Serious Relationship issue

[Holytyphoon]

Wah your ex is damn shameless!!
Good riddance, actually.
What irks me is that she’s taking her infidelity very lightly and still has the cheek to contact you for small talks

Glad you’re man enough to walk out, sell the house before MOP, preserve your dignity and respect
Cyber hug for you , bro

Thx bud.
Not sell the house, surrender to gov, meaning cfm lose alot miney.

 

[GloveK8]

Yes.
Ended up with the guy.
I honestly dont even wanna know who the guy is or what he does.
In all positive note, i try to look at it as im glad this happened before i had a kid. The very least i can try to have a fresh start.

When this kind of things happen, it changes you alot, especially towards to darker side. It almost entirely changed my beliefs too.
The journey out of the marriage is rather painful, especially if she is enjoying the fresh ess and excitement of the rs and you are doing all the paperwork, everything bring to her to sign, including surrendering the house and taking a huge penalty on your money.

Read some of your posts. Agree. Also to TS, if cannot means cannot. Like a lot of bro said, women are emotional.

Im pending for divorce soon.

Married close to 3 yrs back, 1 yr in, she said she wants out 1 month after my dad was diagnosed with 6 months to live (from liver cancer)

1 month later my dad passed on.

In between i tried to be like 舔狗, cried, begged. Asked her to go counselling together. All the answer was no, too late.

She also went to a new company shortly we got married. But she used to drink, so initially im okay with it. But end up i help her to take care of her dog more. Do most of the hsework.

Main reason from her, the marriage is not what she envisioned. She thinks marriage should be happily ever after. She comes home i must be super excited, give her a hug/kiss. I tried to do them, she said im very fake. And from day 1 im not that kind of guy.

On the day my dad was diagnosed with 6 months to live, she still wants to bring her friends to the house. (We had arguements abt hosting too much, she extrovert i introvert) but i texted her saying, i know we had arguments on this, but today really cannot, i need space. U know what she replied? She replied Lol, you can just hide in the room.

After my dad passed on, still can say dont act like you are very sad, you are also not close to your dad.

Then randomly said, 其实我是要生孩子，只是不要跟你身 even though we agreed to separate alr.

Alot more nonsensical remarks from her, i just kept quiet most of the time.

I went to see a therapist on my own after my dad passed on, tbh, its good. Because like what this bro said, you will think very negatively or have dark thoughts.

Initially, i was trying to spy on her phone, but on hindsight, lame la, if she cheat, what can i do? She say she didnt cheat although in a very defensive tone.

Took me very long to get out of this, still not 100%. But need to actively train your brain not to ruminate.

This link might help abit, recommended by therapist, i bought the book in the end.

 

[Medicated Oil]

Read some of your posts. Agree. Also to TS, if cannot means cannot. Like a lot of bro said, women are emotional.

Im pending for divorce soon.

Married close to 3 yrs back, 1 yr in, she said she wants out 1 month after my dad was diagnosed with 6 months to live (from liver cancer)

1 month later my dad passed on.

In between i tried to be like 舔狗, cried, begged. Asked her to go counselling together. All the answer was no, too late.

She also went to a new company shortly we got married. But she used to drink, so initially im okay with it. But end up i help her to take care of her dog more. Do most of the hsework.

Main reason from her, the marriage is not what she envisioned. She thinks marriage should be happily ever after. She comes home i must be super excited, give her a hug/kiss. I tried to do them, she said im very fake. And from day 1 im not that kind of guy.

On the day my dad was diagnosed with 6 months to live, she still wants to bring her friends to the house. (We had arguements abt hosting too much, she extrovert i introvert) but i texted her saying, i know we had arguments on this, but today really cannot, i need space. U know what she replied? She replied Lol, you can just hide in the room.

After my dad passed on, still can say dont act like you are very sad, you are also not close to your dad.

Then randomly said, 其实我是要生孩子，只是不要跟你身 even though we agreed to separate alr.

Alot more nonsensical remarks from her, i just kept quiet most of the time.

I went to see a therapist on my own after my dad passed on, tbh, its good. Because like what this bro said, you will think very negatively or have dark thoughts.

Initially, i was trying to spy on her phone, but on hindsight, lame la, if she cheat, what can i do? She say she didnt cheat although in a very defensive tone.

Took me very long to get out of this, still not 100%. But need to actively train your brain not to ruminate.

This link might help abit, recommended by therapist, i bought the book in the end.

