Am I actually a char siew

[lampano]

Ts do you have a life outside taking care of yr dad? I read alot of yr post all on parental care . Do you even social outside?


What happens if 1 day you don't have to anymore?

 

[neuroaxis]

Also it is not easy to persuade the elderly to do exercises etc

cuz sometimes in their mind, eg in my dad’s mind, I am the son (yes, he still rmb I’m the son), so they still have the mindset why should we listen to the children, should be the children listen to us what.

sometimes I know my helper also has difficulty , cuz in my dad’s eyes, she is just the helper, why should he listen to her

which is why sometimes I feel medical professionals come n talk to him or elderly is better . They may tend to want to listen to professionals more. But also depends, cuz my dad gan the therapists before also

My father is also in a similar situation, except for the tube feeding part. Same behavior like not wanting to exercise, scold the my domestic helper thinking why he should listen to her, reprimand the therapist and always act unwell before his medical appointment. It is taking quite a toll in the household.

So I feel you man.