Some thoughts

[Lchlch]

Life is short. The daily drama I see around me are nowadays pointless and I just ignore whether it's gossip about me or whatever nonsense. Learnt that life is really short and that there is no need to be bothered by such meaningless drama

concur your thoughts.
Life is indeed short after a person hit pass 50 onwards and will find that all those external noises is just a noise that disrupt a person inner peace.
even colleagues (I am still working), I already hack care whether they are good to me or toxic me.
I always remind myself, it is their mouth, their mind, we cannot control them. We try not to let them control our feeling and create unnecessary karma into us.
I see them, i just shug it off and move on.
They (external noise, colleagues, friends) are just a noise to me nowadays.

 

[Lchlch]

Best to have some chanting rituals to settle the soul

yes bro, but it depends on a person belief.
Best is to have a basic chanting rituals to send the deceased off.
Even though if can help out (financial) for such events, please do so.

 

[zueinder]

I used to think like that but recently my uncle passed away quite suddenly due to heart attack after selling his company and preparing for retirement. He wasn't close to being a 'moral' person but he was always generous in hosting family gatherings as the most outwardly 'richest' sibling despite being the 2nd youngest. He wasn't that old and exercised alot.

I think is just emotions bah. The shock of him leaving just like that just triggered something inside. Didn't cry or anything for most of the funeral but at certain moments the tears do leak out unknowingly.

 

[rider83]

when my grandpa passed away, i sent him off on the behalf of my dad since he was the eldest child
After 9 years, i did the same thing when my grandma passed away
And after 20 years, my dad's turn to be sent off by me

Don't know what's the point
Just some thoughts


P/S, dad was an illegal immigrant and he couldn't travel back to see his mama & papa in JB for the last time

The point is to let them have a little comfort at their last breath that’s all. Especially true for those who believe must have someone to send them off de, but then… not as if u can send them to better (or worse) places. Death is pay back time for them. U are there to provide whatever little comfort left while they are still alive

 

[Lchlch]

The point is you need some one to send you off when you are gone.

bro, nowadays, we see couples dont want kids.
only 2 of them living together.
But probably they never think what IF, It will come, one day either one of them getting old and pass on and left the other person alone....the person will be grieving all by himself/herself..and one day (it will come too) the person will die too alone.
Nothing is permanent.

 

[Lchlch]

I used to think like that but recently my uncle passed away quite suddenly due to heart attack after selling his company and preparing for retirement. He wasn't close to being a 'moral' person but he was always generous in hosting family gatherings as the most outwardly 'richest' sibling despite being the 2nd youngest. He wasn't that old and exercised alot.

I think is just emotions bah. The shock of him leaving just like that just triggered something inside. Didn't cry or anything for most of the funeral but at certain moments the tears do leak out unknowingly.

the grief ...only the people even gone thru will know...not easy...tears, watery eyes can suddenly drop down, the heavy feeling can be sudden too. It is very tough .

 

[ramlee]

Yes we all come here crying, lets leave with a smile...

i have nothing to smile about

 

[ramlee]

bro, nowadays, we see couples dont want kids.
only 2 of them living together.
But probably they never think what IF, It will come, one day either one of them getting old and pass on and left the other person alone....the person will be grieving all by himself/herself..and one day (it will come too) the person will die too alone.
Nothing is permanent.

they can go senior citizens' corner to mingle

 

[Jian19]

I send off my grandpa , 2 uncle , and just this year my grandma too

安心上路

 

[Lchlch]

they can go senior citizens' corner to mingle

bro, the feeling is completely different.
Yes go senior citizens doing exercises, sing song, etc...but then when at home, it is different.
The feeling is different.
A old person generally will not even want to go to such senior whatever to join...
due to grief.....

 

[langford]

concur your thoughts.
Life is indeed short after a person hit pass 50 onwards and will find that all those external noises is just a noise that disrupt a person inner peace.
even colleagues (I am still working), I already hack care whether they are good to me or toxic me.
I always remind myself, it is their mouth, their mind, we cannot control them. We try not to let them control our feeling and create unnecessary karma into us.
I see them, i just shug it off and move on.
They (external noise, colleagues, friends) are just a noise to me nowadays.

Feels so much better and relaxed when we ignore all these noise isn't it. Just carry on our own life and minding our own business.