Thanks for your sharing.

Your marriage is some crazy ride.

 

[Spike]

Read some of your posts. Agree. Also to TS, if cannot means cannot. Like a lot of bro said, women are emotional.

Im pending for divorce soon.

Married close to 3 yrs back, 1 yr in, she said she wants out 1 month after my dad was diagnosed with 6 months to live (from liver cancer)

1 month later my dad passed on.

In between i tried to be like 舔狗, cried, begged. Asked her to go counselling together. All the answer was no, too late.

She also went to a new company shortly we got married. But she used to drink, so initially im okay with it. But end up i help her to take care of her dog more. Do most of the hsework.

Main reason from her, the marriage is not what she envisioned. She thinks marriage should be happily ever after. She comes home i must be super excited, give her a hug/kiss. I tried to do them, she said im very fake. And from day 1 im not that kind of guy.

On the day my dad was diagnosed with 6 months to live, she still wants to bring her friends to the house. (We had arguements abt hosting too much, she extrovert i introvert) but i texted her saying, i know we had arguments on this, but today really cannot, i need space. U know what she replied? She replied Lol, you can just hide in the room.

After my dad passed on, still can say dont act like you are very sad, you are also not close to your dad.

Then randomly said, 其实我是要生孩子，只是不要跟你身 even though we agreed to separate alr.

Alot more nonsensical remarks from her, i just kept quiet most of the time.

I went to see a therapist on my own after my dad passed on, tbh, its good. Because like what this bro said, you will think very negatively or have dark thoughts.

Initially, i was trying to spy on her phone, but on hindsight, lame la, if she cheat, what can i do? She say she didnt cheat although in a very defensive tone.

Took me very long to get out of this, still not 100%. But need to actively train your brain not to ruminate.

This link might help abit, recommended by therapist, i bought the book in the end.

My condolences.. wow. U were very patient. I would have lost my temper, and told her to f off from my sight already..

Take care.

 

[saltydog]

Read some of your posts. Agree. Also to TS, if cannot means cannot. Like a lot of bro said, women are emotional.

Im pending for divorce soon.

Married close to 3 yrs back, 1 yr in, she said she wants out 1 month after my dad was diagnosed with 6 months to live (from liver cancer)

1 month later my dad passed on.

In between i tried to be like 舔狗, cried, begged. Asked her to go counselling together. All the answer was no, too late.

She also went to a new company shortly we got married. But she used to drink, so initially im okay with it. But end up i help her to take care of her dog more. Do most of the hsework.

Main reason from her, the marriage is not what she envisioned. She thinks marriage should be happily ever after. She comes home i must be super excited, give her a hug/kiss. I tried to do them, she said im very fake. And from day 1 im not that kind of guy.

On the day my dad was diagnosed with 6 months to live, she still wants to bring her friends to the house. (We had arguements abt hosting too much, she extrovert i introvert) but i texted her saying, i know we had arguments on this, but today really cannot, i need space. U know what she replied? She replied Lol, you can just hide in the room.

After my dad passed on, still can say dont act like you are very sad, you are also not close to your dad.

Then randomly said, 其实我是要生孩子，只是不要跟你身 even though we agreed to separate alr.

Alot more nonsensical remarks from her, i just kept quiet most of the time.

I went to see a therapist on my own after my dad passed on, tbh, its good. Because like what this bro said, you will think very negatively or have dark thoughts.

Initially, i was trying to spy on her phone, but on hindsight, lame la, if she cheat, what can i do? She say she didnt cheat although in a very defensive tone.

Took me very long to get out of this, still not 100%. But need to actively train your brain not to ruminate.

This link might help abit, recommended by therapist, i bought the book in the end.

sorry to hear this. be strong bro

 

[harky]

Read some of your posts. Agree. Also to TS, if cannot means cannot. Like a lot of bro said, women are emotional.

Im pending for divorce soon.

Married close to 3 yrs back, 1 yr in, she said she wants out 1 month after my dad was diagnosed with 6 months to live (from liver cancer)

1 month later my dad passed on.

In between i tried to be like 舔狗, cried, begged. Asked her to go counselling together. All the answer was no, too late.

She also went to a new company shortly we got married. But she used to drink, so initially im okay with it. But end up i help her to take care of her dog more. Do most of the hsework.

Main reason from her, the marriage is not what she envisioned. She thinks marriage should be happily ever after. She comes home i must be super excited, give her a hug/kiss. I tried to do them, she said im very fake. And from day 1 im not that kind of guy.

