My first date experience, how should I continue on?

[glarerder]

Actually ts should try to ask her out again, if she doesn't want to or doesn't reply you, you know your beliefs are not aligned then don't waste time to further text her already. Save your money to treat gf not just any girl.

 

[Sumimasen]

You cannot tell what his logic is from all his replies meh?

Actually at first I also duno his logic, until I read his replies to different people and there is an emphasis from all his replies and I concluded:

He is looking for a chiobu that he no need to spend money on at all, and that person will go on more dates with him. Subsequent dates I think also go dutch all the way. In a relationship liao I duno. High possibility to dutch also. He is very hard on his money.

Sound like lunch buddy

But even lunch kakis also sometimes will treat each other.

 

[Monstruo^]

Scared she was disappointed lor. But if she want to go with me on a second date maybe i can pay first and see whether she will auto pay me back later anot

Then why you scared she was disappointed, what you did?

So let’s say if she went on a second date with you ah, you said you consider to pay for the meal first, then see if she will auto pay you back? So you still think all the subsequent dates, if there were any, should be split 50-50?

Also, does it really hurt you a lot if you paid for the meal and next time you two take turns to pay for meals?

I’m interested in psychology and am trying to understand your brain and others’ brains, thought process, etc.

 

[Jaylim123]

Then why you scared she was disappointed, what you did?

So let’s say if she went on a second date with you ah, you said you consider to pay for the meal first, then see if she will auto pay you back? So you still think all the subsequent dates, if there were any, should be split 50-50?

Also, does it really hurt you a lot if you paid for the meal and next time you two take turns to pay for meals?

I’m interested in psychology and am trying to understand your brain and others’ brains, thought process, etc.

Depends on the cost lah. $10-$20 meal take turns to treat is okay for me, so if she willing to go on a subsequent date with me I will look for restaurants that fall under this range

 

[Monstruo^]

Aiya so mafan each bring own lunchbox meet at park picnic lah

Picnic at park also very romantic mah

I got did first dates with picnics. We went to Marina Barrage eat and fly kite and ride bicycle after. We each brought food we made and/or bought. Yes. They became my gfs. (Two of them)

First dates not necessary need to be confined to a mall or meal on table. I actually like it outdoor with activities. This is especially suitable for people like TS who don’t want to spend at all (but sure you wouldn’t do picnics in every date mah) Of course this was not in my mind as I enjoy picnics. Subsequently during relationships, also can do picnics sometimes.

Romantic or not ish not up for me to say nia. It is up to both. If both agree and enjoy such arrangement, why not.

Also got did picnic first dates overseas with AMDL. Scenery even better. Got became gfs too but not all. I got a lot of ideas for first dates.

 

[Monstruo^]

Depends on the cost lah. $10-$20 meal take turns to treat is okay for me, so if she willing to go on a subsequent date with me I will look for restaurants that fall under this range

Oh like that ah. If $10-$20 meal you ok to take turns to treat.

But for a price point of $40, you not ok liao? Why ah? Is it because you are afraid that when it comes to her turn to treat, she disappears? Then you lugi?

 

[Youngpang7]

Not gd or bad but sincere. You read their post in other threads, whether same or different views, they are sincere/have gd intention.

I see that’s good news!

 

[alex22]

I got did first dates with picnics. We went to Marina Barrage eat and fly kite and ride bicycle after. We each brought food we made and/or bought. Yes. They became my gfs. (Two of them)

First dates not necessary need to be confined to a mall or meal on table. I actually like it outdoor with activities. This is especially suitable for people like TS who don’t want to spend at all (but sure you wouldn’t do picnics in every date mah) Of course this was not in my mind as I enjoy picnics. Subsequently during relationships, also can do picnics sometimes.

Romantic or not ish not up for me to say nia. It is up to both. If both agree and enjoy such arrangement, why not.

Also got did picnic first dates overseas with AMDL. Scenery even better. Got became gfs too but not all. I got a lot of ideas for first dates.

Both, simultaneously?

 

[Can Or Not]

If I am a girl I confirm won’t go out with you again… 100%.

