Parenthood thread

[Lchlch]

She said she wants to have a free day on Sunday. But she needs to think about her parents’ preference isn’t it?

bro, let your wife free day on sunday.
it is not a big deal bro.

 

[Spike]

To be honest bro. I care more about character than grades.

Well dude.. it is not as if she was born that way. She was taught that way.

 

[dry_county]

no prob, this kinda dilemma everyone will hv one, its natural to want yr efforts to be appreciated & reciprocated but not everytime things will go according to ur wish. so u gotta ask yrself what happens when ppl dont appreciate? will u continue doing? will u scale back? can u just do ur part as a responsibility of a parent and dont care abt the rest? always need to ask yrself alot of qns. this is how we become more resilient coz 人生就是跟自己和解。

Thanks zeh zeh for the advice. That’s why I’m silently ranting on edmw….
I’m just harboring the feeling on my own.

 

[dry_county]

Cos she is the eldest?

I dunno leh….probably…..

 

[Spike]

She said she wants to have a free day on Sunday. But she needs to think about her parents’ preference isn’t it?

This is quite interesting. What is your preference on Sunday? Besides you don't like to see strangers in your house when u come home?

 

[dry_county]

Why did she change from Sunday to Friday in the first place?

She said she wants to have Sunday free…..

 

[Kaylin]

Thanks zeh zeh for the advice. That’s why I’m silently ranting on edmw….
I’m just harboring the feeling on my own.

feelings ok one, just rant + sit with it for a few days. just dont allow feelings to make decisions for u

 

[dry_county]

When I look back, I realized that I’ve been an effing ******** to my parents when I was young. But my parents never gave up on me. That made me really grateful to them and I always remind myself to be patient with my children as well

I’m happy to hear that! Sorry for my ranting.

 

[Spike]

I dunno leh….probably…..

You can always ask her over one of the many meals you have with her.

The fact you didn't know isn't reassuring about your attitude towards, and understanding of your children?

 

[AlchemistJ19]

TS. Watch this video. Cannot embed..

 

[congster2]

Just had a heated discussion with my wife:
Elder daughter 14 isn’t appreciative of anything that we do. Totally self entitled.
Younger son 10 stick to my wife. I haven’t slept at night with my wife for the past decade.

why should I have kids in the first place. Sorry for ranting and see if there’s any advice.

Haven't slept at night or had sex? 2 different things.

 

[dry_county]

Actually the problem is with the handling of kids. Not the kids. That's where the disagreement lies.

Soli soli….i agree too. My wife very accommodating to me in terms of parenting….

 

[dry_county]

yes find a time where you are calm, and so is your wife and comes with a agreement, but you must give and forget.

Thanks kor kor. Already did that.

 

[dry_county]

Time to show concern .... She Need at this period... Trust me. Normally Dotter close to daddy One ma...

Thanks kor kor. My dotter is abnormal. She’s very close to my wife and she intentionally not close to me.
Fml….

 

[dry_county]

bro, let your wife free day on sunday.
it is not a big deal bro.

Sorry for the misunderstanding bro. It’s my dotter who wants a free day on Sunday. My wife is stay at home mum.

 

[dry_county]

Well dude.. it is not as if she was born that way. She was taught that way.

Soli soli for me being a bad parent….

 

[Spike]

Thanks kor kor. My dotter is abnormal. She’s very close to my wife and she intentionally not close to me.
Fml….

Dude.. how much time you spend talking to her daily since she can talk..

Bring her to see doctor when she is sick?

Or teach her? play with her?

 

[Spike]

Soli soli for me being a bad parent….

Not saying that la. I rule with an iron fist.

 

[dry_county]

This is quite interesting. What is your preference on Sunday? Besides you don't like to see strangers in your house when u come home?

Sunday I will cook dinner, so I don’t mind the tuition teacher around. When the tuition teacher comes on Friday, it disrupt my schedule cos I don’t usually cook on Friday. Hard to explain bro.

 

[shidenx]

I just asked my dotter to change her tuition timing from Friday to Sunday cos I come home early on Friday and I don’t like someone else at home at that time. And she got upset.

your kid already very big laio if u swap position with her, everything people tell u u do dont care your feeling, you will also rebel.

you dont make effort to talk at the same level to understand her keep using overlord position and use your own perspective only no wonder kid buey song.



im not saying everything give them on a platter when they ask, i say you need to talk to as if they are young adults laio. Give and take is required for any relationship and goes both ways.



when they young before 10 yo u can fierce and overwrite their life, but after many people dont know how to transit to let them run their own lives mode.