A Failed Marraige

[StoicGuy]

u have to stand up and fight back, got to be a man

What have edmw has become.

A woman with a special need child asking her ex husband to split the cost of treatment. Additional $300 per month.

Edmwer advise the ex husband to migrate, or fight back not to pay.

Seriously...

*Ex-wife married a richer new husband is not in question. I dun think he is obligated to pay but some are ok to pay for step son though. Can't comment right or wrong.

 

[duameatball]

Hello, normal or special need is diagnosed by doctor and not him, nor his wife.

I personally feel it's perfectly ok for his wife to request to split bill. The bill has to be legitimate and shown to him.

Look at the facts, not his story.

Sorry to break your bubble. It’s a smelly industry. Parents need to do their own due diligence to make sure diagnosis are correct. Parents also have the responsibility to be truthful to doctors.

there’s a mental illness called Munchausen syndrome by proxy, whereby parents makeup and lie about their child’s symptoms to get their child diagnosed. Then they gain sympathy and monetary gains from others. It’s a very real thing and a form of child abuse.

TS should bring his first child for second opinion

 

[StoicGuy]

Sorry to break your bubble. It’s a smelly industry. Parents need to do their own due diligence to make sure diagnosis are correct. Parents also have the responsibility to be truthful to doctors.

there’s a mental illness called Munchausen syndrome by proxy, whereby parents makeup and lie about their child’s symptoms to get their child diagnosed. Then they gain sympathy and monetary gains from others. It’s a very real thing and a form of child abuse.

TS should bring his first child for second opinion

Good on you.

His first son diagnosed back in 2015. Now seeking second opinion in 2023 because of additional $300 per month.

What have we become..

 

[EDMW-Hates-Me]

What have edmw has become.

A woman with a special need child asking her ex husband to split the cost of treatment. Additional $300 per month.

Edmwer advise the ex husband to migrate, or fight back not to pay.

Seriously...

*Ex-wife married a richer new husband is not in question. I dun think he is obligated to pay but some are ok to pay for step son though. Can't comment right or wrong.

Let him fight back in court what is fair ba. TS pays 700 in child support now and he said the wife is spendthrift give the kid a lot of private enrichment and healthcare, not surprising if the wife is paying more for the kid. The wife has the doctor's diagnosis to support her, TS is on the losing end here. He might have to pay more monthly, but the judge might limit the extra claims.

 

[qhong61]

Thanks everyone for advice and scolding.
will be standing up this time ready for fight after they back from their their Scandinavian holiday. It will sure be costly but its for the better. cant be a pushover forever.

Hope don't end up in tragedy.
Remember the twin boys case?

 

[StoicGuy]

Let him fight back in court what is fair ba. TS pays 700 in child support now and he said the wife is spendthrift give the kid a lot of private enrichment and healthcare, not surprising if the wife is paying more. The wife has the doctor's diagnosis to support her, TS is on the losing end here. TS might have to pay more monthly, but the judge might limit the extra claims.

Yeah. I agreed also. His ex wife must present the facts also.

These treatment not cheap..

 

[CanIsayNo]

I dun think TS wants custody of his first son.

This is what I understand from his story.

1. He make a lot of effort to spend time with his special need first son before, as a responsible and good father.

2. He just have his second son with his second wife.

3. He feels unfair to pay more to his first son treatment since his ex wife is a high spender.

This is where I can't understand. His ex wife indeed asked him to split the treatment bill of additional $300 monthly. Not he pay all but split bill. I can't see how his wife spending habit got to do with bill splitting since he do has the responsibility to take care of his first son.. no?

time to get his ex wife to come to edmw and post her side of the story

 

[hpv500]

Unless u say u leave your kid behind, otherwise nothing hard

yes i did, alot of things had happened....

just that i did not mentioned it

tats y i said nothing can bring me down now, i have been to the lowest point in life till the stage whereby 生老病死 doesnt matter anymore.

人生无常，世事无常

i live life day by day, born with nothing, live with nothing, leave this world without nothing

 

[gilcrest]

What have edmw has become.

A woman with a special need child asking her ex husband to split the cost of treatment. Additional $300 per month.

Edmwer advise the ex husband to migrate, or fight back not to pay.

Seriously...

*Ex-wife married a richer new husband is not in question. I dun think he is obligated to pay but some are ok to pay for step son though. Can't comment right or wrong.

But the obviousred flag is the ex wife and her family, base on TS wot, any sane man would have fought back.

