I am very depressed now

[sk0065]

U depress cos your dad disturbing your peace at home?

or is it because he should be walking but staying put thus slowing down recovery
(Which you 心痛）

 

[arsenalfc85]

"Forcing" an issue or wanting things to work exactly the way you want it, that's how you frustrate yourself and become unhappy.

its much easier said than done.

Covid struck n my dad stopped working. After that even though circuit breaker ended, he continue to just stay at home stare at wall whole day. Within a year, he developed dementia.

Maybe ts worried about that.

 

[888blancgmail]

social workers won't do much de, trust me

maybe they will visit once or twice during the first year, after that mia liao

Is like that. At least social workers got visits n hope they can get volunteers to help more.

Not easy for caregivers

 

[cosmothecat]

Is like that. At least social workers got visits n hope they can get volunteers to help more.

Not easy for caregivers

Solution: Employ a maid

 

[daveteo88]

Why are you typing as if you are behaving like an unfillial son?

Maybe his health is not so good now & he needs you to spend more time with him, etc?

The only time when children finally understand why their parents is like that and some even say they are so stubborn is when they themselves finally reach old age

 

[XcoVar]

The urge for own privacy pushes me to work overseas. Having own home is really good for mental wellbeing.

 

[titusilvering]

Long story short

My father went to cataract surgery 1 month ago

Operation went smooth.

But here the thing doc say after few days etc can go out etc.

But my dad keep insist staying at home for over 1 month complain body hot etc.

The doc told him need to go walking like 30min daily

Den my dad keep giving excuses that giddy hot weather etc.

Tbh i kinda of give up on him and he is making my mental state very bad until I don't feel like going back home.

Ok. Move out. Stay outside.

 

[khratit]

Long story short

My father went to cataract surgery 1 month ago

Operation went smooth.

But here the thing doc say after few days etc can go out etc.

But my dad keep insist staying at home for over 1 month complain body hot etc.

The doc told him need to go walking like 30min daily

Den my dad keep giving excuses that giddy hot weather etc.

Tbh i kinda of give up on him and he is making my mental state very bad until I don't feel like going back home.

Maybe he don't like your music genre and your long hair and goatee

 

[888blancgmail]

Solution: Employ a maid

Go n ask 100ppl who hire maid due to such stubborn parents n update here if it works or not.

 

[buttbERry]

ts ownself go out lor

 

[AlmightyOnes]

Huh? Like that depress?

Anyway pls trigger depress banner on top.

 

[Encouragesome1]

Long story short

My father went to cataract surgery 1 month ago

Operation went smooth.

But here the thing doc say after few days etc can go out etc.

But my dad keep insist staying at home for over 1 month complain body hot etc.

The doc told him need to go walking like 30min daily

Den my dad keep giving excuses that giddy hot weather etc.

Tbh i kinda of give up on him and he is making my mental state very bad until I don't feel like going back home.

Ts see open la
He endured op smoothly but got psychological problem thinking his own condition not stable. Is he being not kind to u that why u sad ? Maybe carve time out to go for exercise and go out into nature might help u?

 

[Encouragesome1]

ur house no other family members?

Usually other also can’t persuade him.. they r stubborn level 99% on usual days

ur dad no friends?

Bad tempered so younger time got handful of friends , old time sometimes own brother n sis also buaysong with them
Left zero or one friend, people also old also need do housework so he no friends after the friend go home to do housework

 

[arsenalfc85]

Usually other also can’t persuade him.. they r stubborn level 99% on usual days

Bad tempered so younger time got handful of friends , old time sometimes own brother n sis also buaysong with them
Left zero or one friend, people also old also need do housework so he no friends after the friend go home to do housework

How come u help ts answer lol

 

[Encouragesome1]

How come u help ts answer lol

I see my pa I sighLoudSigh whenever something crop up for such old ppl

 

[coyote]

its much easier said than done.

Covid struck n my dad stopped working. After that even though circuit breaker ended, he continue to just stay at home stare at wall whole day. Within a year, he developed dementia.

Maybe ts worried about that.

Sorry to hear. While I know parents are tough to deal with, I just want to say that who doesn't? But do many people fell into depression just because of that? I think not. It's still depend on how mentally strong is the individuals.

 

[cosmothecat]

How come u help ts answer lol

I am not saying it is clone but ...

 

[Kitaro9202]

Ts see open la
He endured op smoothly but got psychological problem thinking his own condition not stable. Is he being not kind to u that why u sad ? Maybe carve time out to go for exercise and go out into nature might help u?

I nag him alot but his own good.

I don't know who tell him can't do this and that when the doctor already verified that all activities can proceed as usual

OK after ops like cant eat certain food like egg chicken for 1 or 2 week. But already 1 month still don't want to eat those food.

I many tried asking him Leisure walk. Starting say ok but later say giddy etc many excuse.

Yesterday n today went ane for same issue.

Doc say he need to exercise already but he keep giving excuse.

Afternoon hot to walk right nvm night den keep giving excuse.

Tbh is mentally draining on me as I do not have a full time job and I live on a daily paycheck..

I also have my bill to pay and tbh i got nothing to look forward in life

 

[Kitaro9202]

Just curious, is anyone accompany him go or expect him to go out alone?

Maybe cause afraid. Old people is like that. After some medical issues liao is afraid this afraid that. Little little discomfort is think got illness liao. They became more sensitive.

Think if not wrong, eye surgery also may result in their eyes being more sensitive to light. Probably should wear some shade when go out. And best someone accompany them along, until they get use to it and get confident on their own.

I have tried but I also need to work. But he at home also wear shade.

Now go out without shade like cant.

I suspect his eye already season the darkness

 

[Whimsica]

Some old folks dun go out because their health is no good and they dun want to worry their children.

Maybe your father's eyes still got some issue?

Many older folks after cataract surgery would complain about complications or new issues.

Or maybe he is starting to have dementia?

Some will suddenly wake up with a blank mind or realise they keep forgetting things or people that they just talked about minutes ago or in the middle of a bus ride suddenly cannot remember where they are going.... and are worried but do not want to burden their children.

Or he has other physical issues and prefer to stay at home?

Most children are worried when their aged parents keep wanting to go out and then get into all sorts of trouble.

Perhaps observe your father more and talk to other family members?

There's no need to get upset if your father prefers to stay at home.