 

[1982-1994]

the grief ...only the people even gone thru will know...not easy...tears, watery eyes can suddenly drop down, the heavy feeling can be sudden too. It is very tough .

Actually i never grieved for my grandparents because long distance relatives, not close
I only grieved for grandpa and grandfather 5 years later at 19, i
got emotional suddenly and cried on my bed, my parents came in, mum consoled me and nothing much from dad since he was a quiet person
Then they brought me to centrepoint orchard after that as we were ready to go out

I send off my grandpa , 2 uncle , and just this year my grandma too

安心上路

My condolences

Sent off my grandpa in 1994, grandma in 2003 (she was very strong to live for 9 years after grieving for my grandpa,i saw how terrible she cried),
grandmother and eldest aunt in 2006, dad's 2nd brother and 4th brother in 2016, dad in 2023, my 2nd姨丈with his wife in the same year, just lapse of 2 days, my aunt cried horribly, fainted and RIP
Exactly like how徐少强wife grieved for him and died just a few days apart

My mum's side, left her, my 3rd aunt, my 2 uncles
My dad's, left 3 uncles and 2 aunts

 

[Lchlch]

Actually i never grieved for my grandparents because long distance relatives, not close
I only grieved for grandpa and grandfather 5 years later at 19, i
got emotional suddenly and cried on my bed, my parents came in, mum consoled me and nothing much from dad since he was a quiet person
Then they brought me to centrepoint orchard after that as we were ready to go out

Sent off my grandpa in 1994, grandma in 2003 (she was very strong to live for 9 years after grieving for my grandpa,i saw how terrible she cried),
grandmother and eldest aunt in 2006, dad's 2nd brother and 4th brother in 2016, dad in 2023, my 2nd姨丈with his wife in the same year, just lapse of 2 days, my aunt cried horribly, fainted and RIP
Exactly like徐少强wife grieved for him and died just a few days apart

My mum's side, left her, my 3rd aunt, my 2 uncles
My dad's, left 3 uncles and 2 aunts

cheer up bro.
We have to move on.
We keep them in our heart.
We talk to them in our heart.
We listen to them in our heart.
They will always in our heart.
I also if I am down and sad, I silently talk inside my heart to my wife too....
I experienced a very very difficult , heart break, grief where I cant even send off my wife.....
So, bro, cheer up, be strong and lets move forward...

 

[Medicated Oil]

bro, nowadays, we see couples dont want kids.
only 2 of them living together.
But probably they never think what IF, It will come, one day either one of them getting old and pass on and left the other person alone....the person will be grieving all by himself/herself..and one day (it will come too) the person will die too alone.
Nothing is permanent.

If no one settle the funeral, wait for cheng hu to do it if there are no other relatives who want to take charge.
As for facing the death alone, it is always a lonely journey regardless of how big your family is.
Your family can be big and filled with uncaring people.

 

[Lchlch]

If no one settle the funeral, wait for cheng hu to do it if there are no other relatives who want to take charge.
As for facing the death alone, it is always a lonely journey regardless of how big your family is.
Your family can be big and filled with uncaring people.

or probably, book in advance first......

 

[The_Davis]

when my grandpa passed away, i sent him off on the behalf of my dad since he was the eldest child
After 9 years, i did the same thing when my grandma passed away
And after 20 years, my dad's turn to be sent off by me

Don't know what's the point
Just some thoughts


P/S, dad was an illegal immigrant and he couldn't travel back to see his mama & papa in JB for the last time

You got 20 years to go? Start eating cleaner and exercise more

 

[Medicated Oil]

or probably, book in advance first......

Just spend all your money or else the cheng hu will spend it for you.
Does not make any difference whether there is any place to put my ash if I know that there will be no one to visit it.

 

[_eMuu_]

Be glad you had someone to send off.

This is just the natural flow of things. Imagine they living longer than you....

Just hope you have someone to send you off. Take care.

 

[The_Davis]

I don't reminisce much frankly cos I didn't have much good childhood memories anyway.

Will you send me off when I pass away?

 

[Lchlch]

Just spend all your money or else the cheng hu will spend it for you.
Does not make any difference whether there is any place to put my ash if I know that there will be no one to visit it.

another few generations, we will be long forgotten........who am I? nobody knows anymore...
Just like our ancestors, I am sure many dont know who are they, their character, their personaility....