My first date experience, how should I continue on?

[glarerder]

The ger might be thinking for first date this guy olreadi proved he can't let go of 40$.

Moving forward with this type won't be easy as there will be more expenses which obviously he won't bare to spend.

Same can be said of the woman she can't even see further than the $40 to voluntarily offer to pay and had to be asked to split.

Moving forward ts shouldn't continue with her as she's obviously not one who is "zi dong" so she'd probably stay silent when it comes to bigger expenses as well.

 

[bochup84]

I dont feel good saying that they can pay for next meal because it is like pressurising them to go out with you on a second date and makes you look despo

Don’t think too much. This is SOP.

And if you really like the girl, you need a thick skin.

 

[Sumimasen]

Expected reply from this g-username...chiu heypi jiu hao nobody can change a person's fixate perspective.

 

[Monstruo^]

Expected reply from this g-username...chiu heypi jiu hao nobody can change a person's fixate perspective.

Duno about his history but this kind of mindset very likely hard to find gf or even friend.

 

[quirkyhill]

ehhhhhhhhhhh i thought usually edmwers will applaud ts for splitting the bill and dodging a bullet

 

[glarerder]

Duno about his history but this kind of mindset very likely hard to find gf or even friend.

Times have changed. People have to change to progress. You realise why women's expectations keeps getting higher and higher? Because men keep giving in.

 

[randyap]

I brought a girl to raffles place for our first date. We had lunch at a chinese restaurant but I asked to split the bill instead of me paying everything. She said ok and she paynow me right on the spot.

After we finished eating I had to go to the toilet so she waited for me outside. 5 mins later after I came out I couldnt find her so I checked my phone and she said that she had to leave because of an emergency.

how should I continue from here? Do I still have chance for second date?

Think she is going for her second date of the day.

 

[Jaylim123]

Think she is going for her second date of the day.

Means she already have a date planned on the same day lah? Luckily i asked her to pay me back

 

[buttbERry]

bbfas dont think too much is the best

 

[Sumimasen]

bbfas dont think too much is the best

Ya lor think only during sch holiday now over liao

 

[PhantomOpera]

Should have just offered to pay, how much can you lose even if she is just dating you for a free meal?

This kind of kiasi/kiasu attitude will not get you many friends, let alone girlfriends.

In the first place, he chose the place himself. Then sim tia the $40 and ask date to pay. Really speechless I must say

 

[randyap]

I remember i met a thai girl at tokyo on my solo trip, and we hang out together for a while. All the meals she ownself will offer to split. Even hold hands liao. Before we say goodbye, we added each other on whatsapp and she saw my wife on the profile pic. Jitao got blocked forever.

 

[buttbERry]

Ya lor think only during sch holiday now over liao

how come some still no go sch?

 

[quirkyhill]

TS mc no go school today??
Hols over liao leh

lol to be fair, jc student haven't started yet

 

[Jaylim123]

how come some still no go sch?

These days sch students need to lock their phone in the locker. How can use phone in school?

 

[CaptchaCheebeh]

SG women expect most men to pay for dates.

But they do not apply this logic to AMDKs, handsome oppas, exciting bad boys with ang kongs, or host club guys.

Your sinkie girl will get angry if you even dare to ask about going dutch, but she won't blink an eye at dropping $400 at a host club or to chase some amdk/oppa that she thinks is a real catch.

If you have to pay for your date to secure the heart of your girl, know that you're part of the 90% majority of beta men in the eyes of your gf/wife that she settled for. You are not a real catch in her eyes, you are someone who offers her an acceptable transactional deal.

 

[TiedInsurer]

Expected reply from this g-username...chiu heypi jiu hao nobody can change a person's fixate perspective.

I mean, he's not wrong. He's not even asking the woman to treat. Just pay her own fair share only. This kind of woman will not be willing or able to pull her own weight financially in future. If TS not willing to accept, better to chop now.

Duno about his history but this kind of mindset very likely hard to find gf or even friend.

There's no shame in doing what is right for oneself. No matter if "right", means sticking to your principles and staying forever bachelor. Or becoming a simp to achieve the goal of becoming married. Just have to ask ownself which one is more important.

 

[Monstruo^]

Means she already have a date planned on the same day lah? Luckily i asked her to pay me back

You never fail to amuse us with each reply sia. Hahahaa

 

[Monstruo^]

SG women expect most men to pay for dates.

But they do not apply this logic to AMDKs, handsome oppas, exciting bad boys with ang kongs, or host club guys.

Your sinkie girl will get angry if you even dare to ask about going dutch, but she won't blink an eye at dropping $400 at a host club or to chase some amdk/oppa that she thinks is a real catch.

If you have to pay for your date to secure the heart of your girl, know that you're part of the 90% majority of beta men in the eyes of your gf/wife that she settled for. You are not a real catch in her eyes, you are someone who offers her an acceptable transactional deal.

If you dated enough with women from different cities and countries, you wouldn’t just say SG women.

 

[buttbERry]

These days sch students need to lock their phone in the locker. How can use phone in school?

dont go sch lor