hiring helper or nursing home？

[qhong61]

i first time hiring helper due to elderly father bad fall when outside walking and have bone facture. already in hospital and tcf since april. was told by social worker in hospital to employ helper.

would like to check if do u all give food or transport allowance for helper other than her monthly salary?

Of cos

 

[qhong61]

U r rite. Worse nowadays looots families "one child only" ( future one pax take care TWO elderlies.), plus looots married "no kids" & singles "no kids".

Nitemare future Sg -good luck for Sg toooones "elderly without next gen".

And their bbfa uncles and aunties.

 

[stupidog]

1.1k is quite high pay.

which agency did you get her from? If u don’t mind sharing . Can pm too

i think someone mentioned here before

https://www.anglocaregivers.com/

remember to ask for experienced real caregivers not those study in school or only "trained" wans

 

[tidiii]

Same boat here.
To add, I also have dementia dad. My sis is of no help as she just want to push everything to me.
My mum is 60kg, no joke to carry here to n fro commode and wheelchair.
My lower back injured liao
Change diapers, shower, makan....etc.
A lot of ppl will think is easy job....that's because they never experience first hand before.
365 days no rest...and I had been doing for 4 years.
Yes, I lost my temper a few times...I tell my mum I wish she and dad can just die asap.

I don't see any silver lining. I see many in their 50s, already enjoying their years...but me.....
I also want to go travel around the world. To see the world before I die.
Probably the fortunate thing is Im not married and no kids, if not will have another set of problems.

can send to nursing home?

 

[cyke69sg]

i first time hiring helper due to elderly father bad fall when outside walking and have bone facture. already in hospital and tcf since april. was told by social worker in hospital to employ helper.

would like to check if do u all give food or transport allowance for helper other than her monthly salary?

No. $700 is her monthly that's it. But provide her lodging and meals when she is at home . Off day she take care of her meals and expenses. Some maid choose not to go on off day then provide her meals.

 

[cyke69sg]

U r rite. Worse nowadays looots families "one child only" ( future one pax take care TWO elderlies.), plus looots married "no kids" & singles "no kids".

Nitemare future Sg -good luck for Sg toooones "elderly without next gen".

Will be new SGreans from other countries replacing the old generation and current generation.

SG is going to get even better.

 

[cyke69sg]

can send to nursing home?

Nursing home too expensive.
Helper cheapest.

 

[tidiii]

Nursing home too expensive.
Helper cheapest.

wat about daycare?
or old folks home

 

[cyke69sg]

wat about daycare?
or old folks home

too expensive. Helper is the best. Old person can stay at home which is most familiar and comfortable.
Eat home cooked food,
Use own toilet
See family.
One to one care from helper.

Even if hire 2 helpers still cheaper than to go elsewhere.

 

[Mountainnodew]

i first time hiring helper due to elderly father bad fall when outside walking and have bone facture. already in hospital and tcf since april. was told by social worker in hospital to employ helper.

would like to check if do u all give food or transport allowance for helper other than her monthly salary?

This is the hidden cost eg food, transport, medical, clothes, etc

 

[8zaoyu]

i first time hiring helper due to elderly father bad fall when outside walking and have bone facture. already in hospital and tcf since april. was told by social worker in hospital to employ helper.

would like to check if do u all give food or transport allowance for helper other than her monthly salary?

No lah, usually only go wet mkt to buy meats and veges to home to cook otherwise tabao from downstairs coffeeshops?
One strong Aunty (not too young singles) maid will do, towel Ah Gong / Ah Mah onto movable commode to shower/toileting daily and go wheelchair round the downstairs gardens/parks.
Ensure you know what type you want, elderly care of one or two elderly parents, domestic work and homecook food (clean toilets/kitchen/rooms, laundry/ironing of many members of household, bring to/from childcare of a few children)
My previous Aunties maids could do insulin injection and tube-feeding (taught by the hospital nurses) Their salaries based on first time FDW or many years experienced (with good reviews) here in SG.

 

[8zaoyu]

This is the hidden cost eg food, transport, medical, clothes, etc

only the required periodic medical check up due in the two years contract, clothings got plenty of T- shirts and shorts around, food - tabao economic rice/noodles, eat maggie mee, eat TopOne bread, transport - walk is free. You think she is your Mistress meh.
My relative don't like the maid, send back losing agent and insurance fees - so sometimes folks living with the helper must interview her to hear how she communicate understand instructions

 

[van123]

i first time hiring helper due to elderly father bad fall when outside walking and have bone facture. already in hospital and tcf since april. was told by social worker in hospital to employ helper.

would like to check if do u all give food or transport allowance for helper other than her monthly salary?

No “allowance” given for food or transport
But provide food in that helper cooks for herself and my senior
Helper only walks to market, no transport cost
Medical cost - have to reimburse helper

 

[Elfblade]

my father hospitalized got stroke. social worker told me that my father can dechange le give me 3 choices

1. me take of my father at home
(need to work and mother eyesight also not good le how to take care him

2. hiring helper
monthly around how much？

3. nursing home
social worker said 3k-5k

Option 3 and apply for Grant.

 

[8zaoyu]

U r rite. Worse nowadays looots families "one child only" ( future one pax take care TWO elderlies.), plus looots married "no kids" & singles "no kids".

Nitemare future Sg -good luck for Sg toooones "elderly without next gen".

This generation will pay for Community Care Living (>65)
If single or widowed and immobile - stay in 2-rm flexi with helper?

 

[8zaoyu]

wat about daycare?
or old folks home

Depends only state of elderly ( mobile or bedridden not ok kind)
Old folks home - usually for bedridden no next of kins children/siblings ( have to declare properties/savings to get taxpayer's subsidies)

 

[qhong61]

If still mobile and below 70yo, can hire just to keep oneself company?

 

[Panerex]

No. $700 is her monthly that's it. But provide her lodging and meals when she is at home . Off day she take care of her meals and expenses. Some maid choose not to go on off day then provide her meals.

So if maid stay at home during off days, employer still has to provide food while she does nothing at home?

 

[Panerex]

No lah, usually only go wet mkt to buy meats and veges to home to cook otherwise tabao from downstairs coffeeshops?
One strong Aunty (not too young singles) maid will do, towel Ah Gong / Ah Mah onto movable commode to shower/toileting daily and go wheelchair round the downstairs gardens/parks.
Ensure you know what type you want, elderly care of one or two elderly parents, domestic work and homecook food (clean toilets/kitchen/rooms, laundry/ironing of many members of household, bring to/from childcare of a few children)
My previous Aunties maids could do insulin injection and tube-feeding (taught by the hospital nurses) Their salaries based on first time FDW or many years experienced (with good reviews) here in SG.

If helper taobao her own food from coffeeshop/ hawker centre, reaonsable to give her $5 for to choose what she wants to eat and drink?

Is this a good practice? Any risk that she keeps the money and not eat?

 

[Panerex]

No “allowance” given for food or transport
But provide food in that helper cooks for herself and my senior
Helper only walks to market, no transport cost
Medical cost - have to reimburse helper

Anyone came across helpers with big appetite?
No choice but to let her eat?