thanks again for your tips bro! i dont think i will be getting a coach despite your advice

. money is really tight for me now with the baby and all. plus im going to a physiotherapist regularly, and he helps me quite a lot. most importantly, i know who i am. im just another fat dude trying to lose weight! haha
i did try to do a few similar muscle groups a day. unfortunately, i found out that i merely feel pumped, and none of the muscles ache. i think its likely that i dont have the stamina to continuously work more than 2 groups per session.
Precisely. Upper/Lower and 3 way splits like Push/Pull/Legs or Chest/Back, Legs, Arms work two muscles at the most and some light isolation work.
So Upper/Lower is typically upper with chest, back, triceps and biceps (say) and lower is quads, hammies, calves. Done.
Push is chest, triceps, shoulders, sometimes calves.
Pull is back, biceps, lower back.
Legs is always quads, hammies, calves.
Chest/Back, Legs, Arms is self explanatory and you'd do shoulders on arm day.
Splits are favoured by body builders but it doesn't mean you can't get strong on it. You're trying to increase weight every session or the number of reps and your capacity to work increases.
Reverse pyramid training is a good scheme for cutting. Basically you're watching your diet, reducing your calorie intact, keeping your protein and fat levels healthy and your training is keeping your muscle mass. You'll look quite amazing leaned out.
Good advice from Crandfs.