I am very depressed now

[cosmothecat]

why ts sound like me ?

ts, at least ur dad no dementia, still can function normally.

usually we are torn between whether to let our parents be or to get them to be more active

sometimes feel that they are old liao, just let them do what they want. but what they want may not be the best thing. so we try to get them to do the "right" thing. It can be frustrating.

"Forcing" an issue or wanting things to work exactly the way you want it, that's how you frustrate yourself and become unhappy.

 

[Ethan_]

Just curious, is anyone accompany him go or expect him to go out alone?

Maybe cause afraid. Old people is like that. After some medical issues liao is afraid this afraid that. Little little discomfort is think got illness liao. They became more sensitive.

Think if not wrong, eye surgery also may result in their eyes being more sensitive to light. Probably should wear some shade when go out. And best someone accompany them along, until they get use to it and get confident on their own.

 

[Pearce]

Long story short

My father went to cataract surgery 1 month ago

Operation went smooth.

But here the thing doc say after few days etc can go out etc.

But my dad keep insist staying at home for over 1 month complain body hot etc.

The doc told him need to go walking like 30min daily

Den my dad keep giving excuses that giddy hot weather etc.

Tbh i kinda of give up on him and he is making my mental state very bad until I don't feel like going back home.

 

[rachoon]

life sucks... stay strong ts...

living with family members with such problems can take a big toll on your health...

living with this kind of frustration can cause long term mild depression...

 

[Otokiru]

why eye surgery need go out... got link meh?

 

[cosmothecat]

Summary:

Char Siew spotted!

 

[Sauron]

Why no banner

 

[lampano]

Long story short

My father went to cataract surgery 1 month ago

Operation went smooth.

But here the thing doc say after few days etc can go out etc.

But my dad keep insist staying at home for over 1 month complain body hot etc.

The doc told him need to go walking like 30min daily

Den my dad keep giving excuses that giddy hot weather etc.

Tbh i kinda of give up on him and he is making my mental state very bad until I don't feel like going back home.

I think ok really yr dad more stressed.
Don't want dont want lor
Why force him?

 

[Kaylin]

@PikaManiac any advise for such laopeh?

 

[ZhuMingQiang]

Long story short

My father went to cataract surgery 1 month ago

Operation went smooth.

But here the thing doc say after few days etc can go out etc.

But my dad keep insist staying at home for over 1 month complain body hot etc.

The doc told him need to go walking like 30min daily

Den my dad keep giving excuses that giddy hot weather etc.

Tbh i kinda of give up on him and he is making my mental state very bad until I don't feel like going back home.

Why are you typing as if you are behaving like an unfillial son?

Maybe his health is not so good now & he needs you to spend more time with him, etc?

 

[cosmothecat]

Why are you typing as if you are behaving like an unfillial son?

Maybe his health is not so good now & he needs you to spend more time with him, etc?

Summary:

Char Siew spotted!

 

[DarkStarer]

Why not at night then bring him go out eat dinner? Since he complain hot.

 

[daveteo88]

Long story short

My father went to cataract surgery 1 month ago

Operation went smooth.

But here the thing doc say after few days etc can go out etc.

But my dad keep insist staying at home for over 1 month complain body hot etc.

The doc told him need to go walking like 30min daily

Den my dad keep giving excuses that giddy hot weather etc.

Tbh i kinda of give up on him and he is making my mental state very bad until I don't feel like going back home.

Maybe he lazy to walk. You want him to obey you if not you boil.

 

[arsenalfc85]

anyway ts, your situation still ok

wait till you're like me

dad got dementia, n no one to help u, except for a maid, n even maid sometimes also give you problems.

that one really will be rabak

 

[Jeremy1]

Old people are very stubborn.

Just don't bother much.

 

[MynameisS]

Young people nowadays a bit bit only, depress, want to end it all.

*roll eyes*

Me who is living with poverty since childhood and only managed to escape recently: Hmm.

 

[deathan9el]

why not take a slow walk along the corridor instead?
say for just 2 levels only

 

[888blancgmail]

After surgery, didnt go back for review? Fully recovery?

Weather is hot, walk along the corridor 1st? Any skygarden as not much ppl.

Ask hospital social workers to get volunteers to come n get him to go for a stroll?

 

[arsenalfc85]

After surgery, didnt go back for review? Fully recovery?

Weather is hot, walk along the corridor 1st? Any skygarden as not much ppl.

Ask hospital social workers to get volunteers to come n get him to go for a stroll?

social workers won't do much de, trust me

maybe they will visit once or twice during the first year, after that mia liao

 

[Wstc333]

aiya. just let him be la