So I'm curious what's the benchmark? And what's the point of having a relationship or even marriage or even family.
Benchmark is relative. Everyone has different tastes and they can hardly come to the same conclusion on certain topics. If you find that the chap looks 顺眼 to you, fair enough. That will always be someone who looks cuter. Well, probably these are some "natural" steps in our lives.
You find someone, date for a few years, decide to settle down after "floating" for a while, get married, get a flat, kids, you raise them up, they continue from how you started, you begin to grow old and then..you leave this world. Rather than ask, "what is the point of doing all these?" Why not consider the meaning, joy, lessons and other intangible aspects that you may bring to the lives of the others? To be the best version of yourself and impart these to the next generation. How would you like to be remembered by those surviving after you have passed on?
Girls keep saying girl power and we deserve better, hence we should have high standards and daringly demand but if men are not buying it is pointless. It takes 2 person to agree to come together.
If what the ladies have at home is already good for them, why settle for lesser outside? As compared to the past, many parents are now able to provide MORE to their children in terms of the quality of education e.g. Parents are better educated these days and they are the models for their kids in terms of what they may achieve with a different head start.
Similarly, a lot single bbfa always say they wish to have a girl even hiew them. Yet there are another camp keep say rs is burden, single is best.
Well, both aren't wrong from what I feel.
And honestly at this stage and even as a female, I also think rs are quite pointless. Even if the best piak, strongest passion, thickest love will also eventually withers.
Well, maybe, you have not met the one who makes you want to take the next step and risks involved.. Yes, physical aspects will fade with time. No doubt about it. But, other than asking what others may do for you, what will you do for others in return? Even with the highest level of passion, if the lady were simply going thru the motion of it all and does not feel the same, how long would this passion/lust/love last?
As the Chinese saying goes: "水涨船高“。 水位不上涨，船位哪儿会提高？
Caz bto lor. We are in an environment where housing keep pricing us out so to catch up, many decided to play the bto game by getting someone, if not single need wait 35yo.
This to me, is illogical. It is nothing but a sham marriage like what some have gotten themselves into for monetary returns. Why bother then? Why waste a few years of your life and his, simply to queue for a flat, buy one, complete the M.O.P, sell and then do what? Of course, if
both parties have agreed that the union were simply to buy and sell the flats for maximum profits but lead separate lives, then by all means, go ahead. I believe that the breaking up would be relatively more amicable.
But even those who successfully attached or married end up also have other problems. Guys scared wear green hats or WC, girls scared end up nothing and become single mother suffer.
Sure. Definitely. Both parties are not wrong as people have gone thru what you have described. These fears are omnipresent.
At the end of the day, you know all the theories and stories from both sides. You will have to make an informed choice (or meeting someone who makes you want to do that with him), if all these efforts are worthwhile. There is no RIGHT or WRONG answer.
