My wife's lady friend is very upset. Her son ghost NS. Then his gf break off with him when he went overseas exercise.
Her precious son is heartbroken. She suspect the girl like another guy in uni. She wants to go scold her.
My wife advised her not to do it. But she is adamant and very angry. Scold will work?
Erm please don’t.
(1) It will make the son very very very embarrassed.
(2) The ex gf will look down on the son, thinking how useless he is that he needs his mother to step forward to scold her for their breakup. Can’t even manage his own issue. She will even think she made the right choice to break up.
(3) If want to scold, the son should go and scold the ex gf, not the mother.
(4) Scolding her brings no purposes at all. It will only make things worse and awkward and she will not return either. It will also drive the son away if he finds out. The ex gf may screenshot the texts to the son and show him (if the scolding ish through texts lah).
The best thing to do for a breakup ish to turn himself from level 1 into a level 999 boss. Thats the best “revenge”.
The best response for a breakup ish no response. If she texted you for breakup, jitao ghost the person leaving her with no clue why she doesn’t even deserve a response. Don’t give her any closure. But if one got a lot of 委屈, sure man, feel free to just say out and scold the gf/bf. But never ever destroy oneself just because someone does not want to be with you anymore.
Knn I woke up middle of the night to type these. Mybfd.
