Met a mother of 1 (working part time as kitchen helper, 4 hrs & 4 weekdays, earning about $300 ) at playground. Sharing with U about her marriage :
1) hubby doesn allow her to use CDC vochours cause spouse said government gave her cash
2) have to prepare meals for whole family using her own money
3) she has to pay for child daily school pocket allowances
4) hubby is not supporting her a single cent . She has to pay her own insurance + medical + own consumables items like sanitary pads, shampoo and etc
5) NEVER allowED her to take his car cause hubby said car would consume more petrol. Imagine spouse drives kid. If REALLY HEAVY POUR , she would beg her spouse to fetch her son and she has to take public transport home
6) hubby sleeps in study room cause he proclaims that he is light sleeper. But he always locks his room. Watching drama and turns on aircon till next morning
NEVER ALLOWED KID N HER TO TURN LN AIRCON. Proclaiming that it would consume more energy.
7) super self-centred hubby & micromanaging my friend cause he never allowed her to go out with any friends. Even bringing her son along also NO. However he is able to go out to meet friends anytime. There was since she went out for a few hrs , he texted him nasty texts.
8) hubby wanted to have kid cause house was quiet. But when kid was born , spouse complains kid is noisy and never wanted to eat with family at the same table. Cannot stand son to be alone with him at home .
9) she doesn know her hubby salary. Best part is hubby could access her singpass and see how much she is earning .
10 ) hubby is not treating her well. And giving her not just mental but also financial stress.
11) hubby never did housechores. After eating n drinking would leave drinking cups n plates ... utensils unwashed.
12) never fold blanket everything in a messy and waiting for my friend to do
13) hubby always reaches home early but never bother just to cook rice and waiting for my friend to reach home after fetching son from student care.
14) never brought son to anywhere . Cause he said waste money . Very stingy n lazy man.
15) seldom speaks to hubby at home unless talk about things like "what's for dinner, what time she is cooking for meals and so on.."
She could not work full time cause all her work required her to bring work home. She couldn handle the work at home cause hubby refuses to take care of son .
I shared the above with my mil cause my late fil was also a self-centred person. MIL said friend doesn work that is why hubby shows no respect to her. Moreover her parents all passed away. He knew she has no money n no place to go therefore hubby always欺负她。hubby has no affair....She is holding on to the marriage cause she wants to give son a proper home. She said once kid is an adult she would divorce her hubby. She knows hubby only wants her to take care of him when he is unwell , old n sick. I told her...end of the day son would be closed to her instead of her hubby. She invests her time n love for her son , son would know n feel it. Eventually, son would only care n love her when she is old
* Friend's hubby has a degree and works in a MOE school in IT dep for at least 15 years