On the day my dad was diagnosed with 6 months to live, she still wants to bring her friends to the house. (We had arguements abt hosting too much, she extrovert i introvert) but i texted her saying, i know we had arguments on this, but today really cannot, i need space. U know what she replied? She replied Lol, you can just hide in the room.

After my dad passed on, still can say dont act like you are very sad, you are also not close to your dad.

Then randomly said, 其实我是要生孩子，只是不要跟你身 even though we agreed to separate alr.

Alot more nonsensical remarks from her, i just kept quiet most of the time.

I went to see a therapist on my own after my dad passed on, tbh, its good. Because like what this bro said, you will think very negatively or have dark thoughts.

Initially, i was trying to spy on her phone, but on hindsight, lame la, if she cheat, what can i do? She say she didnt cheat although in a very defensive tone.

Took me very long to get out of this, still not 100%. But need to actively train your brain not to ruminate.

This link might help abit, recommended by therapist, i bought the book in the end.

sad.......... wonder why marry...
dating already know u what kind of person.. marry also same de ma

 

[orlengtao]

Read some of your posts. Agree. Also to TS, if cannot means cannot. Like a lot of bro said, women are emotional.

Im pending for divorce soon.

Married close to 3 yrs back, 1 yr in, she said she wants out 1 month after my dad was diagnosed with 6 months to live (from liver cancer)

1 month later my dad passed on.

In between i tried to be like 舔狗, cried, begged. Asked her to go counselling together. All the answer was no, too late.

She also went to a new company shortly we got married. But she used to drink, so initially im okay with it. But end up i help her to take care of her dog more. Do most of the hsework.

Main reason from her, the marriage is not what she envisioned. She thinks marriage should be happily ever after. She comes home i must be super excited, give her a hug/kiss. I tried to do them, she said im very fake. And from day 1 im not that kind of guy.

On the day my dad was diagnosed with 6 months to live, she still wants to bring her friends to the house. (We had arguements abt hosting too much, she extrovert i introvert) but i texted her saying, i know we had arguments on this, but today really cannot, i need space. U know what she replied? She replied Lol, you can just hide in the room.

After my dad passed on, still can say dont act like you are very sad, you are also not close to your dad.

Then randomly said, 其实我是要生孩子，只是不要跟你身 even though we agreed to separate alr.

Alot more nonsensical remarks from her, i just kept quiet most of the time.

I went to see a therapist on my own after my dad passed on, tbh, its good. Because like what this bro said, you will think very negatively or have dark thoughts.

Initially, i was trying to spy on her phone, but on hindsight, lame la, if she cheat, what can i do? She say she didnt cheat although in a very defensive tone.

Took me very long to get out of this, still not 100%. But need to actively train your brain not to ruminate.

This link might help abit, recommended by therapist, i bought the book in the end.

Jia you bro, at least you got out something very toxic

 

[Destroybot]

if out of blue moon request to go out due to special occasion that could be understood, but if frequent that is a red flag liao. Sane women with family and children will not initiate divorce due to husband restricting her going out, that's a red flag as well. If there is infidelity involve, suggest to have a clean cut, short pain better than long pain. Also improve on yourself, both financially and looks.

 

[Destroybot]

I have been married to my wife for six years, and we have kids. Recently, we had a quarrel, and she suggested a separation. Her stance on this seems very firm. According to her, the argument stemmed from what she sees as me being overly controlling—for example, not allowing her to go out with friends to pubs late at night. She finds my behaviour unreasonable and controlling.

This isn’t the first time we’ve had a quarrel, and usually, we manage to resolve our differences by the next day. However, this time, she has been ignoring me for about two weeks and has been sleeping in another room. She also goes out until late at night, saying she has work. All of this started after she joined a new company.

I do not wish to divorce her, as I still love her. However, I don’t know how to resolve the issue now. Should I try to convince her to come back to me, or should I give her the space to live the lifestyle she wants?

red flag, hope I might be wrong but do be strong for yourself and children.

 

[orlengtao]

i've been thru all this myself. my wife went out with countless other guys. me too with other women. yet we are still together and sleep on the same bed, sometimes with our adult children next to us as though they are still babies

don't take extramarital affairs so seriously. it's mostly for fun. if you do that, smile and love her selflessly, your marriage will go a long way. be selfless. jealousy is selfishness

Don't apply your concept of open marriage to everyone la. What you can accept does not mean others will be able to.

