Divorce Procedure -

[Itsnotfunny]

I believe only living together for 1-2 years will get to know the other party better. Courtship is like demo. Live together for 1-2 years is like POC.

 

[nasfieldjohn]

What else can she claw back? Give her house not enough?!

Ts should fight for house
Nowadays hdb so sexpensive

 

[KPO_SAHM]

I dunno lei, I can go back home now but I choose not to, later quarrel, like walking on egg shells...

My hubby classmate married a taiwanese. Have 2 kids. Classmate is financially strong as he retired at late 30s. Brought kids to travel. Many would envy him but for himself , his marriage sucks. If not for the kids, he would have left the woman long time ago. Wife is very大女人和小女人...super 霸道。 Everything wants to control n make decisions. What classmate does she would disagree. Everyday quarrels. Moreover woman doesn know singapore and doesn allow kids n classmate return to sing. Classmate never return to singapore for 20 years. Now classmate parents r aging n sick. Classmate doesn even bother wife now brought kids back to sing. And he also settles the kids here and send them to local school

 

[yokine3a]

She contributed 2/3 to the hse, she earns more than ts, she is the type where talk nicely she bochap, talk angry she not happy, always end up quarrel. Frankly this type of spoil woman unless go thru hardship, else unlikely will change.

Suggest ts even wanna give her the flat shouldn't let her know in advance, should tell her straight to her face you want to divorce n take back your share, she will either go back live with parents or downgrade buy a smaller 2R flat stay alone.

 

[EdenHazard]

I believe only living together for 1-2 years will get to know the other party better. Courtship is like demo. Live together for 1-2 years is like POC.

Not only that but people can change also.. like once earn more, they think they damn satki and "deserve better"

 

[Balian]

ts rushed into marriage?

 

[Jude Raphael]

If got divorced, surely most people will blame the guy or the male...cheat or being unfaithful...

Infidelity seems like a common reason for a breakup. However, I wouldn’t stereotype and say that the guys are usually guilty. It takes two hands to clap.
Regardless, I know that it’s not an easy situation for anyone to be in your shoes right now.

 

[iam7377]

She contributed 2/3 to the hse, she earns more than ts, she is the type where talk nicely she bochap, talk angry she not happy, always end up quarrel. Frankly this type of spoil woman unless go thru hardship, else unlikely will change.

Suggest ts even wanna give her the flat shouldn't let her know in advance, should tell her straight to her face you want to divorce n take back your share, she will either go back live with parents or downgrade buy a smaller 2R flat stay alone.

Her parents always give in to her... I noticed...

 

[iantao99]

IMHO, only 3 yrs, the marriage didn't change the person.
The personality of a person is likely the original status.

Please don't hope counseling will change the person for the better.
It is gonna be a long shot.

Nobody is perfect.
You need to ask yourself if you can live with this person for the rest of your life with this imperfection.
If you cannot, then divorce ASAP.
Always better earlier than later.

3yrs marriage is very short.
If go to court, won't need to give wife alot wan.
No need to give your share of house if you don't want to.

My 2 cents.

 

[MoeLanYong]

Nowadays, there is something call " no blame" divorce or simplified

This is wrong info. My friend divorced and she and her ex did not live separately "physically" for 3 or 4 years. In fact they live together. She said the lawyer said as long as they are separate "emotionally" for 3 years or more, it can be considered separate. Separately emotionally means no longer can talk like a close married couple, more like strangers/housemates.

irreconcilable reasons can be a reason for divorce.

Also, nowadays got "no-blame divorce" or simplified divorce. 6 months can settle if more mutually agree.

I suggest @iam7377 to go see a lawyer who will provide more advice.

I think what your friend did was to stay in separate rooms in the same address, with recorded evidence.

Yes unreasonable behavior is also one of the permissiveable path. The mutual agreement path was added recently.

 

[A Better Tomorrow]

Infidelity seems like a common reason for a breakup. However, I wouldn’t stereotype and say that the guys are usually guilty. It takes two hands to clap.
Regardless, I know that it’s not an easy situation for anyone to be in your shoes right now.

Good point there. Wife can have fun outsai and still think that she is right to give her body to another man to ravage.

This is something that spouses won't want back a used defective product, no matter how much negotiation is at stake.

 

[Mephist0pheLes]

Do share with us how it goes. I similar situation but need wait a bit longer cos not even 3 years into marriage yet. But I looking at this divorce by mutual agreement thing (i.e. no fault divorce) ...

im also on the same path.

gave me and my wife 6 months to work things out. 4 months has passed and its just me trying, likely the marriage is gg alr.

 

[A Better Tomorrow]

Her parents always give in to her... I noticed...

How the family court see the division of matrimontial asset ie HDB flat, is not just simple maths of financial contributions.

It also includes the indirect contributions like household chores

 

[GoodEnergy]

I think what your friend did was to stay in separate rooms in the same address, with recorded evidence.

Yes unreasonable behavior is also one of the permissiveable path. The mutual agreement path was added recently.

No...sleep in same room as they do not have enough rooms to sleep separately (just no sxx anymore)...no recorded evidence of sleeping separately.

 

[MoeLanYong]

No...sleep in same room as they do not have enough rooms to sleep separately (just no sxx anymore)...no recorded evidence of sleeping separately.

This, I am surprised. They went the mutual agreement path?

 

[yokine3a]

Her parents always give in to her... I noticed...

Sigh, that's how her princess mentality is built.

Then tell her after divorce, her character n her age is a big disadv to find another hubby, so be prepared to die alone at home, after her parents passed on.

 

[Teyemittisi]

Live separately for 3 years first.

That's the first step to qualify.

Unreasonable behaviour is hard to prove. Cheat on you, you got evidence?

Don’t wait 3 years. Just do an immediate one. No point wasting each others time.

 

[EdenHazard]

im also on the same path.

gave me and my wife 6 months to work things out. 4 months has passed and its just me trying, likely the marriage is gg alr.

Honestly initially I was quite sad like ts. But now I numb alr. Just wanna faster hit 3 year mark and file for it...

Life will be much happier once I am free of this nonsense. Divorce no big deal la even lawrence wong divorce before..
However I unlikely to want remarry again la... at most cohabit with new partner. Financially make sense too cos can own individual ppty.

 

[jack-320]

In before TS = friend

No one divorces that easily, given that getting attached is not easy and smooth sailing

There are people out there who has difficulty getting attached, because girls don't like them, don't say married

then some people, who gets attached and married without any issues, girls like them and want to have a relationship with them, and then these people want to divorce

really is 身在福中不知福, please think twice

 

[MoeLanYong]

Don’t wait 3 years. Just do an immediate one. No point wasting each others time.

If she agrees. If she doesn't?