My first date experience, how should I continue on?

[Kia7200]

Facts.

I briefly dated a Swedish-Thai girl and insisted on paying for her share because I was in loser Singaporean simp-mode. She actually got angry with me when I forcefully paid for our first date, saying that in their culture it's kind of rude to assume that she cannot afford to take care of herself and that dating should start off on equal footing. After that next date she jitao paid for everything. This was a real taste of gender equality, and it actually felt good.

I also dated women from our neighboring countries who expect men to pay for everything, but in return these girls were very sweet and sayang, like 10/10 gfe. Here I tasted what it felt like to be THE MAN in a traditional provider role, and it felt good too.

After these experiences, okay I think SG dating is a massive downgrade. In SG 95% of my dates expected me to treat, but gave little to no gfe. I go for friends' weddings and more often than not I hear the stupid "your money is my money, my money is my money" joke being bandied around by the flatchested or dinobu women there.

In SG you get the worst of both worlds. Sinkie women want the benefits of gender equality (higher salary, stronger voice in workplace, politics and social settings, more household decision making power) without the responsibilities of gender equality (sharing financial burdens equally, NS).

Well said.

Dont know why any sane human with normal iq will run around telling people they r independent, they can pay their own bills and the other hand expect guys to pay.

Just so embarrassing to hear sg female talking abt all these, what gender equality then next min contradict themselves. Knn xia suay

 

[New_Account]

raffle place got simi chinese restaurant

thanks for ur csb

 

[keenklee]

I brought a girl to raffles place for our first date. We had lunch at a chinese restaurant but I asked to split the bill instead of me paying everything. She said ok and she paynow me right on the spot.

After we finished eating I had to go to the toilet so she waited for me outside. 5 mins later after I came out I couldnt find her so I checked my phone and she said that she had to leave because of an emergency.

how should I continue from here? Do I still have chance for second date?

IMHO.
Next time pay and decide what to do before go toilet.

 

[crandfs]

I brought a girl to raffles place for our first date. We had lunch at a chinese restaurant but I asked to split the bill instead of me paying everything. She said ok and she paynow me right on the spot.

After we finished eating I had to go to the toilet so she waited for me outside. 5 mins later after I came out I couldnt find her so I checked my phone and she said that she had to leave because of an emergency.

how should I continue from here? Do I still have chance for second date?

If the girl siams you simply because she had to pay half, then you dodged a bullet.

 

[foreveru13]

dm call me sister on tiktok to go dating. she will teach you.

 

[Dopod007]

TS can write to the girl and apologise profusely on the splitting bill incident and promised to take care of subsequent bills and beg for a chance of 2nd date...

 

[doppypoppy]

wah knn 16 pages for a thread like this

 

[champion09]

I brought a girl to raffles place for our first date. We had lunch at a chinese restaurant but I asked to split the bill instead of me paying everything. She said ok and she paynow me right on the spot.

After we finished eating I had to go to the toilet so she waited for me outside. 5 mins later after I came out I couldnt find her so I checked my phone and she said that she had to leave because of an emergency.

how should I continue from here? Do I still have chance for second date?

no chance in hell

 

[blahblahzz]

Offer to pay first, if she says yes means you got second rodeo. If she asks to split, means gone case.

 

[Godeau]

I think u date guys better

 

[Notbbfa]

I remember i met a thai girl at tokyo on my solo trip, and we hang out together for a while. All the meals she ownself will offer to split. Even hold hands liao. Before we say goodbye, we added each other on whatsapp and she saw my wife on the profile pic. Jitao got blocked forever.

wahpiang u go go overseas holiday never wear ring?!?!

 

[randyap]

wahpiang u go go overseas holiday never wear ring?!?!

scare lose the ring. Go overseas, items like watches, rings all never bring de.

 

[toolbox03]

raffle place got simi chinese restaurant

thanks for ur csb

Ocbc office tower got chinese restaurant on top, peach garden

 

[Big Chicken]

Offer to pay first, if she says yes means you got second rodeo. If she asks to split, means gone case.

TS lagi best, asked to split. He should just stick to cai png and masturbation.

 

[arsenalfc85]

I think gg liao

ask to split bills then the girl ran off.

ts forget it liao la

 

[New_Account]

Ocbc office tower got chinese restaurant on top, peach garden

$40/pax enough? ts got 1 for 1?

 

[Shinning_Wolf]

I brought a girl to raffles place for our first date. We had lunch at a chinese restaurant but I asked to split the bill instead of me paying everything. She said ok and she paynow me right on the spot.

After we finished eating I had to go to the toilet so she waited for me outside. 5 mins later after I came out I couldnt find her so I checked my phone and she said that she had to leave because of an emergency.

how should I continue from here? Do I still have chance for second date?

Looks like she wanted free lunch but didn’t get what she wanted. At least you know early.

 

[XiaoChilli]

too little shared to advice

but raffles place and Chinese restaurant both dont sound like she's serious in the relationship and that she might have many options available

jiayou bro

Den go where is serious in r/s?

 

[glarerder]

Den go where is serious in r/s?

Go wherever both are comfortable with paying their fair share.

 

[toolbox03]

Den go where is serious in r/s?

Hotel81 is very serious already