The Independent SG - ‘He doesn’t pay when we’re out on a date!’ — SG women give their brutally honest answers to: ‘What’s one thing that makes you los

[d3n]

Then they will ask guys to sponsor them a mirror. Guys just can’t win.

I will bring them to a public toilet and ask them to see for themselves.

 

[quirkyhill]

I never said it's unreasonable to ask girls to pay their own share, but if guy ask girl out, it would be nice gesture and even expected for them to pay. If not, pls don't complain when the girl end up choosing other guy who is willing to do this nice gesture vs those who don't

errmmmmm your first day in edmw??? no point arguing with these folks... here 99% anti woman one

 

[glarerder]

If the girl agree to go on a date with you, it usually means she is at least a little bit interested right? So answer my question, when you asked a girl out on a first date, did you get her to pay her share?

No it can mean she's looking for a free meal. How to know she's not? Pay her own share. Best if you go place where you need to order your own food. When it's the first time meeting especially. Regardless how loaded a guy is, a guy who doesn't set clear distinction between gf and acquaintance risk attracting the wrong girl. Unless you're looking for casual, go ahead pay for her time. Girls who respect the guy's time will know that it's equally important unless she's selling herself as a product.

 

[Oldnerd79]

No it can mean she's looking for a free meal. How to know she's not? Pay her own share. Best if you go place where you need to order your own food. When it's the first time meeting especially. Regardless how loaded a guy is, a guy who doesn't set clear distinction between gf and acquaintance risk attracting the wrong girl. Unless you're looking for casual, go ahead pay for her time. Girls who respect the guy's time will know that it's equally important unless she's selling herself as a product.

I don't see anything wrong to pay for her time if I'm the one who ask her out. It's what a gentleman would do. Of course that's just me. Going to places where you order your own food is also a good idea. But cannot be you go to these places on every date, if every time pay for own share it's just very unromantic lol

 

[glarerder]

I don't see anything wrong to pay for her time if I'm the one who ask her out. It's what a gentleman would do. Of course that's just me. Going to places where you order your own food is also a good idea. But cannot be you go to these places on every date, if every time pay for own share it's just very unromantic lol

Govt advocate gender equality. We should keep up with times. Another thing imo is don't always be the one who asks the girl out. If the girl doesn't ask you out, how would you know it's not a one way attraction? Just like girls who only answer questions instead of having a conversation. She's just filling up her calendar and if she's free and she's interested in the activity, she wouldn't mind going out but she doesn't make it clear that you're only a friend because why would she do that knowing her benefits would be taken away? Not all but there are girls who are like that.

 

[Dr Stephen Strange]

I will bring them to a public toilet and ask them to see for themselves.

They might ask you for the 10 / 20 cents to enter to use the toilet.

 

[starlight318]

Govt advocate gender equality. We should keep up with times. Another thing imo is don't always be the one who asks the girl out. If the girl doesn't ask you out, how would you know it's not a one way attraction? Just like girls who only answer questions instead of having a conversation. She's just filling up her calendar and if she's free and she's interested in the activity, she wouldn't mind going out but she doesn't make it clear that you're only a friend because why would she do that knowing her benefits would be taken away? Not all but there are girls who are like that.

I think if you ask a girl out and then split bill with her you are sending a message that you only see her as friend..lol maybe because I'm old unker. Old thinking.

 

[starlight318]

errmmmmm your first day in edmw??? no point arguing with these folks... here 99% anti woman one

Haha yea..very long never come to edmw, why so many women bashing threads

 

[Encouragesome1]

Why so many triggered by this beedio..most of what the girls said are quite reasonable, I think guys paying for first date is a nice gesture and I would be glad to pickup the bill for most dates but of course not all dates. I think most ladies would offer to pay sometimes, except for the golddiggers...
Quite normal for guy to pay for meals then girl pay for movies for example. At least among my peers this is the norm.
But seriously, some of the comments I see in this thread show how low quality the guys we have here, typical loser and it's no wonder they have no luck with women.

