Unreasonable Neighbour

[Nickypigu]

How to throw waste at public tree

And people who raise things like so and so also not happy with you too are low class people

Let so and so say that.
So and so don't need spokesperson

Bun knife with 1 service app. Weaponise the authorities against them. If got hoarding also keep reporting. Bun knife until everyday got people find them.

 

[tinwhistle83]

Possible.

Dealing with people is always a headache especially when there is disagreement or unpleasant things to discuss about or have to compromise or convince the other party to change etc.

Like I said before it's a case of having to negotiate with the neighbor or be able to influence the neighbor to choose to change something they are used to doing.

I think you have to first get to be on good terms with them. I know this is difficult. But it is much harder to get someone who dislikes you to make concessions for you no matter what the law or the rules say and who is in the right.

Here's some suggestions:

Be a good listener Encourage others to talk about themselves, Show empathy, Respond in a way that shows you value their thoughts and experiences, Maintain eye contact, and Nod or respond appropriately.

Show appreciation

• Give honest, sincere compliments and gratitude
• Praise the slightest improvement
• Make the other person feel important

Avoid criticism

• Don't criticize, condemn, or complain
• Call attention to people's mistakes indirectly
• Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person
• Let the other person save face
• The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it

Become genuinely interested in others

• Smile
• Remember that a person's name is to that person the most important sound in any language
• Talk in terms of the other person's interests
• Find common interests or experiences that you can discuss

did previously. i also found that last 3 months then got mozzie issue
bought those zap machines and place around house and even gave one to them.

problem is my window too near the common wall. so if they spray near there, def can smell. too much to ask to at least let us know beforehand? this is not one off spray. its like on a regular basis spraying.

i dont think they are the crazy boomers kind. but its true that we are the one that are affected.

 

[trd_charlie]

so now my hub said monitor 1st. hopefully they will stop spraying if see no more mosquito

Your husband work for pap huh?

My sop towards neighbors is always talk and mediate politely for the first time. If shiit happens the second time I immediately go into war mode. Your mistake is thinking you can reason with unreasonable people. Some people are animals and you need to treat them as such.

 

[tinwhistle83]

haha sadly

Your husband work for pap huh?

My sop towards neighbors is always talk and mediate politely for the first time. If shiit happens the second time I immediately go into war mode. Your mistake is thinking you can reason with unreasonable people. Some people are animals and you need to treat them as such.

haha no. but i guess cos its something that only happened this 2 months so hoping when theres no more mosquito then they will naturally stop spraying. cos the 6months before that, no mosquito at all until the monsoon started in nov

 

[Kanko San]

Your husband work for pap huh?

My sop towards neighbors is always talk and mediate politely for the first time. If shiit happens the second time I immediately go into war mode. Your mistake is thinking you can reason with unreasonable people. Some people are animals and you need to treat them as such.

Not so easy.
Some people don't want to talk or communicate.
My noisy harassing neighbour, from Day 1, when I tried to talk at the car park.
The family can bluntly tell me.
"AS LONG AS YOU STAY BELOW ME, YOU GOT TO TOLETATE !!!"
They quickly install a Camera on their door that following weekend.

 

[Nickypigu]

their place is like dilapidated kind, 40 years never maintain kind. dont think dirty will hit them. noise, hmm the family always quarrelling. sometimes can hear quite loud.

i only know their weakness is money. cos their house paint peeling also dont want ask someone to come repaint. say too ex. just sometimes patch here a bit patch there a bit. can tell they are not cash rich kind. even $30 waste removal service also want to save

Complain that the house look like collapsing and risk to neighbours. Complain NEA mosquitoes risk because dilapidated. All can be done using 1 service app.

 

[Ethan_]

Erm, increase in mosquito activity nea no come check?

 

[tinwhistle83]

Erm, increase in mosquito activity nea no come check?

came before. i see got the nea black mosquito container outside their house and the lady neighbour said the officer said no mosquito when they come to check.

although container no, but we observe theres a few around but much better than 1 month ago cos we have the zap machines and can see got dead mosquito inside.

i have called nea yesterday and asked about their fogging activities and my concerns about mosquito. they say will check and let me know again.

 

[wesker_82]

You can spray insecticides also when their windows are wide open and the wind is blowing their direction. As for the rubbish dumping, you can record the evidence and report to the authorities.

 

[cyke69sg]

I agreed with you.
The rich will bully the poor or "see people".
Imagine if their neighbour family is those go in-and-out of jail type.
Do you think that family dare to bully ?
The one below gangster family will kill or harass back, which the most is go jail.
Only hope Karma is true, cos a man can be great, but he is not greater than GOD OR BUDDHA OR ALLAH.
I had seen pple gotten their Karma n I believed ( of course some will said coward thinking, let it be ).
Frankly speaking, I am up to my neck but my many friends told me, not worth it to use violence n think of the children sake.

Revenge. Vengeance. Justice.

I know what you mean.

But seriously, it is better to LET GO. The past is the past. Forget. Move on.

Practice gratitude for what now holds.

As for the future. Yes should plan to some extent. But when it starts to provoke anxiety that becomes difficult then you know time to focus on the now and practice mindfulness.

