Actually most friendships dun last

[wanderandwondered]

From my understanding, this concept first come from Taoism school of thought

This is from Zhuang Zi (The Book of Zhuang Zi), a collection of the works by Zhuang Zi (c. 369-286 BC), also known as Zhuang Zhou, a writer and major Daoist philosopher of the Warring States Period.

http://keywords.china.org.cn/m/2022-10/13/content_78463706.html

 

[newborn1000]

all relationships are exchange of value & benefit nia. how many actually maintain a friendship coz they genuinely like each other? who has the time & energy for that?

knowing this, i stopped investing in ppl.

If got common interest , no need to invest

 

[wanderandwondered]

These boomers really can outlast a lot of younger people....
Maybe their network and social interaction with their own peers is what kept them alive and kicking.

More seniors in Singapore calling helpline over loneliness and mental health concerns: Charity

https://www.straitstimes.com/singap...ne-over-loneliness-and-mental-health-concerns

 

[huattoeat]

sinkies really all one kind one.

I see some ppl try to make effort to catch up, some say purposely test friendship, some purposely give short replies.

Why want to self pwn urself?

 

[Tloslm]

This is from Zhuang Zi (The Book of Zhuang Zi), a collection of the works by Zhuang Zi (c. 369-286 BC), also known as Zhuang Zhou, a writer and major Daoist philosopher of the Warring States Period.

http://keywords.china.org.cn/m/2022-10/13/content_78463706.html

Zhuang zi is under Tao

 

[qhong61]

I have opposite problem. I rather have only that few friends. Sometimes, if meet my friends too often, I can feel tired from having to socialize so much.

Why meet often

 

[PikaPika33]

the only ever last ing bond is between a normal parents and child

and even that is not forever as one party surely go first

 

[dnsfpl]

everyone only got 24 hours a day

8 hours sleep 8 hours work 3 hours travel makan bath etc
if got dependant, eg kids or elderly to take care, confirm no time for self liao

if not only left 5 hours to do what you wanna do
end of the day, how you prioritize the friendship

same like work, is not you got no time
is you are not my priority haha

 

[begintoend]

usually i feel i am the one who drifted away who once i know.

first i dont know if i should call them out because i am sure they are busy with their own world..

to avoid get reject.. i just reject them auto haha

Wow.. U are honest and I will think your reaction is quite true.
At least u dun give excuses say its the other party having no intent.

 

[harky]

Wow.. U are honest and I will think your reaction is quite true.
At least u dun give excuses say its the other party having no intent.

Therefore.. I wait for them to ask me out lor..

I more free thn them....
Most the tine they reject me de.

U knw the person roughly u know their lifestyle.

 

[Sumimasen]

After wedding normally no more contact

Ang bao give too little?

 

[Kanko San]

the only ever last ing bond is between a normal parents and child

and even that is not forever as one party surely go first

If parent got money n don't gv child..see got friends or not

 

[PikaPika33]

If parent got money n don't gv child..see got friends or not

I said normal bond

 

[Kanko San]

Ang bao give too little?

Once a long time distance relative invited our whole sibling total 4.
Gi there gv ang pow.
Then they don't even give photo or contact.

 

[qhong61]

Ang bao give too little?

Will contact again when their children getting married.

 

[I_am_bored]

got ard 20 friends that will keep regular contact. all guys.

 

[I_am_bored]

After gotten married and have kids, my world is filled with work, wife, kids, my parents and hardly even have time for my hobbies. Meeting up with friends will unavoidably talked about kids. For those who have kids, they resonated well. For those who are single, hard to discuss more... So, it's natural that singles will get alienated ....

My group of friends got single, dinks, those with kids. Still can catch up very well, and we make it a point not to talk about kids and family when we meet up. Just guys talk, guys go thro NS, got common guys topics.

what’s so hard?

 

[coyote]

My group of friends got single, dinks, those with kids. Still can catch up very well, and we make it a point not to talk about kids and family when we meet up. Just guys talk, guys go thro NS, got common guys topics.

what’s so hard?

 

[Milodrink]

After wedding normally no more contact

Then if Bbfa 50yo 40yo then marry how to have 90 tables banquet

 

[camoguysg]

I guess it depends and on what level of understanding. In life there are bound to have friends who eventually fade away, and some still stick by our side. Cannot help it one.