Ask limbu out for meal at restaurant, eat finish then say Ownself pay Ownself…

丢雷啦

 

[bochup84]

Told my wife about ts last night
She said he should not have splitting the bills with his date, very giam siap
Should have paid for her so that the chances of going for a 2nd date is much higher

Actually on second thought, it is also good that TS was being his true self lar. A date is for people to suss out if they are suitable (ie, mindset about money). At least the sister not misled at first date. Sister dodged a bullet?

 

[bochup84]

Scared she was disappointed lor. But if she want to go with me on a second date maybe i can pay first and see whether she will auto pay me back later anot

You scared she is disappointed with ....? So does that mean that you also think you have been ....?

Wah bro, you are a very interesting specimen of the male species.

 

[glarerder]

Actually on second thought, it is also good that TS was being his true self lar. A date is for people to suss out if they are suitable (ie, mindset about money). At least the sister not misled at first date. Sister dodged a bullet?

If the girl want to have a pleasant date without shocking surprises, she should also hold some responsibility and ask if the guy is treating or they're going dutch. And also ask where they're going for the dinner, and assess what's the food price to see if she'd be ok to pay if they go dutch. She can't assume the guy is treating and then feel unhappy she ended up got to pay for her own meal. It's easy to blame the guy but if she asked those questions and if she really mind whose paying, then there probably wouldn't be any meetup which saves both of them time. So it's bullet dodged for the guy as well.

 

[galmongie]

Then should go where for first date?

somewhere you can afford to pay for both pax

 

[bochup84]

You cannot tell what his logic is from all his replies meh?

Actually at first I also duno his logic, until I read his replies to different people and there is an emphasis from all his replies and I concluded:

He is looking for a chiobu that he no need to spend money on at all, and that person will go on more dates with him. Subsequent dates I think also go dutch all the way. In a relationship liao I duno. High possibility to dutch also. He is very hard on his money.

No bro. Now got update! TS says if the date goes out with him again, maybe this time he will pay first and see if she will pay him back!

 

[Song Bro]

谈钱伤感情。My dates usually is I offer to treat her first. Then she treat me back. Even if the values dun match, doesnt matter its the thoughts that count. But to straight out say dutch is sure reduce to lunch buddies liao. But if she doesnt ever try to reciprocate then sorry ler. No one likes to be treated like carrot. Especially when you feel the relationship is going nowhere. After maybe 3 times, then bye bye.

 

[Sumimasen]

Oh like that ah. If $10-$20 meal you ok to take turns to treat.

But for a price point of $40, you not ok liao? Why ah? Is it because you are afraid that when it comes to her turn to treat, she disappears? Then you lugi?

Might as well go further want ngiao jiu ngiao all the way... Pay to the exact amt of what each had ordered. Bky divide by 2. Simi happiness X2 sadness /2 jw

 

[Sumimasen]

No bro. Now got update! TS says if the date goes out with him again, maybe this time he will pay first and see if she will pay him back!

If his mind only worried about whether ger will auto pay back or foot the bill on the spot

Doesn't seems right leh other aspect not impt? Got common topic etc

 

[Jaylim123]

If the girl want to have a pleasant date without shocking surprises, she should also hold some responsibility and ask if the guy is treating or they're going dutch. And also ask where they're going for the dinner, and assess what's the food price to see if she'd be ok to pay if they go dutch. She can't assume the guy is treating and then feel unhappy she ended up got to pay for her own meal.

Yalor, like take it for granted like that

 

[glarerder]

Might as well go further want ngiao jiu ngiao all the way... Pay to the exact amt of what each had ordered. Bky divide by 2. Simi happiness X2 sadness /2 jw

Ngiao is expect to eat free food. Paying for yourself isn't ngiao. It's fair.

 

[Encouragesome1]

Yalor, like take it for granted like that

I think u should wait for girl to jio you out. Cos they will tell where n ask feedback from the group before deciding the place n decide who pays right from start. Usually for a mah old ppl crowd the one who jio is the one who pay. Those who earn less we Blanja them or we told them right from start it’s a treat from us. No take for granted no guessing. It’s all known from before the outing is firmed up