 

[gilcrest]

Let him fight back in court what is fair ba. TS pays 700 in child support now and he said the wife is spendthrift give the kid a lot of private enrichment and healthcare, not surprising if the wife is paying more for the kid. The wife has the doctor's diagnosis to support her, TS is on the losing end here. He might have to pay more monthly, but the judge might limit the extra claims.

Paying the extras and the lawyers? I think he is trying to reduce costs

 

[EDMW-Hates-Me]

Paying the extras and the lawyers? I think he is trying to reduce costs

He can try, but the judge might not rule in his favour.

 

[gilcrest]

time to get his ex wife to come to edmw and post her side of the story

This type of woman won't bother one, how TS got into this union is a mystery knowing how toxic the woman and the in laws cc an be

 

[duameatball]

time to get his ex wife to come to edmw and post her side of the story

Ya. I’m sure there’s a lot for her to say as well.

 

[zheng]

chatgpt generated story is it knn so long

 

[pushtopen]

+1 for holiday compo assignment

earn 4k take home 2.4k can drive car, pay alimony, renovation loan and for 2 children, still can go holiday, jskm

divorce proceedings no mention house used as gambling den and burn all the assholes near you since rs already so sour?

you need better story crafting




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[dilphinus]

+1 for holiday compo assignment

earn 4k take home 2.4k can drive car, pay alimony, renovation loan and for 2 children, still can go holiday, jskm

divorce proceedings no mention house used as gambling den and burn all the assholes near you since rs already so sour?

you need better story crafting




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Chiu picha his story later he (and maybe others) will say you are bullying him. Very typical here.

 

[krstupid]

+1 for holiday compo assignment

earn 4k take home 2.4k can drive car, pay alimony, renovation loan and for 2 children, still can go holiday, jskm

divorce proceedings no mention house used as gambling den and burn all the assholes near you since rs already so sour?

you need better story crafting




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Not to mention that i still able to have an affair.. but that was when i was earning little more.
when paying renovation loan no need pay child maintenance. Im able to save quite a bit as its a habit and never borrow to spend as well, complete opposite with my ex.
was threaten that if mentioned house use as gambling den then my baby will not have a house to stay anymore and he will suffer. divorce proceeding was crafted according to what she allow me to write or she will just drag on as long as possible to burn more money on my end as i need to pay for both side of the lawyer fee.
i have a business now run together with my wife. We somehow make ends meet. she was with me when i do not have anything and we build everything together and support each other.
It is important to find the right woman for marriage. I was stupid to continue a toxic marriage. Before marriage everything was promised to be better and not like how it supposed to be. All i ever wanted was a simple family live thats all which is what i have now. Rich or poor doesnt matter and live within means.
Thank you everyone for chipping in. I will be meeting my lawyer for advice and next step as well.

 

[Teyemittisi]

What have edmw has become.

A woman with a special need child asking her ex husband to split the cost of treatment. Additional $300 per month.

Edmwer advise the ex husband to migrate, or fight back not to pay.

Seriously...

*Ex-wife married a richer new husband is not in question. I dun think he is obligated to pay but some are ok to pay for step son though. Can't comment right or wrong.

why not? His whole life of happiness is at stake. By moving on and leaving , there’s a chance of happiness still for everyone. By staying, there’s zero chance of him being happy.

 

[Teyemittisi]

Not to mention that i still able to have an affair.. but that was when i was earning little more.
when paying renovation loan no need pay child maintenance. Im able to save quite a bit as its a habit and never borrow to spend as well, complete opposite with my ex.
was threaten that if mentioned house use as gambling den then my baby will not have a house to stay anymore and he will suffer. divorce proceeding was crafted according to what she allow me to write or she will just drag on as long as possible to burn more money on my end as i need to pay for both side of the lawyer fee.
i have a business now run together with my wife. We somehow make ends meet. she was with me when i do not have anything and we build everything together and support each other.
It is important to find the right woman for marriage. I was stupid to continue a toxic marriage. Before marriage everything was promised to be better and not like how it supposed to be. All i ever wanted was a simple family live thats all which is what i have now. Rich or poor doesnt matter and live within means.
Thank you everyone for chipping in. I will be meeting my lawyer for advice and next step as well.

Rich or poor does matter. No women will want to follow a poor guy. Let’s be realistic.

 

[StoicGuy]

why not? His whole life of happiness is at stake. By moving on and leaving , there’s a chance of happiness still for everyone. By staying, there’s zero chance of him being happy.

If you have a special need kid, you just have to face the fact to take care of him for life..