My first date experience, how should I continue on?

[Sadisticnoob]

too little shared to advice

but raffles place and Chinese restaurant both dont sound like she's serious in the relationship and that she might have many options available

jiayou bro

maybe eat at house of sichuan thats why

 

[TiedInsurer]

Then should go where for first date?

My first date with my future wife, i offered to go upscale restaurant at MBS. Nowadays would have costed $100/pax. I was a simp and i wanted to impress her. She declined and we sat at the music fountain outside MBS to talk instead. Total cost of the date, $4, for bus and MRT fare roundtrip.

That's the thing. If a woman is really into you, she will not want you to spend money, because she wants you to save for your future together. The date is for you to talk and get to know each other better. The food is secondary. It's not the focus of the date. If a woman gauges you by how much you willing to spend on her, then you know that this woman is mercenary. She will go with the highest bidder.

 

[ribena.bing]

Then should go where for first date?

u need to share about ur demographics and dynamics ma

age? income? interests?

if not based on stereotype i can only assume you guys are late 30s working in cbd and that she might even be ah tiong

 

[zueinder]

I brought a girl to raffles place for our first date. We had lunch at a chinese restaurant but I asked to split the bill instead of me paying everything. She said ok and she paynow me right on the spot.

After we finished eating I had to go to the toilet so she waited for me outside. 5 mins later after I came out I couldnt find her so I checked my phone and she said that she had to leave because of an emergency.

how should I continue from here? Do I still have chance for second date?

Have. Next one will be deemed a harassment attempt. Then third date go police station.

On a serious note, seems like TS is either trolling or those extremely sheltered person, somehow this is their first time seeing double standards applied.

 

[106gunner]

I brought a girl to raffles place for our first date. We had lunch at a chinese restaurant but I asked to split the bill instead of me paying everything. She said ok and she paynow me right on the spot.

After we finished eating I had to go to the toilet so she waited for me outside. 5 mins later after I came out I couldnt find her so I checked my phone and she said that she had to leave because of an emergency.

how should I continue from here? Do I still have chance for second date?

LOL, first date already request for spilt bill

No wonder she run away

 

[Jeremy1]

If a gal likes you, she will wait for you but just too bad............

 

[エステ好きな野郎]

This one no chance, don’t bother

 

[charlieangel123]

I first date already hold hands and put my arms around her waist.

u slow
i first date already french kiss and twist my tongue until cramp

 

[Ubi-Warrior]

I brought a girl to raffles place for our first date. We had lunch at a chinese restaurant but I asked to split the bill instead of me paying everything. She said ok and she paynow me right on the spot.

After we finished eating I had to go to the toilet so she waited for me outside. 5 mins later after I came out I couldnt find her so I checked my phone and she said that she had to leave because of an emergency.

how should I continue from here? Do I still have chance for second date?

Did you show her your degree certs?

 

[Balian]

Sch holiday not over?

 

[Monstruo^]

I brought a girl to raffles place for our first date. We had lunch at a chinese restaurant but I asked to split the bill instead of me paying everything. She said ok and she paynow me right on the spot.

After we finished eating I had to go to the toilet so she waited for me outside. 5 mins later after I came out I couldnt find her so I checked my phone and she said that she had to leave because of an emergency.

how should I continue from here? Do I still have chance for second date?

10/10 no second date and it was due to you asking to split.

Questions:
1) Who initiated the lunch and who chose the place?
2) Did you tell her in advance that yall gon split for the lunch?
3) How much was the cost per person?
4) Was it weekday lunch and both of you working in the same area?

 

[Monstruo^]

Did you show her your degree certs?

Simi degree certs?

 

[Velton]

If she likes you, she will go to the toilet with you

 

[Ubi-Warrior]

Simi degree certs?

Ts used to be obsessed with his NUS 1st Class Comp Science degree....

I assume they are still part of his "banter with the ladies"

Also had a seemingly irrational hate of teachers at one point

 

[TiedInsurer]

I brought a girl to raffles place for our first date. We had lunch at a chinese restaurant but I asked to split the bill instead of me paying everything. She said ok and she paynow me right on the spot.

After we finished eating I had to go to the toilet so she waited for me outside. 5 mins later after I came out I couldnt find her so I checked my phone and she said that she had to leave because of an emergency.

how should I continue from here? Do I still have chance for second date?

