Why some women like to pretend and hide their status...

[Kaylin]

Well, i think that you’ve probably answered T.S’s question then. It’s a choice.

u just confused us im not TS btw

 

[loganrunning]

I am single

I drink my husband's protein shake

I meant he shakes his protein, then I drank it

I meant, oh well, difficult to explain. He works out at the gym, so got plenty of protein shakes

 

[cosmothecat]

I am confused too

 

[Emperor_Hippo]

My point exactly. We are all here in this Forum but we don’t go around telling everyone our entire history, unless we have something to share from our own experience in that situation.

If the intention were simply platonic between a male and a female, why would such a disclosure (or not) matter?

archerly sometimes, some things no need to ask.

from normal convo can tell if the other party is married or attached or not.

 

[Jude Raphael]

archerly sometimes, some things no need to ask.

from normal convo can tell if the other party is married or attached or not.

Ya, if the conversation between the 2 has progressed so far beyond platonic, I am sure someone would have asked. No? So, in the first place, has any one asked the question?Or simply, "You think, I thought, who confirms?"
Like what you have mentioned, it is also likely that such information would have been revealed in a normal conversation initially.

Of course, if the assumptions were, both parties were romantically involved, dating EXCLUSIVELY for a while, BUT the lady wilfully withheld the information. I guess the narrative is simply to lead others to conclude and agree that the lady was at "fault", instead of seeking alternative answers to the QUESTION (Not bashing women thread, but serious question.) in the first place. That begets my next question, is that not considered "bashing" then?

 

[ricohflex]

edmw got many aspiring Fiction Writers

Always start new threads with long stories.

The fiction writing is below standard.

 

[Jude Raphael]

u just confused us im not TS btw

Pardon the confusion caused. T.S asked a question of why some ladies "Like they got kids le or they're single mom, but they don't disclose this. They pretend talk to you first, then ask you out, .etc." But like you said earlier,

u mean nobody ever asked u whether you're married meh not even at work?

im impolite, so i dont answer such qns

these may be the same answers why some ladies chose to withheld the information initially (assuming the 2 parties have already been romantically involved and dating exclusively later).

 

[swenson]

Not bashing women thread, but serious question.

Like they got kids le or they're single mom, but they don't disclose this. They pretend talk to you first, then ask you out, .etc.

Then only later they declare they got kids. Knn. I feel this is f**k up and lying in a way... And their reasoning would be, "I scared if I tell you before that, you will ghost me." or "so you can know the real me before judging."

I feel it is really sly and f**k up sia... Few of my friends kenna recently then they sibei dulan. I kenna once before too.

For ladies reading this, it is like a man got lifetime STD (i.e: herpes), in huge debts, or also a single dad, but never disclose until you all talk for some time liao only then he declare to you because he scared you will judge him and filter him, .etc. It is like they want you to become emotionally invested first, only then they declare their shortcomings.

I just find such move very manipulative, sly, and f**k up... Waste everyone's time.

edit: thread title should be "why some people...".

edit 2: We're talking in the context of dating. Have to edit as some members has misinterpret my post. Of course who the f**k cares about one's status when it is just platonic friendship.

You mean you asked them, they deny, and then only later then they say have kids?
If you never ask, why u expect others to reveal to you?
Unless someone asked, do you know how difficult/awkward it is to bring the topic up, just out of the blue?

Turning the table around, did you declare that you do not accept single mums/people in debt/people with STD at the very beginning?

Furthermore, why do you say that it is a waste of time?
u mean single moms/dads, people in debt, people with STD are not humans and do not deserve to have a meaningful relationship/life?

 

[eq2addict]

Not bashing women thread, but serious question.

Like they got kids le or they're single mom, but they don't disclose this. They pretend talk to you first, then ask you out, .etc.

Then only later they declare they got kids. Knn. I feel this is f**k up and lying in a way... And their reasoning would be, "I scared if I tell you before that, you will ghost me." or "so you can know the real me before judging."

I feel it is really sly and f**k up sia... Few of my friends kenna recently then they sibei dulan. I kenna once before too.

For ladies reading this, it is like a man got lifetime STD (i.e: herpes), in huge debts, or also a single dad, but never disclose until you all talk for some time liao only then he declare to you because he scared you will judge him and filter him, .etc. It is like they want you to become emotionally invested first, only then they declare their shortcomings.

