 
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