 

[begintoend]

sorry TS @camholicx , i read a bit only, so picking up only bits...

Can I ask what is wrong with you in the relationship? Is it that you dun have the trust already?
Are you not willing to talk properly?

Is your wife enjoying herself too much that she has forgotten to give you attention?
Are you too ashamed to ask for attention?

If she takes the effort to sleep in another room, she is more dominant in the relationship
You leave it be and the only time there is ever communication is an argument.
probably also means you are making 0 effort in something, I dunno wat... there is something that you lack.

 

[Woof24]

Read some of your posts. Agree. Also to TS, if cannot means cannot. Like a lot of bro said, women are emotional.

Im pending for divorce soon.

Married close to 3 yrs back, 1 yr in, she said she wants out 1 month after my dad was diagnosed with 6 months to live (from liver cancer)

1 month later my dad passed on.

In between i tried to be like 舔狗, cried, begged. Asked her to go counselling together. All the answer was no, too late.

She also went to a new company shortly we got married. But she used to drink, so initially im okay with it. But end up i help her to take care of her dog more. Do most of the hsework.

Main reason from her, the marriage is not what she envisioned. She thinks marriage should be happily ever after. She comes home i must be super excited, give her a hug/kiss. I tried to do them, she said im very fake. And from day 1 im not that kind of guy.

On the day my dad was diagnosed with 6 months to live, she still wants to bring her friends to the house. (We had arguements abt hosting too much, she extrovert i introvert) but i texted her saying, i know we had arguments on this, but today really cannot, i need space. U know what she replied? She replied Lol, you can just hide in the room.

After my dad passed on, still can say dont act like you are very sad, you are also not close to your dad.

Then randomly said, 其实我是要生孩子，只是不要跟你身 even though we agreed to separate alr.

Alot more nonsensical remarks from her, i just kept quiet most of the time.

I went to see a therapist on my own after my dad passed on, tbh, its good. Because like what this bro said, you will think very negatively or have dark thoughts.

Initially, i was trying to spy on her phone, but on hindsight, lame la, if she cheat, what can i do? She say she didnt cheat although in a very defensive tone.

Took me very long to get out of this, still not 100%. But need to actively train your brain not to ruminate.

You deserve better bro.

 

[helloicanseeu]

You should find a mediator.

this is the only correct advice a stranger should ever give

 

[nyvrem]

Guys can go and drink with friends but their wives can’t? Boomer, just because one has kids doesn’t mean one needs to cut themselves off from friends.

White knight in shiny armor lai liao

 

[nyvrem]

why have kids liao cannot go pubs with frens? what the logic? cant she have frens?
she can only stay at home and be yellow face woman?

Friends that go pubs? No wonder 1 in 4 divorce in sg

 

[Woof24]

Actually some woman very scary. I got this female colleague pak tor with her bf for many years liao I ask her why so long still don't marry?

She said want her bf to earn more first then marry. Next time if divorce can split asset. Her bf already earning $10k+/mth.

I listen liao look up sky and thank ti gong that I am still single.

 

[titusilvering]

I have been married to my wife for six years, and we have kids. Recently, we had a quarrel, and she suggested a separation. Her stance on this seems very firm. According to her, the argument stemmed from what she sees as me being overly controlling—for example, not allowing her to go out with friends to pubs late at night. She finds my behaviour unreasonable and controlling.

This isn’t the first time we’ve had a quarrel, and usually, we manage to resolve our differences by the next day. However, this time, she has been ignoring me for about two weeks and has been sleeping in another room. She also goes out until late at night, saying she has work. All of this started after she joined a new company.

I do not wish to divorce her, as I still love her. However, I don’t know how to resolve the issue now. Should I try to convince her to come back to me, or should I give her the space to live the lifestyle she wants?

Hire one PI see what your wife doing late outside then decide

 

[maleisme]

god damnnnn

ts askin the obvious. be a man face it, do wat u gotta do

 

[RAWR!!]

things dont happen overnight la. TS got catch any hints that you failed to apprehend and change yourself accordingly?

 

[plpl20]

Your wife still young? Got married too early and didn't get chance to stay out late with friends, go drinking etc?

How is she like before marriage? Homely kind, cooks, do household chores? if these kind, I think will be a good wife.

How old areyour kids? Maybe she's tired of looking after them and feel like she needs time for herself (like men who meet up with friends)