I just find such move very manipulative, sly, and f**k up... Waste everyone's time.

edit: thread title should be "why some people...".

edit 2: We're talking in the context of dating. Have to edit as some members has misinterpret my post. Of course who the f**k cares about one's status when it is just platonic friendship.

cos you dont have monopoly to waste their time and play games.

 

[Lchlch]

They dnt reveal their status means they probably able yo support herself n children.

 

[eq2addict]

Not bashing women thread, but serious question.

Like they got kids le or they're single mom, but they don't disclose this. They pretend talk to you first, then ask you out, .etc.

Then only later they declare they got kids. Knn. I feel this is f**k up and lying in a way... And their reasoning would be, "I scared if I tell you before that, you will ghost me." or "so you can know the real me before judging."

I feel it is really sly and f**k up sia... Few of my friends kenna recently then they sibei dulan. I kenna once before too.

For ladies reading this, it is like a man got lifetime STD (i.e: herpes), in huge debts, or also a single dad, but never disclose until you all talk for some time liao only then he declare to you because he scared you will judge him and filter him, .etc. It is like they want you to become emotionally invested first, only then they declare their shortcomings.

I just find such move very manipulative, sly, and f**k up... Waste everyone's time.

edit: thread title should be "why some people...".

edit 2: We're talking in the context of dating. Have to edit as some members has misinterpret my post. Of course who the f**k cares about one's status when it is just platonic friendship.

its not like you declare your health status , how many STD u get , how many ridout road house , mercedes and benz . log in singpass and show her your cpf on the first date right?

its anoying how many guys spring the KC trap when the women finally know what a dirty STD debt ridden loser they are.

 

[AlmightyOnes]

Just ask directly whether they have kids or marriage etc. Like attached? Married or single mum etc.
Ya I know is 'silly' to ask in dating app or site, but hard truth is some of them are like that. Married but still looking for simi bf or whatever stuff. Or in this case, single mum or sometimes divorced with kids

 

[IAmChiobu12M]

They should have treasured you instead..
Because 像你这样的恐龙男人，早就绝种了


CheerS!!!

或许是有古生物学家想研究但没机会 leh?

 

[IAmChiobu12M]

Just ask directly whether they have kids or marriage etc. Like attached? Married or single mum etc.
Ya I know is 'silly' to ask in dating app or site, but hard truth is some of them are like that. Married but still looking for simi bf or whatever stuff. Or in this case, single mum or sometimes divorced with kids

But actually I always wonder so openly use app not scared kena caught by other people meh? Later friends see will go tell their partner wah.

And I can vouch many who are in a rs/marriage are more lonely than single alone. At least you are not being tied down.

 

[coyote]

Not bashing women thread, but serious question.

Like they got kids le or they're single mom, but they don't disclose this. They pretend talk to you first, then ask you out, .etc.

Then only later they declare they got kids. Knn. I feel this is f**k up and lying in a way... And their reasoning would be, "I scared if I tell you before that, you will ghost me." or "so you can know the real me before judging."

I feel it is really sly and f**k up sia... Few of my friends kenna recently then they sibei dulan. I kenna once before too.

For ladies reading this, it is like a man got lifetime STD (i.e: herpes), in huge debts, or also a single dad, but never disclose until you all talk for some time liao only then he declare to you because he scared you will judge him and filter him, .etc. It is like they want you to become emotionally invested first, only then they declare their shortcomings.

I just find such move very manipulative, sly, and f**k up... Waste everyone's time.

edit: thread title should be "why some people...".

edit 2: We're talking in the context of dating. Have to edit as some members has misinterpret my post. Of course who the f**k cares about one's status when it is just platonic friendship.

If they say they have kids or single mum, you won't even chat with her, let alone meeting up...see the irony?

 

[weiess]

can report mata... say tio scam??

 

[RockiePillow]

I am single

You used to be single. Lol

 

[mxkxmx]

Dating is only a game, unless the guy kumgong want to commit and make promises.
The guy better grow the balls to ask her. Don't assume she is innocent and pure, check her background and spot the red flags.

 

[Nevereatrice]

of course u scared being judge what. if u work in your fudder company wholelife but boast to ppl u self made elite ceo how will u feel loooooooooooool

 

[Travis_Touchdown]

they wan to find a provider for their kids...