Divorce Procedure -

[ChuppaChups]

I not sure, coz when I share with her, she seems very sensitive and defensive. U sure got use?

I am my wits end that why I asking here...

Any family members can be involve to talk about it?

 

[Multiversal]

I already very drained and very very tired...

Listen to your heart. Do not listen to another person's suggestion and they might not or never understand how you feel.

If your heart tells you enough is enough, then what are you waiting for? Get a divorce. The alternative is to get a nervous breakdown which would be terrible.

You need to get on with your life, and after weighing the pros and cons, you know what you need to do.

If you divorce, you will lose some, but is the loss worth it? If the answer is in the affirmative, then be rational with your decision making. A law firm isn't hard to find. But if you want validation or advice, and that's why you started this thread, now, that is not a wise thing to do, at least not in edmw....or any online forum for that matter.

 

[EdenHazard]

No kids...

Do share with us how it goes. I similar situation but need wait a bit longer cos not even 3 years into marriage yet. But I looking at this divorce by mutual agreement thing (i.e. no fault divorce) ...

 

[iam7377]

Do share with us how it goes. I similar situation but need wait a bit longer cos not even 3 years into marriage yet. But I looking at this divorce by mutual agreement thing...

I cannot advise you now, coz my mind is very confused and feelings are mixed. I talk to you when I feel better, I cannot help when me myself is worst off than you... Sorry

 

[Jude Raphael]

Sounded like my friend. Hubby dating times super stingy. Everything on dutch. Now married with kid for 10 years. Hubby has a car n earning quite a good pay. Hubby wants my friend to be stay home. Hubby refuses to take care of son , but not giving my friend any money . She falls sick she has to pay for her own medical. She used up all her saving and could not even afford to buy pad. Now working part time in cafe to earn money for her own self. After work still need to fetch son from school . Hubby doesn even allow her to use household CDC voucher. Friend said she would divorce her hubby when child is an adult. Currently she just tolerate such living as she was born in a very poor family which used to stay in rented flat all her whole life. Parents passed away at young age but her bro financially supports her too.

Sad to say this as a guy, but this is why the Women’s Charter remains relevant in our society.
Abuse comes in different ways and may not be visible such as physical wounds. What he has done, is tantamount to emotional and psychological abuses in my opinion.

I’d say, the chap probably has been taking advantage of her given her life experiences and a lack of familial support.

 

[iam7377]

Any family members can be involve to talk about it?

Let me think through first..my mind is very confused now. Mixed feelings...

 

[Laguna123]

Ts is how old? If give her money then can be uncontested? Property is share payment?

 

[iam7377]

Sad to say this as a guy, but this is why the Women’s Charter remains relevant in our society.
Abuse comes in different ways and may not be visible such as physical wounds. What he has done, is tantamount to emotional and psychological abuses in my opinion.

I’d say, the chap probably has been taking advantage of her given her life experiences and a lack of familial support.

If got divorced, surely most people will blame the guy or the male...cheat or being unfaithful...

 

[iam7377]

Ts is how old? If give her money then can be uncontested? Property is share payment?

Close to 40s...

 

[GoodEnergy]

I not sure, coz when I share with her, she seems very sensitive and defensive. U sure got use?

I am my wits end that why I asking here...

I do not know both of you personally, so cannot really comment if "got use or not"..

Go to "Fei Yue" family counselling, i think not too expenseive.

I feel, should at least give it a try first. If she does not want to do the counselling, then so be it. At least you have tried.

I feel if it is not because of affairs on either party side, or not because of spousal abuse (physically), it still may be can be salvaged.

Who knows after you voiced out that you think the marriage is on the rocks and you are thinking of calling it quits, she will "wake up" and try to adjust her behaviour.

Anyway, i feel if you still got feelings for her, worth a try. But if every day, face her is like a mental torture, then that is another story..

 

[iam7377]

I do not know both of you personally, so cannot really comment if "got use or not"..

Go to "Fei Yue" family counselling, i think not too expenseive.

I feel, should at least give it a try first. If she does not want to do the counselling, then so be it. At least you have tried.

I feel if it is not because of affairs on either party side, or not because of spousal abuse (physically), it still may be can be salvaged.

Who knows after you voiced out that you think the marriage is on the rocks and you are thinking of calling it quits, she will "wake up" and try to adjust her behaviour.

Anyway, i feel if you still got feelings for her, worth a try. But if every day, face her is like a mental torture, then that is another story..

I dunno lei, I can go back home now but I choose not to, later quarrel, like walking on egg shells...

 

[Spike]

I not sure, coz when I share with her, she seems very sensitive and defensive. U sure got use?

I am my wits end that why I asking here...

Quoting EDMW's favorite mantra, wife is ownself choose.

Got use, no use, at least you have done what you can. Not go down this route without trying.

 

[iam7377]

Quoting EDMW's favorite mantra, wife is ownself choose.

Got use, no use, at least you have done what you can. Not go down this route without trying.

I scared later being her go talk then quarrel again, very draining to deal with her mood swings and temper...

 

[EdenHazard]

Interested to learn the latest process.

 

[alfonsoyy]

What's her response after u told her u want to divorce? She ok with it? If yes, just get it done and over with asap.

 

[KPO_SAHM]

If got divorced, surely most people will blame the guy or the male...cheat or being unfaithful...

Not really....u don have to think that way. Better to leave now than having a kid

 

[nid2doit]

"I intend given her the house, I have enough money to restart my life...hopefully..."

If you are my good friend, I would slap you and ask you to wake up your "f**king idea" !
No wonder a lot of women don't respect men any more. But good luck to you la~

 

[blue666]

Edmw anyhow

go seek legal advice from divorce lawyer

the judge is not anyhow to say give women this and that. No children is relative easy.

50/50 split is possible; unless go very specific reasons

 

[Spike]

I scared later being her go talk then quarrel again, very draining to deal with her mood swings and temper...

Based on your sharing, if you were to go down this route of divorce, can expect 100 more fights before your divorce is finalized.

Just need to grit your teeth and get this done.

 

[MajiMax]

Dun need to fight as I am prepared to give her the house...

Can give up like that? I thought your wife will need to buy over your share, e.g. returning the contribution CPF used for the house.