It is not natural. Our brains are wired to base on what happened in the past especially traumatic and painful difficult unhappy things. To protect self from ending up with same suffering. But this constant reminder from the Default Mode Network about the painful past itself becomes a problem to peaceful living in the now.

LET GO. MOVE ON.

 

[cyke69sg]

did previously. i also found that last 3 months then got mozzie issue
bought those zap machines and place around house and even gave one to them.

problem is my window too near the common wall. so if they spray near there, def can smell. too much to ask to at least let us know beforehand? this is not one off spray. its like on a regular basis spraying.

i dont think they are the crazy boomers kind. but its true that we are the one that are affected.

Sounds like you already know you have tried also.

You know they are unreasonable. Ngiau kind. Cannot talk logic. They just cannot stand listening to someone tell them what they should do kind.

Sorry. Nothing you do is going to work. You have to decide on your own terms what you can do yourself to mitigate and cope with this inconvenience.

Put it this way. Probably the problem isn't that serious. Imagine you live next door to drug house. And every now and then got people come drive by shoot at the neighbor house then also got stray bullet go into your house. Call police also no use they can't do anything. What you going to do? Say that finances difficult, kids go to nearby school so die die CANNOT MOVE?

It's up to you.

 

[cyke69sg]

Which brings me to say this.

If you have good neighbors, cherish them. Doesn't hurt to tell them. Words are free but are worth a lot.

Everyone take care and appreciate the peace the people you live next to bring to your life.

 

[anyhowsaysay]

imagine this hdb door is the common wall. my living room window is the window nearer to it. thats how close it is.

think people has a misconception when its landed means super big. mine small one.

your landed is rather small. those barely 1000sqft one?

My neighbour also got spray recent few months but now stopped. can spray is mostly at the backyard which hit my kitchen instead.
normally at night so not so much big deal and not hitting my other dining or living.

Now that neighbour sold their property so probably within next few months will get much renvoation noise (Theirs is quite bad condition one, those original but two floor)

 

[tinwhistle83]

actually singapore too law abidding sometimes hard to get things done. i know for a fact they sprayed in their compound so cannot say they break law.

but this is more of civic mindedness. its like if upstairs neighbour everyday hang wet laundry and drip on to your clothes, its not breaking the law mah. report authorities also there is so much they can do.

i also dun wan to end up like that famous neighbour feud a few years ago. not worth getting into a feud, and ruin your reputation. in fact the higher your position, you have more to lose than those who dont.

 

[tinwhistle83]

your landed is rather small. those barely 1000sqft one?

My neighbour also got spray recent few months but now stopped. can spray is mostly at the backyard which hit my kitchen instead.
normally at night so not so much big deal and not hitting my other dining or living.

Now that neighbour sold their property so probably within next few months will get much renvoation noise (Theirs is quite bad condition one, those original but two floor)

yes small one but 1000+ sq feet kind. inter terrace

 

[tootired]

haha sadly
haha no. but i guess cos its something that only happened this 2 months so hoping when theres no more mosquito then they will naturally stop spraying. cos the 6months before that, no mosquito at all until the monsoon started in nov

you mentioned their house is very old, can find any gutter on the building? also you find any location where water may be trapped, like covered drain or huge pile of leave? Mosquito may in fact originated from their home due to poor maintenance.


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[tinwhistle83]

you mentioned their house is very old, can find any gutter on the building? also you find any location where water may be trapped, like covered drain or huge pile of leave? Mosquito may in fact originated from their home due to poor maintenance.


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not really cos its interterrace so not much gutter.

but their backyard is quite unkempt. got once we climbed to our rooftop cos wanted to check on some roof issue. realised their whole backyard is all grass, weed, trees (alive or dead) etc.

Their front small garden also grow a bit of tree.

 

[jeffprobst]

Be like your neighbour to deter such neighbour. But you probably create a discord.

 

[tinwhistle83]

actually these boomers or rather PG generation kind, are quite self entitled.

i rem when we first moved in a few months, got another elderly man prob 70s or 80s, he seem to stay around the landed neighbourhood. on a sun afternoon when i wanted to send my kids for lesson, he seem to be taking picture/video of my car while i was about to board my car. i had already started my car engine as we were about to go off with my kids in it but my elder one suddenly said he left the bag on the porch (which is 5m away) so i came out and take, and reentered the car. then as i was about to reenter, this old man commented my car very noisy. i said my car is stock condition and original. no alteration done. this is what it is. my car is loud cos its a v8 or v6 engine. in my heart i was thinking u want you take loh, go check with LTA. LTA is the one that approved such vehicles to be sold in the 1st place. its original. anyway there are a lot more houses there that are much bigger than mine, detached and semiD. confirm a lot of rich people there own ferrari or lambo. then those how?

realised such generation people, even they stay landed but cos they bought it when it was very cheap but they not much cash now, kind of self entitled. think their generation is always right.

please dont say humble brag. my intention is not that. but its funny how i realise same traits across such this generation of people. funny thing is my hub also said his dad is this kind of trait also