My first date experience, how should I continue on?

[d5dude]

1st Class Honours NUS Comp Science.

$40 expensive ..... please

This thread is sadder than I thought if this is true.

Being a turbo miser wont get you anywhere in life.

 

[Encouragesome1]

I need to think and draft my message very carefully before sending

Huh need to think so much so hard meh? just ask directly- can ok, can’t ok too.

hello would you like to go on a lunch/ dinner / coffee date with me at _ (place) on _ (date day timing)? I like to blanja you.

 

[Monstruo^]

Huh need to think so much so hard meh? just ask directly- can ok, can’t ok too.

hello would you like to go on a lunch/ dinner / coffee date with me at _ (place) on _ (date day timing)? I like to blanja you.

Eh ah mah, wrong liao. The last line no need.
不要害他失去$10-$20钱可以吗

He dont want to blanja her. He said he will pretend to pay first, and see whether the girl will PayNow him back. The meal for the second date he set at $10-$20. Even if it is $10, he also not willing to blanja k.

 

[Dr Stephen Strange]

How on earth does this loser thread end up becoming a mega thread?

 

[glarerder]

if you nt v handsome or rich then dont aim those chio bu tt make your kkb excited... you aim those plain janes with gd heart... your kkb will be softer bt your life will be easier.... one day you will knw i am speaking wisdom even though it sound like bull sheet....

Not don't aim. Should be work hard to meet your own expectation. Don't lower your expectation to the level where you deceive yourself to accept the person whom you think is not chio but actually is cos you're not handsome. That way you end up becoming the unhappy salary man who may end up going to ktv cos wife not chio but ish you choose de cos you lower your expectation! Instead of that, work hard to be the handsome the chio aim for.

 

[Big Chicken]

What you intend to write? You write sth first here and we edit. Lol

I help TS write.

“Hi just wondering if you’d also reimburse me my share of the lunch bill since it didn’t work out.”

 

[arsenalfc85]

So 现实 right? Now what era already still dont want to go dutch

better still, now women's earning power are on par or even more than men

 

[OddEye]

Facepalm thread. TS better move on, this lady has labelled you fail already

 

[glarerder]

better still, now women's earning power are on par or even more than men

That's why this is the era of singlehood. Let's wait for the stats last year to see if there is yet another drop in marriage rate.

 

[sAVaGEmP5]

i remember my 7th gf, i accidentally flashed my nav on my mobile brokerage account.

After tt usually ends in **** b4 i get for my 8th.

rinse and repeat

 

[kyokoto]

I brought a girl to raffles place for our first date. We had lunch at a chinese restaurant but I asked to split the bill instead of me paying everything. She said ok and she paynow me right on the spot.

After we finished eating I had to go to the toilet so she waited for me outside. 5 mins later after I came out I couldnt find her so I checked my phone and she said that she had to leave because of an emergency.

how should I continue from here? Do I still have chance for second date?

Gian png, stay single better bruh. But then again, also good... you make it easy mode for other men out there who're single.

 

[Monstruo^]

I help TS write.

“Hi just wondering if you’d also reimburse me my share of the lunch bill since it didn’t work out.”

Haha. That girl PayNow him on the spot during that date liao because he asked for it. So no reimbursement

Maybe he will text:
Hi I hope you really enjoy my company that day. How are you? Are you free to go out this Saturday evening at Saizeriya? The dinner will be $10 per person. I hope after I pay first, you can auto PayNow me back the $10 immediately on the spot so that you will leave a good impression in my heart and we can go out again the 3rd time.

 

[st0rm5cap3]

@Jaylim123 , come. Uncle teach u.
1. If on the 1st date, u feel the girl got potential (looks attractive, personality not bad, can click) then don't miserly the $50-100. Be generous & treat the girl. If the girl is decent & interested in you, she will offer to buy desserts, treat u to a movie or pay for the next date! Then u know the girl not a gold digger. (if don't click, not attractive, then okay to ask to split bill, since even if she has bad impression of u, it's no loss to u)

2. If $50-100 for a date u also need to count carefully because your finance situation not good, then pls upskill yourself - invest, get better job.. Because girls, even those good personality not gold digger type, also want guys with some financial security.

3. But if ur financial situation ok, but its this bad habit of counting pennies - eg I treat u $50, u must treat me back $50, then please change ur mindset. U keep counting pennies, u will make both u and the girl miserable. Be generous lah. As long as got reciprocate, means the girl is decent. Doesn't have to be equal monetary value.

4. If girl is decent & attractive to u and u want a 2nd date. Just ask her. Don't need to jjww on Edmw, and tear ur hair out wondering if and when she will ask. No Edmwers can read her mind. If she accepts 2nd date, u know u got chance. If she offers to buy u something becos u paid for 1st date, then u know this is a decent girl.

Go forth and ask! No scared. At most rejection only. And don't be miserly.

 

[K202020K]

The bad boys don't subscribe to that rule. And they get girls frequently

Because they're willing to splurge to impress the ladies lah ... already said that in life, no money no honey.. Chinese say "有钱能使鬼推磨" ... where got want to date people but don't want to spend money? After people have eaten then ask them to pay for themselves.. like that is acceptable??

 

[CaptchaCheebeh]

100% agree!

When i met my wife, she knew I am only a normal salary worker.
She doesn't mind at all, even having meals at the hawker centre and she does not mind at all I DO NOT have a car. Not even having a driving license!

She works as an expat in sg and her family back home has a few cars and lives in a big landed property. She doesn't even mind she drives and brings me around when I visit her back in her home country.

Power lah, how did you land such a good catch. Must teach the single bros here.

 

[toolbox03]

 

[HirotoXeno]

I need to think and draft my message very carefully before sending

Maybe she edmwer armchio u liao..

 

[HirotoXeno]

Haha. That girl PayNow him on the spot during that date liao because he asked for it. So no reimbursement

Maybe he will text:
Hi I hope you really enjoy my company that day. How are you? Are you free to go out this Saturday evening at Saizeriya? The dinner will be $10 per person. I hope after I pay first, you can auto PayNow me back the $10 immediately on the spot so that you will leave a good impression in my heart and we can go out again the 3rd time.

Maybe go amk eat the $2 chicken rice better.. need pay back also $2?