Give benefit of doubt lor. Maybe really got emergency. If you like her, text her ask for second date and see what happens. At worse she block you only mah. Not much different from never texting her again because you assumed but didn't get confirmation that she hates you now.

Anyway, all of these is personal preference. Women got 3 kinds.

Type 1 will refuse to let her man pay because she genuinely believes in the "strong, independent woman" image that she has built for herself. Will pull their own weight financially. This type is probably the ideal kind you are looking for, since you asked to split.

Type 2 will only pay their fair share if you ask, but they will hate you for it and later go back home and post on instagram about how worthless and cheapskate sinkie males are. For this type, some genuinely have the tradwife mindset. They adhere to traditional gender roles. Expect to have them serve you hand and foot if you marry them. But this type quite rare in SG la. IF you are okay with traditional gender roles, this type actually not bad also.

Type 3 is the faux "strong independent women", They will behave like type 2, except they don't actually believe in traditional gender roles. They just want whatever benefits them. They are feminists when it comes to workplace and gender rights, but they become tradwives when the bill comes. Stay far far away from this kind. They have no principles and no morals. They are selfish and manipulative and will sway whichever way maximises their own benefit, not just in this matter, but in all choices in life.

Anyway, to avoid wasting your time and money, it's good to ask your date about their opinion on going dutch, before going on that date.

 

[Jaylim123]

My first date with my future wife, i offered to go upscale restaurant at MBS. Nowadays would have costed $100/pax. I was a simp and i wanted to impress her. She declined and we sat at the music fountain outside MBS to talk instead. Total cost of the date, $4, for bus and MRT fare roundtrip.

That's the thing. If a woman is really into you, she will not want you to spend money, because she wants you to save for your future together. The date is for you to talk and get to know each other better. The food is secondary. It's not the focus of the date. If a woman gauges you by how much you willing to spend on her, then you know that this woman is mercenary. She will go with the highest bidder.

So I should avoid this woman lah, since I ask her to pay her own share and she run away

 

[Jaylim123]

10/10 no second date and it was due to you asking to split.

Questions:
1) Who initiated the lunch and who chose the place?
2) Did you tell her in advance that yall gon split for the lunch?
3) How much was the cost per person?
4) Was it weekday lunch and both of you working in the same area?

Of course is I initiate and chose the place, I didnt tell her in advance and it was about 40+ per person. Weekend lunch

 

[106gunner]

Give benefit of doubt lor. Maybe really got emergency. If you like her, text her ask for second date and see what happens.

Anyway, all of these is personal preference. Women got 3 kinds.

Type 1 will refuse to let her man pay because she genuinely believes in the "strong, independent woman" image that she has built for herself. This type is probably the ideal kind you are looking for, since you asked to split.

Type 2 will only pay their fair share if you ask, but they will hate you for it and later go back home and post on instagram about how worthless and cheapskate sinkie males are. For this type, some genuinely have the tradwife mindset. They adhere to traditional gender roles. Expect to have them serve you hand and foot if you marry them. But this type quite rare in SG la. IF you are okay with traditional gender roles, this type actually not bad also.

Type 3 is the faux "strong independent women", They will behave like type 2, except they don't actually believe in traditional gender roles. They just want whatever benefits them. They are feminists when it comes to workplace and gender rights, but they become tradwives when the bill comes. Stay far far away from this kind. They have no principles and no morals. They are selfish and manipulative and will sway whichever way maximises their own benefit, not just in this matter, but in all choices in life.

Anyway, to avoid wasting your time and money, it's good to ask your date about their opinion on going dutch, before going on that date.

Whether a woman allow the man to paid, TS shouldn’t be so obvious telling her to spilt bill

If she are those that choose to paid for her own she will

Is fine to request for spilt bill if among friends or acquaintance

But if is dating or someone you like I find it stupid asking for spilt

If can’t afford then dun dine in restaurant

 

[enimen]

First date no pika means fail liao

 

[coyote]

I brought a girl to raffles place for our first date. We had lunch at a chinese restaurant but I asked to split the bill instead of me paying everything. She said ok and she paynow me right on the spot.

After we finished eating I had to go to the toilet so she waited for me outside. 5 mins later after I came out I couldnt find her so I checked my phone and she said that she had to leave because of an emergency.

how should I continue from here? Do I still have chance for second date?

You already knew this will be the outcome, why you still did that? Now, you just check her Instagram, TikTok, Facebook, reddit posts and pray she did not expose you.