I think most men don’t mind to pay but nobody enjoys being the carrot head, so if someone treat u,
First u follow their budget and preferences;
Be respectful of their time as much as your own.
Since both r friends or strangers, reciprocity’s key.

Unless we r talking about girl come from some mountain n never earned own income otherwise if people offer to blanja you you ought to offer to blanja them back na.

No matter how boring the convo is I will try to offer back to the one who blanja. Fair is fair: my opinion. I only run away if the human behaves siaolang or was rude.

 

[Encouragesome1]

I think if you ask a girl out and then split bill with her you are sending a message that you only see her as friend

Hello star uncle, a mah here. The message u send is I’m not your friend I’m ur acquaintance

..lol maybe because I'm old unker. Old thinking.

Usually friends don’t calculate so much de

 

[glarerder]

I think if you ask a girl out and then split bill with her you are sending a message that you only see her as friend..lol maybe because I'm old unker. Old thinking.

In older days when girls seldom get educated and lack job opportunities, I'd say it's fair to pay for her since men are mostly the one getting educated and getting an income. But times have changed, govt has given women equal opportunities without equal burden of national security. As a result many earn equal or even more than men and yet when comes to dating, men should still continue to keep paying? If people don't keep up with times, eventually more would be single as there's a mismatch and the mismatch is getting wider. Men can't be the only ones who stick to tradition while women are encouraged to modernize and yet expect to be paid for. How would people even consider asking for equal terms as bashing women? Imo, only those who are afraid that their benefits would be taken away from them.

 

[Kia7200]

In older days when girls seldom get educated and lack job opportunities, I'd say it's fair to pay for her since men are mostly the one getting educated and getting an income. But times have changed, govt has given women equal opportunities without equal burden of national security. As a result many earn equal or even more than men and yet when comes to dating, men should still continue to keep paying? If people don't keep up with times, eventually more would be single as there's a mismatch and the mismatch is getting wider. Men can't be the only ones who stick to tradition while women are encouraged to modernize and yet expect to be paid for. How would people even consider asking for equal terms as bashing women? Imo, only those who are afraid that their benefits would be taken away from them.

Sg female r still traditional when situation benefits them

 

[starlight318]

In older days when girls seldom get educated and lack job opportunities, I'd say it's fair to pay for her since men are mostly the one getting educated and getting an income. But times have changed, govt has given women equal opportunities without equal burden of national security. As a result many earn equal or even more than men and yet when comes to dating, men should still continue to keep paying? If people don't keep up with times, eventually more would be single as there's a mismatch and the mismatch is getting wider. Men can't be the only ones who stick to tradition while women are encouraged to modernize and yet expect to be paid for. How would people even consider asking for equal terms as bashing women? Imo, only those who are afraid that their benefits would be taken away from them.

If girl ask the guy out, she pays for the date. If guy ask the girl out, guy pays for the date. Simple as that. How is this not equality?

 

[chaiscool]

Haha yea..very long never come to edmw, why so many women bashing threads

Equality mah, if men ask for same treatment sure kena whack

 

[chaiscool]

If girl ask the guy out, she pays for the date. If guy ask the girl out, guy pays for the date. Simple as that. How is this not equality?

Lol you never met sinkie girl that say your money is my money but my money is mine.

Imo only minority of the girls are willing to pay

 

[eboy]

Women here still see men as providers la

Want go dutch go date in the Nordic countries, you are in the wrong country dude

 

[MynameisS]

Good luck.
They have high probability of winning toto than to find their perfect bf.

can get AMDK lah

 

[Cowbellc]

tbh, if d guy is rich enuf, everything is secondary liao.

 

[highsulphur]

“If he doesn’t respect me!” is cute

 

[A Better Tomorrow]

Just date and don’t develop a relationship with any woman who has no sense of responsibility and accountability if she wants a marriage.